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mons -> Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 4:45:24 AM)
I meant a submissive from CM about maybe 5 years ago! We talk for a long time before we meant in person! Everything went well he was nice with a great sense of humor! But as time went on i found out he drink alcohol I do not date anyone whom drinks, it is my prefrence! So he was arrested for DUI. This was not told to me until I had to really ask him what was going on, he was not showing up for dates, so i found out! He had this (ideal that he would serve )me and my twin! This creep me out so much, he would joke about it, before I even began to start out relationship i had to let him go his manners his ranting on the phone most important was this obsession with my twin! That was then, this is now(his moter was very ill and still is! I wrote and asked about his mother, i would send notes he never could had been good for me but for someone else maybe, I thought he had changed he has not, i thought i could silly of me but i wrote to see if he had understood my creeply feeling about this thing with my twin, he understood alright he is still the same! The problem is he is telling lies about people here i know they are lies this is not a chatroom where people just talk bad about others, i told him i do not care, so if anyone claiming that i said something please disregrad it! He went as far as saying ( they said you do not know what you doing so take a picture of'me so you can show them) lol I called him and wrote him to never contact me again! i know this he is mad i never made him mine so now i am watching out for anyone whom wants to contact me for meetings it maybe him! i have someone now so i do not meet other anyway but it is frightening! Please any advice would be so helpful!! i

tazzygirl -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 4:52:47 AM)
Sometimes its best to leave the past in the past. Someone who would believe his stories about you before asking you about the situation isnt someone you should have in your life anyway. Block him and move on.

DarkSteven -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 4:59:47 AM)
1. He's a creep. 2. He's lying about you. 3. You told him to never contact you again. That kinda sums it all up. It's the Internet and people lie. You can't control him making an idiot out of himself, and for all you know this might be his way of trying to get you to contact him again. Chalk this one up to life experience and move on. If it makes you feel any better, there was a submissive running around telling everyone locally I was an SOB. The effect diminished over time and as people realized she was batshit crazy. Did I read your post right, that he missed multiple dates because of repeated DUI arrests? Not only is that disrespectful to show up to a date drunk (whether the date is against drinking or not), it shows a total lack of self control and stupidity.

stellauk -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 6:39:45 AM)
I'm really sorry that this is causing you so much distress and turmoil, especially after you've gone to the trouble of giving him a second chance. People like you make the world turn a bit smoother. People like him serve to help the rest of us recognize what intelligence and maturity means. When Person A goes out of their way to tell Person B something negative about Person C, generally it makes a much stronger negative statement about Person A. It's stupidity that makes such people do this. Far simpler for them to walk round with a sign round their necks saying 'I am a total div' and have done with it. It amounts to the same thing. In such situations silence becomes much louder. It's decisions and actions what define our lives, not the words that come out of our mouths. I know it's not pleasant because words carry meaning, intent, emotion - and they can hurt you just as effectively as a slap in the face. This is also why I stay clear of people who are unable to consider the effects of their words before they open their gobs. Sometimes it's true, silence is golden.

littlewonder -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 7:57:35 AM)
ignore, block, delete, shrug your shoulders and move on. So he's telling people stuff...big deal. If you know who you are that's all that counts.

Epytropos -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 9:49:39 AM)
It's time for exclamation point rehab. Others have solved your guy problem, but it will take effort and respect for yourself and others to solve your REAL problem get the exclamation mark monkey off your back. We support you!

MissAsylum -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 10:37:02 AM)
Sorry that you are having this issue. I can only echo what others have said. And....you may want to carry mace on a keychain. Can't be too careful these days.

Moonhead -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 11:57:08 AM)
She's American. Wouldn't a gun be a potentially permanent solution to the problem in most 'States? You can fit a revolver in most handbags larger than a clutch bag, I'd have thought...

tazzygirl -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 12:05:46 PM)
You never carry a weapon you arent prepared to use. If you cant use it, it may be used against you.

Moonhead -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 12:16:14 PM)
Very true. Looking at the OP, though, she'd better be prepared to take some sort of serious action, or this situation's just going to keep getting worse. (Maybe a restraining order would be a more humane approach?)

tazzygirl -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 12:25:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Moonhead Very true. Looking at the OP, though, she'd better be prepared to take some sort of serious action, or this situation's just going to keep getting worse. (Maybe a restraining order would be a more humane approach?) Castration would be more... humane... compared to what I would do.

Moonhead -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 12:29:22 PM)
Well yes, but if she's not going to shoot him, that's probably not a viable solution either, sadly.

Clickofheels -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 12:31:54 PM)
I agree with tazzygirl and littlewonder... Block...ignore...delete. Gossip online is the same as offline... a group of tiny people with tiny minds living in a tiny soap opera world! (And that's darn tiny! LOL) Isn't it more important what YOU KNOW about yourself, and what those dearest to you offline know to be the truth? I think so. Clickofheels

lizi -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 1:45:10 PM)
If there's someone out there talking trash you really can't stop him/her and doing it yourself means you sink to their level so why not just let it go. What can you do really otherwise? He lied to you about major things so obviously he has nothing to offer you, just walk away, prevent further contact, and hold your head up about the gossip so people know it's not true. Hard to figure out why people do things.

Duskypearls -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/27/2011 2:18:16 PM)
Personally, I tell him to put an egg in his paw and beat it!

mons -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/28/2011 3:39:51 AM)
Everyone thank you so much! i have read everyone here answers and thank you so much I will put him on igorn<<< spelled so wrong! I have sleep apena! This is the only time i can post are at late night! As it is i can not sleep even with my disorder so i stay alseep longer and i am on here at this time! He said "are you frighten of me" if all of the other stuff was not even this made me freak out! He is much bigger then i am 6'3 215! I am a very strong women emotionally but this is enough! You all have given me air too breathe! I will make sure not to even think of him, but i will be on my guard! if there was any place i could had thought of people whom know the answer, i knew it was right to write you all! Believe it or not i am a very shy private person, thank you all so much!!! mons/jane ( i hope this is written well )

DarkSteven -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/28/2011 3:49:55 AM)
Um, I have sleep apnea as well. I wear a respirator -> end of problem. He's playing with you and doing everything he can to stay in touch. Tell him to cease all communication with you. Get a restraining order if you have to.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/28/2011 7:32:26 AM)
The OP says she reinitiated contact and then told him she didn't want to hear from him again. It does not say he has recontacted her once she told him not to. No way could she get a restraining order under those facts. OP, just be extra cautious about your personal safety the next few weeks, and voice verify by phone before meeting any potentials.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/28/2011 8:09:28 AM)
What she said ^^^^ People seem to think you can walk into a court or a police station and get a restraining order for every little thing. Ok, the guy is obviously annoying her, but he isn't threatening her, he isn't stalking her. He is talking shit about her. That is not a threat of physical danger. In my opinion, it's people who have rushed for restraining orders because someone is simply annoying that has helped to make them so useless for the people who really need them to help protect them from real danger. Sure, it is a piece of paper and doesn't always help, but people misusing the need for them doesn't help matters. As for the comment about a gun....everyone can't run around getting a license to carry a weapon concealed in their purse. That along with the fact that a lot of people who might do that are a bigger danger than the "threat" they think they need to protect themselves from and would wind up hurting some innocent stranger, a loved one or themselves.

MadamDouceVoix -> RE: Please help with submissive whom will not take no for an answer (11/28/2011 12:23:10 PM)
I suggest a good shank.

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