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Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 10:16:34 AM   
Asherscorp1


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Status: offline 		How many of you would be comfortable with your sub/slave topping someone else? Specifically if you were constantly out of town on business trips and your sub wanted to try their Dom side out with another partner (not sexually) would you consider that?

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 11:29:15 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Master is very comfortable with me topping someone else. If he were out of town: there are different criteria. With a woman, he'd probably be okay with it as long as he knew about it. With a man, there's no way unless that man was very well known to him. He tends to be very protective of me and would be concerned about my safety.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 11:46:53 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Most of.mine have and do. As long as they are open and honest its all fine with me. I have dated Pro-dommes and even someone who works for kink.com. For me its a turn knowing that men grovel at their feet but they serve me.

I am wierd, never worried about another man stealing my woman...but do have a bit of insecurity about them leaving.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 12:06:12 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Not me. No interest. I doubt he'd go for it either.

I would suggest you plan to play in public however, more security for you. And if the guy isn't willing to join the local community, are you sure you want to be alone with him?


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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 12:18:32 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I don't know if he'd be comfortable or not since it's not something we ever discuss since he knows I have zero interest in the other side. I couldn't bring myself to top someone no matter how hard I tried. It's just makes me feel ill at the very thought.



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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 12:52:09 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I have no problem with it, though I do like to know who the playmates are. I have never had an issue with switches.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 1:24:20 PM   
LaTigresse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Asherscorp1

How many of you would be comfortable with your sub/slave topping someone else? Specifically if you were constantly out of town on business trips and your sub wanted to try their Dom side out with another partner (not sexually) would you consider that?


I am not sure what me being out of town would have to do with anything.

I am totally cool with a switch as long as she doesn't forget who owns her switchy ass.


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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 1:36:37 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
For me its a turn on knowing that men grovel at their feet but they serve me.

That's how Master feels as well.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 4:36:27 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		I'm fine with him topping.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 5:39:49 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		It would depend on which sub. I have a couple that do and it doesn't bother me. There is one that is a bit of a slut and would end up doing something stupid(he and I both know this) so I would rather he didn't. I have tried to get the livein in to but the only person he ever wants to try with is me and when I growl, say ouch, stop, damnit, etc. he runs away like he thinks I'm going to kill him.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 7:15:56 PM   
Buzzzz


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Status: offline 		I encourage whoever I am with to do as they feel. No problems or jealousy over here.. Like Michael says, it is a turn on for me also.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 8:19:48 PM   
RaspberryLemon


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Status: offline 		Pretty specific question. It's not something that's ever come up with us, since it isn't something I'm interested in at all. But I know him well enough that I can say that it would absolutely be something not acceptable to him. To us, there is no non-sexual "play." So that's a definite no from my Master.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/14/2011 8:35:16 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		I asked. He said ... "you probably could, but you wont." I take that as a no.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/15/2011 8:41:44 AM   
MsKhiki


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Status: offline 		I personally have no problem with it, as long as it's all done with my permission and knowledge. My female slave is an excellent Top and quite a sadist; W/we've even co-Topped before.

As with everything else in M/s-D/s it's one of those situations unique to each couple/family/household and has to be decided by the Dominant in the relationship. Also, it's important to distinguish Topping from Dominating/Owning.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/15/2011 9:16:35 AM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		i CAN top quite well. I don't get anything out of it other than knowing the other person is enjoying it so i don't do it for just anyone.

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RE: Could your sub top? - 11/15/2011 10:58:01 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		He wouldn't mind but I have no interest. I get all my need to express dominance met at work.

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