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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

There's a thread about clit removal in the Sub forum.  Briefly, the idea is that the sub should not derive any pleasure from sex.

My question is, how do you as a Dom/me feel about your sub getting pleasure?  For me, it is a huge ego kick to know that she got a screaming, drenching orgasm, and I was the one that made her do it. 

How about you?

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I am way impressed by women who have a sex drive like that...lots of us would have shut off and purely lost the ability!

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
My question is, how do you as a Dom/me feel about your sub getting pleasure?  For me, it is a huge ego kick to know that she got a screaming, drenching orgasm, and I was the one that made her do it. 

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

I almost envy her. If I am denied too long, I wake up screaming from an orgasm. My body has a release valve in my dreams.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

There's a thread about clit removal in the Sub forum.  Briefly, the idea is that the sub should not derive any pleasure from sex.

My question is, how do you as a Dom/me feel about your sub getting pleasure?  For me, it is a huge ego kick to know that she got a screaming, drenching orgasm, and I was the one that made her do it. 

How about you?

Funny stuff. I was talking bout this last night.
I'm split on this subject. My ego wants to give her the best orgasms in history-to fulfill my internal self image as a Casanova and Valentino. Plus, it's good for her-as a friend once said, looks, money, blah, a gal goes with the guy who gives her the most orgasms.

On the flip side, I like the idea of service as being rooted in altruism, that she give with no expectations of receiving anything in return. With no reciprocation, it puts her work on a service plane, which means she'll grow spiritually and mentally from the process.
Not to mention that there's a part of me that likes treating her like nothing more than an owned piece of fuck meat for me to do with as I desire, serious no holds barred hard core old school slavery. Take what I want, don't give a shit if she likes it, and why in the world would I ever consider letting her have pleasure from the act-it's all about me getting mine, no some greedy property getting hers. Rapemeat gets nothing in return, only semen dripping out of her ravished holes.
So I go for the happy medium. She gets to keep her clit (for the time being at least), but I do serious long term orgasm control as well.
Like right now, she hasn't cum for three months. The first month I was just to busy to spend a ton of time together, and for whatever reason(A quaint euphemism meaning I didn't allow it), when we were, she didn't orgasm, which would have been fine except one day I mentioned it, and she responded, "It's no big deal," which I took as a challenge, and led to the defcon game.

Defcon's a simple game, three rules, no cumming, no going insane, no dying.
It's a progression, opening light and slow, then accelerating until it hits nuclear and her world ends.

-Weeks one and two were light touches, caresses, ear nips, rubbing through panties, shirt. The idea is get her so turned on she begs to cum, and then deny. Again and again and again and again. As in, over the course of a football game or so. As in 2-3 hours a night at least 3 days of the week.

-Weeks 2 and 3 the clothes came off, but no insertions. Tweaking nips, running fingers along her slit, stroke her clit. Things were getting bad for her by this point. She really wanted to cum.She was making noises I'd never heard before, animal sounds in the back of her being, teeny tiny fists balled in need and frustration.

-Weeks 4 and 5 were insertions, fingers, licking and sucking breasts, dildoes, toys, some light pain. By now she's begging and beginning to break. The denied orgasms leave her twisted, bent, buckled and bawling in frustration. She literally pounds the bed, floor, wherever with frustration. I'm talking eyes rolled back so far you can only see white, foaming at the mouth, unable to breathe need to cum. It's so much fun. And of course, on some days her cunt is rubbed raw, which makes it hurt too.

-Weeks 6 and 7 are fucking, anal, oral, vaginal,no cumming allowed. And I do tantra, so I can fuck for hours w/o cumming and can do so multiple times a night. Which just may kill her.
And maybe week 8 I'll let her cum, or maybe start the game again.

It's the best game ever. I love bringing her up and then refusing. I love the noise she makes when I tell her to open her legs again. I like she way she sobs when I slide my fingers in, as she knows I'm going to slowly take her up and then deny. I like the frustration. I like that at some level, some part of her is beginning to hate me for the cruelly involved. And I love, as in lovelovelove, the amount of control this game involves, that she exists for me to take, humiliate, use, abuse and destroy if I so desire, like the slutcunt she is.

And, in some base internal level, she loves the control and cruelty too. She loves the being taken, being absolutely owned at the root of her being, the things she wants most of all held out and then denied. She likes the power. She likes the strength of character to refuse her again and again. And she likes the imagination to come up with such a mean game.
Grins. well mayhaps like isn't the right word, but need is.
As in she needs the absolute control.

So no, I won't cut off her clit (Her hood though-diferent ballgame.). I am gonna pierce it and bell it. And later, post defcon, I plan on using vacuum suction to get it super swelled over a few weeks, maybe even use weights to extend it. Then I'm gonna nail that lil red nubbin to a two by four and do tortorous shit to it with a metal file, chili's and a hammer.

Good times.

If she's lucky I'll let her cum by Valentines Day.