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Little survey question - 11/24/2011 10:27:12 AM   
hangemhigh1953


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Status: offline 		Someone last night told me something that really bugged me and would be devastating if true, but I'd like to draw from a larger sample before jumping to conclusions.

If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 11:10:49 AM   
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Someone last night told me something that really bugged me and would be devastating if true, but I'd like to draw from a larger sample before jumping to conclusions.

If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?


I'm living in the moment these days so that would not be a deal breaker for me. But though I'm open to the universe, I'm not specifically looking for "the one", and I think that might make a difference in perspective.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 11:23:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		This cannot apply to me because they don't allow men my age to go into the military, however, it could apply in a different situation. If I really liked the man and he was being transferred at the place he worked or for a family situation, I might consider something with him, but it would be a poly type situation. Most often I would not consider it because I do want more than eight months or so.

I would have to really see something in the man or the situation that appealed to me, so that I could see a positive outcome of what most likely would be a short term experience.


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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 1:48:52 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953
If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?

Yes, if I were in the age group where that could happen, I think I would consider it. As it is, at my age it would be more likely that he'd be leaving for employment elsewhere. I mean having eight months together and then having long-distance if I could see him every so many months might work. But if I were to NEVER see him again I would have to consider long and hard before I would say yes to getting into anything with him. I'd have to be of the mind it would be a really good situation up to the point where he was leaving if I knew I'd never see him again though. In the end, it would depend on the connection & chemistry he and I had, whether or not I would consider it with that particular person.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 2:48:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

Someone last night told me something that really bugged me and would be devastating if true, but I'd like to draw from a larger sample before jumping to conclusions.

If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?


I don't think many would dismiss him immediately. There are too many things to consider. What each person is looking for, length of deployment, his plans for that time away. There are quite a few here who have subs/slaves/significant others in the military, so obviously there are plenty that make it work.

You also need to consider that it takes time to get to know someone. Too often, people jump right into the "you're mine forever" far too quickly. The reality is that while 8 months isn't a lifetime, it is a considerable length of time. The two people might start to see each other and within a couple of months find they aren't right for each other. That would happen regardless of the one partner leaving for the military in eight months.

You are a young man, so if you signed up for the military, you need to think about how YOU would feel meeting someone and having to leave them intermittenly throughout your military career. For some, the relationships do well, for others, it flounders and dies.

The bottom line is that when you meet the right person, even physical space isn't going to make a difference if they both want to make the situation work.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 6:44:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

Someone last night told me something that really bugged me and would be devastating if true, but I'd like to draw from a larger sample before jumping to conclusions.

If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?


Not for anything serious or long-term, no. It simply doesn't make sense, IMO.

It's unimportant that the reason is the military; all that matters in this situation is the leaving in 8 months.

Now, if you mean "consider him" for a occasional play partner or for a limited-time houseboy, then maybe, depending on the person.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 8:02:02 PM   
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We are Dominants - we don't take well to other people telling us when we can spend time with our boy(s) or where we have to live if we want to live with our boy(s) ... and that includes Uncle Sam.  We understand jobs, work hours, whatever ... but when you work for Uncle Sam, it's always someone else calling the shots.  While we wouldn't automatically rule out someone who was in or going into the military, it would be a SERIOUS strike against them.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 8:59:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't rule them out, but there'd be a lot of negotiating regarding what exactly his job in the military entailed, how long he was expected to be gone, and whether he'd be planning to continue our relationship after returning.

I don't do well with relationships that have defined ending dates - even if 8 months is a long time, my shorter relationship is at 7 months and still going strong. I'm a "long-haul" person. On the other hand, I'm pretty good at long distance, so that might be an option for me if it were also an option for the guy in question, depending on specifics.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 9:02:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		No it wouldn't stop me from considering them. It wouldn't stop me from considering a sub, dom, fuck buddy, or friend either. People who give service to their country should not have that action stop them from anything else in life that they want.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 9:22:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Last i heard, military was not a life sentence, but it does tend to play havoc with relationships. Just a thought. Good luck.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/24/2011 10:15:16 PM   
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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 9:35:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain
People who give service to their country should not have that action stop them from anything else in life that they want.


Should isn't going to change people's feelings. If I was interested in marriage and a family, the last thing I would consider is starting a family with a guy who wouldn't be there when I went into labor, wouldn't be there for the first year, and maybe wouldn't ever be there again.

I'd want more of a commitment than I could get in this situation.

And telling others that their feelings are not valid is inappropriate. You don't have the right to tell anyone else what they can or cannot feel. Moreover it's as useless as standing on the shore yelling at the tide not to come in.

If someone wants a long term partner, then someone who makes it clear they don't fit that isn't compatible. No matter why.


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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 10:04:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh for fuck sake do I have to put....IN MY OPINION ..on the end of everything I post. A question was asked. I answered it with my opinion. Does no one understand that is what each of us is doing everytime we post.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 10:19:24 AM   
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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 12:49:35 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

Oh for fuck sake do I have to put....IN MY OPINION ..on the end of everything I post. A question was asked. I answered it with my opinion. Does no one understand that is what each of us is doing everytime we post.

I agree.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 4:20:21 PM   
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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 8:03:00 PM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

Someone last night told me something that really bugged me and would be devastating if true, but I'd like to draw from a larger sample before jumping to conclusions.

If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?


This should be a non-issue with a 19 year-old. I mean no offense to you, hangemhigh, but you're practically fetal tissue. People your age change their minds, their personalities, their goals, and so on at least every 8 months. So what's one more uncertainty?

A female close to your own age may not see things the same way. Again, young people.

It occurs to me, however, that someone going into the military should have other concerns. Such a person probably should be especially careful about who they trust with their secrets, where they allow their photos to be displayed, and other such issues.

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RE: Little survey question - 11/25/2011 10:07:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

Someone last night told me something that really bugged me and would be devastating if true, but I'd like to draw from a larger sample before jumping to conclusions.

If a potential (lifestyle, not client) sub told you he would only be around for 8 months before entering the military, would you immediately decide not to consider him?


Wow....you're 19...amazing that you have any kind of feel for what you want.

I don't know if I should tell you you're too fucking young to be considering this shit or....congratulate you on being so self aware.

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RE: Little survey question - 12/1/2011 6:50:25 AM   
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quote:

Original : Baroana
It occurs to me, however, that someone going into the military should have other concerns. Such a person probably should be especially careful about who they trust with their secrets, where they allow their photos to be displayed, and other such issues.


I'll second that. If you can be blackmailed, or give such an impression, to someone who may have a blue nose, it may affect your security clearance and thus, influence your job prospects. Negatively.

So perhaps you should give some thought to your tracks.

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RE: Little survey question - 12/1/2011 8:46:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am realllly not inclined to serve MistressMilitary, but no, I wouldn't be deterred entirely. I would certainly be inclined to put the brakes on and not launch into any deep promises, but I would develop a friendship at least.

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