Greetings from a total fish out of water

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jerhende -> Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/21/2011 10:17:25 PM)
So, I'm not really sure how this is supposed to go, but I thought I would come by and say hello anyway... I'm a 26 year old male in the Portland, OR area with absolutely zero experience in the bdsm/kink world. I decided that I might as well dip my toe in the pond, and see what happens. I've always been interesting in bondage, power imbalances in sexual relationships, and so I thought I might actually be able to meet someone to help me explore those things, and possibly more here. I do have one question though...I'm most attracted to imbalances of power in relationships/encounters...I don't feel the need to identify as either sub or dom, because I'm interested in both power dynamics, but how do I explore these relationships if I'm still totally new to it. Should I be looking for someone who can help me out with this, or just jump right into the deep end. Thanks for the advice in advance.

Fornica -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/21/2011 10:22:02 PM)
First~ welcome :) Don't worry about fitting yourself into a label one way or another. Read lots, talk to people, join local groups..and then read some more! You'll find what works for you :)

MistressDarkArt -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/21/2011 10:53:07 PM)
What Fornica said :-) She knows from whence she speaks. Welcome! You came in with a stellar intro, congratulations! Hang out, read the boards, ask questions, get to know people here. The only other advice I would add is when contacting folks on the other side, approach them as regular folks. Just like you did here :-) You're on your way! Enjoy the journey and good luck in your search.

jerhende -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/21/2011 11:02:35 PM)
To the two fine ladies who have chimed in...Thank you! New cultures are complicated...and putting yourself out there is even harder. One more question...it seems like there isn't a large community of people on the personals side of the site (at least in Portland). What are other way to go ahead and meet like minded people?

Fornica -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/21/2011 11:09:17 PM)
Check out local groups on Fetlife, and leave lots of boxes unchecked on the profiles side on here. Don't start out trying to find a chick..learn how things work first :) And, because you are so polite and such- I would really recommend against the "shirtless in the mirror" pose..take a nice normal, non skin showing one. It's more attractive to potential friends and potential mates :)

GreedyTop -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/22/2011 12:58:02 AM)
What Fornica and MDA said... and Welcome!!

OohAahMrs -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/22/2011 1:21:26 AM)
Welcome jer, you've made a good start, you might be able to avoid the deep end, or maybe not!

searching4mysir -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/22/2011 5:02:53 AM)
FR [sm=agree.gif] [sm=welcomewave.gif] Welcome to the discussion side of CM! Take your coat off and stay awhile. These boards can be fascinating You're off to a great start.

Buzzzz -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/22/2011 5:20:55 AM)
NIce refreshing intro. What everybody else says. Go on fet and click on the "event " tab and then on the "near me" tab. That should get yourself going. anything you find that could interest you, contact the event leader thru the fet email sydtem (not the public wall post) and go from there. With your respectful and honest attitude, it should be a breeze. Safe journeys, Buzz.

ashjor911 -> RE: Greetings from a total fish out of water (11/22/2011 5:23:36 AM)
Welcome To CM

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