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DarkSteven -> RE: Ahh... again.. (11/23/2011 5:46:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 Ringme008, I get where you're coming from. It's hard being a male sub searching for a Domme. However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses". Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate. Try talking to potential Dommes like regular people. Don't call them "Ma'am", or "Mistress", or any other title. Just talk to them like they're a regular person. Try having normal conversations, rather than talking about BDSM and going into "sub-mode" right away. If you can make a vanilla connection first, the kinky connection is more likely to follow. Good luck in your search. -Roch Giving you some perspective, OP, Rochsub is one of the malesubs that the Dommes here love to talk with. He's got a sense of humor, he writes well, and his conversation is enjoyable. In contrast, I looked at your profile. it says "I am a submissive. I want a Dominant woman." And then it listed all the fetishes you want. If you want a porno, watch a porno. If you want a person, rewrite your profile.

Suleiman -> RE: Ahh... again.. (11/23/2011 12:34:20 PM)
I took a glance at your profile, ringme, and it seems you've followed some of the advice you've gotten here. I have another that I think might help: Practice. Writing is a skill. You have to practice it. When people say things like "don't use form letters", "you have to engage the other person", et cetra, what they are actually saying is that you need to polish your skills as a writer. This place is an essentially text-based society. Words are worth gold if you hope to attract attention. Here's a suggestion, take it or leave it as you will: head on over to the creative writing section. Write something. Take those fantasies you have and put them in their proper context. Read what others are writing. Don't just look at their ideas - look at HOW they use their words to communicate those ideas. Use the journal thats part of your profile. Write something every day. Even just a few words. Practice, practice, practice.

Suleiman -> RE: Ahh... again.. (11/23/2011 12:45:30 PM)
One more thing, before I forget: You're probably going to recieve criticism regarding your grammar. Indian English is as idiomatically distinct as American English. In an international forum like this one, it is very easy to forget that dialect and idiom can vary widely while still being technically correct. One of the things you'll need to practice is a slightly less formal use of sentenc structure. People are often more forgiving of an inarticulate sentence that uses a familiar turn of phrase, than they are of a technically perfect sentence which seems stiff or wooden. Don't give up!

ringme008 -> RE: Ahh... again.. (11/24/2011 1:46:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Suleiman One more thing, before I forget: You're probably going to recieve criticism regarding your grammar. Indian English is as idiomatically distinct as American English. In an international forum like this one, it is very easy to forget that dialect and idiom can vary widely while still being technically correct. One of the things you'll need to practice is a slightly less formal use of sentenc structure. People are often more forgiving of an inarticulate sentence that uses a familiar turn of phrase, than they are of a technically perfect sentence which seems stiff or wooden. Don't give up! yes.. you are correct on that one. Its a very good point too. some people here do find it difficult to grasp what i mean in a sentence. . Even I find it difficult to read fast, what i have written only some days before. I need to practice more on my writing. Having said that, i actually dint get this part People are often more forgiving of an inarticulate sentence that uses a familiar turn of phrase, than they are of a technically perfect sentence which seems stiff or wooden. do you mean i should be more informal in my writing.? and yes. I had editing my profile taking advice from this thread. Thank you all for that [:D]

ringme008 -> RE: Ahh... again.. (11/24/2011 1:50:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 Ringme008, I get where you're coming from. It's hard being a male sub searching for a Domme. However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses". Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate. Try talking to potential Dommes like regular people. Don't call them "Ma'am", or "Mistress", or any other title. Just talk to them like they're a regular person. Try having normal conversations, rather than talking about BDSM and going into "sub-mode" right away. If you can make a vanilla connection first, the kinky connection is more likely to follow. Good luck in your search. -Roch Giving you some perspective, OP, Rochsub is one of the malesubs that the Dommes here love to talk with. He's got a sense of humor, he writes well, and his conversation is enjoyable. In contrast, I looked at your profile. it says "I am a submissive. I want a Dominant woman." And then it listed all the fetishes you want. If you want a porno, watch a porno. If you want a person, rewrite your profile. I have changed my profile since i started this thread. It would be great if you could take a look again n let me know what you think.

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