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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Ringme008,
I get where you're coming from.  It's hard being a male sub searching for a Domme.  However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses".  Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate.

Try talking to potential Dommes like regular people.  Don't call them "Ma'am", or "Mistress", or any other title.  Just talk to them like they're a regular person.

Try having normal conversations, rather than talking about BDSM and going into "sub-mode" right away.  If you can make a vanilla connection first, the kinky connection is more likely to follow.

Good luck in your search.
-Roch

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ORIGINAL: Suleiman

One more thing, before I forget:

You're probably going to recieve criticism regarding your grammar. Indian English is as idiomatically distinct as American English. In an international forum like this one, it is very easy to forget that dialect and idiom can vary widely while still being technically correct. One of the things you'll need to practice is a slightly less formal use of sentenc structure. People are often more forgiving of an inarticulate sentence that uses a familiar turn of phrase, than they are of a technically perfect sentence which seems stiff or wooden.

Don't give up!

People are often more forgiving of an inarticulate sentence that uses a familiar turn of phrase, than they are of a technically perfect sentence which seems stiff or wooden.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Ringme008,
I get where you're coming from.  It's hard being a male sub searching for a Domme.  However, you should drop the "Ma'ams" and "Bowing to all of the Goddesses".  Using that kind of language in a room full of people that you've never met makes you sound either silly or desperate.

Try talking to potential Dommes like regular people.  Don't call them "Ma'am", or "Mistress", or any other title.  Just talk to them like they're a regular person.

Try having normal conversations, rather than talking about BDSM and going into "sub-mode" right away.  If you can make a vanilla connection first, the kinky connection is more likely to follow.

Good luck in your search.
-Roch

Giving you some perspective, OP, Rochsub is one of the malesubs that the Dommes here love to talk with.  He's got a sense of humor, he writes well, and his conversation is enjoyable.

In contrast, I looked at your profile.  it says "I am a submissive.  I want a Dominant woman."  And then it listed all the fetishes you want.

If you want a porno, watch a porno.  If you want a person, rewrite your profile.