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mstmast -> question (11/17/2011 11:46:01 AM)
hello all i have question for slaves and sub If you are a married man or woman slave. who will respect more your husband or wife / master or mistress

searching4mysir -> RE: question (11/17/2011 12:08:40 PM)
My master is my (future) husband. I'm monogamous and don't play outside of my relationship.

myotherself -> RE: question (11/17/2011 12:11:17 PM)
why would you have to respect one more than the other?

Killerangel -> RE: question (11/17/2011 12:14:33 PM)
If I were married and had two different people in these two roles, in the end I'd respect my husband more. I tend to be very traditional in my outlook, and if I were married I'd have gone into that with the idea that it was for life. That tends to cancel out anything less.

littlewonder -> RE: question (11/17/2011 1:14:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel If I were married and had two different people in these two roles, in the end I'd respect my husband more. I tend to be very traditional in my outlook, and if I were married I'd have gone into that with the idea that it was for life. That tends to cancel out anything less. This

LafayetteLady -> RE: question (11/17/2011 3:57:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel If I were married and had two different people in these two roles, in the end I'd respect my husband more. I tend to be very traditional in my outlook, and if I were married I'd have gone into that with the idea that it was for life. That tends to cancel out anything less. This Also consider that when one marries, they agree to put that person above all others (except their children, theoretically). If one is a married slave (with consent of the spouse), is it fair or reasonable of the master to demand their time and attention over the spouse? For instance, is it fair for a master to tell a slave they should miss spending a holiday with their spouse because the master "requires" their service at this time? If the master does that, they are an ass. If the slave agrees to it, their marriage is not likely to survive. ETA: A marriage is always, or should always be the primary relationship. Which means that when push comes to shove, that dominant/master is going to come second. You list as a master, so is that what you want? To know you can or eventually might come second?

RaspberryLemon -> RE: question (11/17/2011 4:23:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: searching4mysir My master is my (future) husband. I'm monogamous and don't play outside of my relationship. This. It's as simple as that.

DesFIP -> RE: question (11/17/2011 6:18:23 PM)
If you are honest with your spouse and your dominant, then there shouldn't be a problem. Both of them should want you to be happy. Which requires them talking to each other. Lady Pact is a married dominant and her sub is also married. There is constant communication between all so that there are no conflicts. She's insistent on him keeping his marriage strong, and as a result, her orders frequently are for the benefit of his marriage. You might benefit by searching out her posts on the topic and seeing how such a relationship can thrive when everyone puts each others best interests first. There is no need for these relationships to conflict and be adversarial if you've picked healthy and secure partners.

SoulAlloy -> RE: question (11/18/2011 1:56:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: ORIGINAL: Killerangel If I were married and had two different people in these two roles, in the end I'd respect my husband more. I tend to be very traditional in my outlook, and if I were married I'd have gone into that with the idea that it was for life. That tends to cancel out anything less. This Ditto

OsideGirl -> RE: question (11/18/2011 2:05:43 PM)
Master is my husband, so it's a moot point for me.

DarkSteven -> RE: question (11/18/2011 5:30:06 PM)
If I were to get involved with a mess like this, I'd make damn sure that it was clear who was in charge when. I can't imagine taking a married woman who was living with another man, etc., though.

Lucylastic -> RE: question (11/18/2011 5:35:34 PM)
I respect his marriage, he respects mine, I respect his spouse, he respects mine. If it stops being mutual, then it will be worked on together, all four opinions are as valid and respected.

peppermint -> RE: question (11/18/2011 6:27:02 PM)
Since I was born monogamous there would never be a Master outside of the marriage.

coookie -> RE: question (11/18/2011 7:01:15 PM)
The primary relationship (husband/wife) is the core which will always be maintained. Hopefully the M/s relationship outside of that can be worked around that.

mstmast -> RE: question (11/21/2011 1:15:13 AM)
then i can say all of you consistent to be the marriage come first

BitaTruble -> RE: question (11/21/2011 1:31:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mstmast hello all i have question for slaves and sub If you are a married man or woman slave. who will respect more your husband or wife / master or mistress I don't quantify my respect for someone. They either have it or they don't. I put things this way; I woud wear the collar of someone I wouldn't marry but I would never marry someone whose collar I wouldn't wear.

stellauk -> RE: question (11/21/2011 4:24:23 AM)
I respect myself first and foremost and part of this is a commitment I keep to upholding my own hierarchy of moral values. This commitment is something I reflect in my thinking, behaviour and interactions with others as much as possible and endeavour to afford them the same degree of respect and commitment. I don't respect other people on the basis of their importance or the role they play in my life, I respect them because they are human beings.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: question (11/21/2011 6:50:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mstmast i have question for slaves and sub If you are a married man or woman slave. who will respect more your husband or wife / master or mistress The reality is that if you are married, your wife is the "Domme". Any lifestyle or pro-Domme who has dealt with a married sub quickly comes to realize this. Initially, the Domme may THINK she is in charge. But in reality, the married sub can usually only meet when he can sneak away from his wife. He can only talk on the phone when his wife is not around. He can only obey commands that won't be obvious to his wife. The Domme can't leave any marks on him that will be visible to his wife. In other words, the wife is in charge. Everything revolves around HER. Therefore, SHE is the TRUE Domme, since she's clearly the one in charge. The other Domme is just role playing. There are some exceptions to this rule. There are married subs whose spouses know about, and agree to allow, an outside Domme. But these cases are usually the exception. Most married subs are sneaking around behind their wife's back. I don't know what country you're in, but in America, if you piss off your wife too much by seeing another woman (a Domme), your wife can divorce you and take half of your money and other assets. The fear of that usually trumps any power that a Domme holds. [;)]

Asherscorp1 -> RE: question (11/22/2011 10:07:10 PM)
I couldn't have a marriage and a completely seperate D/s relationship. My husband is my Master. If someone else ever came into our lives as my Dom too I don't think I could possibly have the same respect for them as for my husband who embodies two integral roles in my life. And honestly I don't ever see that happening as I have no desire to be a submissive for multiple people and M has no desire to share my submission with others.

atursvcMaam -> RE: question (11/23/2011 5:42:32 AM)
I can't answer for your situation, but the best solution for you would be to get both women into a neutral setting, like a coffee shop or restaurant, and ask them. They will almost definitely give you an answer, but i can not promise you will like it.

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