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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:30:01 AM

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im a sony girl myself, and i think that no xbox for a week is a great punishment

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:34:46 AM

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I'd always been a playstation person, and if I found one for as ridiculous of a deal as I got for my xbox, i'd probably get one too. :p

I agree, no xbox for a week is a good one. :p

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:41:19 AM

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Christ how old are these peeps?
Now take my coffee machine off me & I predict a riot.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:42:43 AM

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lol. no coffee?

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:45:53 AM

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Like a smackhead on cold turkey.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 5:05:50 AM

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im a sony girl myself

If this degenerates to something like a Mac vs PC thread, I'm gonna ask the Mods to move it to Politics and Religion.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 5:12:52 AM

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We could always have the classic "Vinyl vs Shellac" debate if you want the kids to think us dinosaurs.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 12:31:47 PM

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i was playing with my sub on cam. and he came without permission and i need some ideas for suitable punishments. i don't want to be to harsh at the same time its not some slap on the wrist. yes, i do see him and its not some online cam to cam. thanks you for the help
Aara~

This would depend on whether he meant to cum without permission or if it was a result of whatever play was going on and couldn't be controlled. I know that at a certain point, nothing is stopping my cum and I know that I can push a submissive too far, especially on cam and not being there and able to see certain signs. It could be his fault, it could be mine, it could be because we are not in person and could simply be something he couldn't control, rather than a direct refusal to do as I instructed.

If he is really just calling the shots... I would consider releasing him. There can be more behind disobedience a great deal of the time. If it serious enough he would be released. If it is a start of something, I need to get to the bottom of what that is and that is my job unless he is hiding something and in that case, he might get released still. If an accident, I would re-enforce communication and knowing when he is about to lose control and modify things so that he is able to comply with me. I might re-enforce that with chastity or no play, but how can I punish someone for an accident? Wouldn't that lead to his not trusting me or feeling safe with me?

I can only see this two ways. He either lost control accidentally or was disobedient. I don't use punishment too often unless it is play... but I will get to the bottom of why it happened before I would consider anything.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 12:40:46 PM

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Personally, I'm more worried that the little girl who started this thread is practicing her "Domhood" without a license!

In her profile she admits to not feeling confident, lists herself as a Switch yet journals she gets mad when people assume she actually is, and is being mentored by one
"Mistress E" who hasn't decided if a slave is or isn't actually a human being first and foremost!

Egads! What is wrong with this picture??????

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 12:44:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels

Personally, I'm more worried that the little girl who started this thread is practicing her "Domhood" without a license!

In her profile she admits to not feeling confident, lists herself as a Switch yet journals she gets mad when people assume she actually is, and is being mentored by one
"Mistress E" who hasn't decided if a slave is or isn't actually a human being first and foremost!

Egads! What is wrong with this picture??????

LOL Yeah, I saw that too and had to read it again. I don't agree with the pet/animal of less worth/human stance, but many do see slaves like that. To me, even a slave isn't a pet, can be pet-like, but not a pet, meaning less. Still thinking of how some people treat pets, took my wtf down a peg or two! lol

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 1:17:33 PM

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Oi vinyl beats CD any day!!!!.
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We could always have the classic "Vinyl vs Shellac" debate if you want the kids to think us dinosaurs.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 1:25:12 PM

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OP, I forgot to mention in my post I use a 1-10 scale of arousal when scening. 8 is almost there, 9 is 'I don't think I can stop this on my own' and of course, 10 is too late and the jizz is out of the bag. I tell my sub to report when he gets to 8, then decide what to do with him.

Try this in the future to help your sub get a better handle (ummm, not sure if pun is intended) on his response. It's also a good way for you determine if what you are doing takes him where you want him to go without having to ask 'hey, is this working for you?'

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 2:02:08 PM

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OP, I forgot to mention in my post I use a 1-10 scale of arousal when scening. 8 is almost there, 9 is 'I don't think I can stop this on my own' and of course, 10 is too late and the jizz is out of the bag. I tell my sub to report when he gets to 8, then decide what to do with him.

Try this in the future to help your sub get a better handle (ummm, not sure if pun is intended) on his response. It's also a good way for you determine if what you are doing takes him where you want him to go without having to ask 'hey, is this working for you?'

We already do that, but our system is slightly different, 9 being close and and 10 being the threshold.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:13:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels

Personally, I'm more worried that the little girl who started this thread is practicing her "Domhood" without a license!

In her profile she admits to not feeling confident, lists herself as a Switch yet journals she gets mad when people assume she actually is, and is being mentored by one
"Mistress E" who hasn't decided if a slave is or isn't actually a human being first and foremost!

Egads! What is wrong with this picture??????

ok look im not a "little girl" ok ive a lots experiance not as a dom but in the lifestyle. and also are you saying that switches can not dom? for that is what it sounds like.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:16:17 PM

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This would depend on whether he meant to cum without permission or if it was a result of whatever play was going on and couldn't be controlled. I know that at a certain point, nothing is stopping my cum and I know that I can push a submissive too far, especially on cam and not being there and able to see certain signs. It could be his fault, it could be mine, it could be because we are not in person and could simply be something he couldn't control, rather than a direct refusal to do as I instructed.

If he is really just calling the shots... I would consider releasing him. There can be more behind disobedience a great deal of the time. If it serious enough he would be released. If it is a start of something, I need to get to the bottom of what that is and that is my job unless he is hiding something and in that case, he might get released still. If an accident, I would re-enforce communication and knowing when he is about to lose control and modify things so that he is able to comply with me. I might re-enforce that with chastity or no play, but how can I punish someone for an accident? Wouldn't that lead to his not trusting me or feeling safe with me?

I can only see this two ways. He either lost control accidentally or was disobedient. I don't use punishment too often unless it is play... but I will get to the bottom of why it happened before I would consider anything.

this is very insightful. and yes i understand that accidents happen, and usually he tells be before he cums or if he is close. but not this time.

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RE: punishment - 11/27/2011 4:18:54 PM

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quote:

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Personally, I'm more worried that the little girl who started this thread is practicing her "Domhood" without a license!

In her profile she admits to not feeling confident, lists herself as a Switch yet journals she gets mad when people assume she actually is, and is being mentored by one
"Mistress E" who hasn't decided if a slave is or isn't actually a human being first and foremost!

Egads! What is wrong with this picture??????

ok look im not a "little girl" ok ive a lots experiance not as a dom but in the lifestyle. and also are you saying that switches can not dom? for that is what it sounds like.

Honey, you are overwhelmingly insecure, sensitive or something because no mention of the projection you just made, was said.

No one has said that switches can't be dominant. Where the hell did you get that?

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RE: punishment - 12/18/2011 12:58:17 AM

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i was playing with my sub on cam. and he came without permission and i need some ideas for suitable punishments. i don't want to be to harsh at the same time its not some slap on the wrist. yes, i do see him and its not some online cam to cam. thanks you for the help
Aara~

punch him through the interwebs

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RE: punishment - 12/18/2011 10:34:01 AM

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