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Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 1:11:19 AM   
atfemalesfeet


Posts: 8
Joined: 5/26/2006
Status: offline 		I contacted some ladies but none of them accepted me.
I want to accept this lifestyle seriously. But how I can do it if nobody is willing to walk me through.
Please let me prove myself. I can go for golden showers tooo.
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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 7:47:18 AM   
LadyJulieAnn


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Status: offline 		May I ask why you think mentioning your oral skills and golden showers will attract someone who will want you as a "forever slave"?  What does being a slave mean to you?  What will you offer a Domme?  Those are some of things that many of the serious Dommes think about when reading a profile.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 9:21:36 AM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

May I ask why you think mentioning your oral skills and golden showers will attract someone who will want you as a "forever slave"? What does being a slave mean to you? What will you offer a Domme? Those are some of things that many of the serious Dommes think about when reading a profile.

Be well,
Julie


I tried to explain that to him on the other side when he contacted me, Julie. Sometimes we just have to wait until they're open to the message. lol

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 12:04:57 PM   
Saint


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Status: offline 		Perhaps find a local House for Mentorship for starters. Or if you dont want to do that, seriously give up looking and just get out and meet people. Go to munches, events, play parties, etc.etc. Never stop learning, do all you can to improve yourself, and when you least expect it, someone will find you. I know people who have been looking for 10 years or more, then suddenly when they give up and stop looking, the right person enters their life. Give it a try.

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 1:20:47 PM   
LadyAlexa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: atfemalesfeet

I contacted some ladies but none of them accepted me.
I want to accept this lifestyle seriously. But how I can do it if nobody is willing to walk me through.
Please let me prove myself. I can go for golden showers tooo.




1. write more about yourself in your profile to make a Domme want to consider you.

2. get out to meet others socially within your local D/s community.

3.  always be considerate not just with Dommes but with subs, and not just when a Domme is around that you are trying to impress.

4. Learn how to cook, clean, massage, do handywork, add that to your profile.  

Forget about that oral servitude stuff.  Most Dommes can get that anywhere and just don't want it from anyone...unless they are the ones who...well that is for another thread.   Get with reality cause you don't get lemonade from sqeezing oranges.

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 1:36:03 PM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		If I may suggest,...being new , your eagerness to show your true value to a woman is honorable. Writing about ourselves can be very hard to do . Often, the Doms out here( I don't mean to insult anyone here) our constantly being emailed by admirers local and afar.  Sometimes the quanity of emails can take a while to respond to. So many will screen the emails for intelligent and well meaning messages focused on their interest that they posted in their profiles. So clearly, you must educate yourself to the desires of the Doms you are contacting .

Reading your first profile, you really didn't share all that much about yourself. Are you trying to be a full time slave/sub or just looking to play occassionally? A Mistress is a charrished and honorable postion . Remember always they are a magnet for so many admirers .That the only way to stand above the rest is what you have to offer. Your profile  talks about what you like and not what YOU can do for a Mistress! Your profile is the first impression anyone will have of you ..so make sure it shows your best side.. Good luck 

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 1:49:18 PM   
KarbonCopy


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Status: offline 		Well you know what they say. If at first you dont succeed.

Give up.


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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/27/2006 2:36:37 PM   
LadyAlexa


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KarbonCopy

Well you know what they say. If at first you dont succeed.

Give up.



silly silly you

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/28/2006 7:38:19 AM   
atfemalesfeet


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Status: offline 		Thank you very much for your guidance.
I agree , I was little excited after seeing this site.  The reason is I was looking for such relationship for long and all of a sudden this treasure opened in front of me. I am really sorry if I have troubled you with my requests.  But these are my first steps, if I don't go wrong or fall down, how would I be successful. I am glad that you were there to correct me.
I have updated my profile. If you have any suggestions please let me know.

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/28/2006 10:41:31 AM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: atfemalesfeet

I have updated my profile. If you have any suggestions please let me know.



Much better, and nice choice of picture!


** Edited to add I have a thing about water. lol

< Message edited by Misstoyou -- 5/28/2006 10:42:19 AM >

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 5/29/2006 3:58:36 AM   
forluvofmaria


Posts: 59
Joined: 5/16/2006
From: mountains of MD
Status: offline 		An improved Profile, that will help.......First and foremost Before you ever contact any Dommes...1. Read their Whole profile Before you contact them, if there is no points of interest you can relate to/with them on, check the next one. Too many subs/slaves look at a picture and only the interests section and Do not have anything in common with what a Domme is seeking before they contact and then its too late you have Lost the interest and ....(Any well written letter that shows they have read MY profile will at least get a response back even if it is a No thank you... good luck.)
2. To gain a little/any experience seek a Pro Domme, being Very careful to find one that is able/willing to show you the basics of what you are seeking...
Or Perhaps, check with some Dom couples that might be willing to train you. Just bear in mind what one Dom/Domme seeks isn't a unverisal situation. What likes/dislikes varies per any individual....

Just a few thoughts to consider.......

Edited to include:
Check LadyHugs' answer at this "slave Positions...http://www.collarchat.com/Male_Slave_Positions%3F%3F%3F/m_384710/tm.htm. Good Post as always by Her...

< Message edited by forluvofmaria -- 5/29/2006 4:14:24 AM >

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 6/2/2006 12:50:00 PM   
atfemalesfeet


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Status: offline 		Are there any events organised in Bay Area, California?
How do I meet people and enrich my experience.?
As  Saint had mentioned, where to I find House of Mentorship in california?

I would be highly obliged if somebody gives information regarding this.


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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 6/2/2006 12:53:52 PM   
Moloch


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Joined: 6/25/2005
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quote:

ORIGINAL: atfemalesfeet

I contacted some ladies but none of them accepted me.
I want to accept this lifestyle seriously. But how I can do it if nobody is willing to walk me through.
Please let me prove myself. I can go for golden showers tooo.



Buy one on EBay

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RE: Hello How to find a mistress - 6/2/2006 8:05:00 PM   
MisPandora


Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
Status: offline 		Becoming involved in your local community, and reaching outside of just an online site to learn about BDSM (like attending a conference, picking up scene-related books or taking classes at a local fetish shop) shows a domina that you're invested in the lifestyle for more than what yanks your crank.  It shows sincerity and interest beyond your own personal gratification.

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"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

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