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Just venting - 11/27/2011 6:59:34 AM   
catfightservice


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Status: offline 		I just wanted to share this last negative experience. I been in the fetish community for a few years now. I just got a real blatant buligerent message on here about my wifes weight(shes a bbw) from a random person. I dont know why someone would do something like that. Theres plenty of stuff on here that Im not into but my motto has allways been to not judge people for what they are into but for who they are. we all have interests. Now Im a catfight film producer and I have gotten positive and negative views on my films, and thats fine, but I never had to deal with such a random personal attack on my wife.After that message I kinda feel guilty for getting her involved. Some people like what we do, some dont, but just a little off kiltered after that message. I thought a bout reporting the message cuz I really think its unappropriate, and uncalled for, but everyone has the right to their opinion. I just dont understand the mentality, if I see something on here I dont like I just move on. Any insight?

thanks

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:01:40 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		I don't understand why on earth you do not understand the mentality!


Are you new to the internet?

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:03:51 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		Some people thinnk their opinions matter more than they do, OP. Just report the message as spam and move on. YOU like your wife, so who cares what RandomAss69 thinks?

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:06:45 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		What LaT was saying.
Because we're all just pixels on a screen, people feel free to say what normally they would think but not express.
I look at your profile picture and thought something rather negative. You say you film catfights but what kind of a fight can it be with one person a head taller and a hundred pounds heavier than the other? Hardly fair and looks like it would be over in a minute if they weren't just pretending to fight.


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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:09:59 AM   
kalikshama


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Just report the message as spam and move on. YOU like your wife, so who cares what RandomAss69 thinks?



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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:11:43 AM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: catfightservice

After that message I kinda feel guilty for getting her involved. Some people like what we do,
some dont, but just a little off kiltered after that message. I thought a bout reporting the message cuz I really think its unappropriate, and uncalled for, but everyone has the right to their opinion. I just dont understand the mentality, if I see something on here I dont like I just move on. Any insight?

thanks

Do you do what you do to please others, or to please your wife? Seriously, cruel people can be
found anywhere, and if it isnt a nasty comment about weight, then its about religion, or hair color,
or being a vegetarian. The last thing your wife needs is pity because of some random strangers comment.

Its as though you are saying "My wife is fat, therefore I must hide her from the world.
Keep shining that spotlight on her, and let her besk in her glory. Screw what other people think.

Edited to fix the ridiculous formatting.

< Message edited by poise -- 11/27/2011 7:13:41 AM >

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:19:33 AM   
KyttynTheMynx


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Status: offline 		The mentality? Well, some people got older, but they never grew up. Its just childish behavior. Brush it off, and move on. It really isnt that serious. No one is obligated to like your wife. Just accept that people have their views, and some are shitty at keeping their mouths shut about them.

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:26:19 AM   
stellauk


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Status: offline 		It's no different from society, you have people which bring to mind the F-word.

However it's a case of time and exposure to understand that the above statement refers to two distinct groups of people, those for whom the F-word describes part of their relationship with others and those for whom it merely describes a core trait of their personality.

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:39:11 AM   
lelloy


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Status: offline 		I think there's several trolls that get off on random personal attack emails, actually.

Recognize them for what they are. Report, block, spam and delete.

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:42:14 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		Lawlz @ kali :p

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:51:45 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		you've never in  your entire life had people say negative things to you or your wife?? Must be nice to have gone your entire life without that. I'd say count your blessings if you have not.

As for the comment...ignore, delete, block, shrug your shoulders and move on. Why does it matter to you what others say and ask yourself...why does it bother you?



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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 7:56:48 AM   
bighappygoth39


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Status: offline 		It's just your basic playground abuse, really, but as they're sitting at a computer, they feel they can get away with it. If you're happy with life (and it sounds like you are), you're just better off feeling pity for the sad bastards who have such sad lives they feel the need to bring others down with them, and keep enjoying your own life.


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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 8:06:31 AM   
Arienos


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Status: offline 		Dismiss that e-mail, you are the controller of what you allow to displease and never lose sight of the fact this is the internet, in a real life setting the maker of that comment would immediately be introduced to an excruciatingly heightened understanding of the phrase, “Do not allow your mouth to bite off more than your ass can chew… backup. “

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 11:03:47 AM   
BoxwineForBrunch


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Status: offline 		some people enjoy prodding sore spots to try to get a reaction. posts like this are a great way to draw them a map showing them exactly where to poke.

kudos, bro!


quote:

ORIGINAL: catfightservice

I just wanted to share this last negative experience. I been in the fetish community for a few years now. I just got a real blatant buligerent message on here about my wifes weight(shes a bbw) from a random person. I dont know why someone would do something like that. Theres plenty of stuff on here that Im not into but my motto has allways been to not judge people for what they are into but for who they are. we all have interests. Now Im a catfight film producer and I have gotten positive and negative views on my films, and thats fine, but I never had to deal with such a random personal attack on my wife.After that message I kinda feel guilty for getting her involved. Some people like what we do, some dont, but just a little off kiltered after that message. I thought a bout reporting the message cuz I really think its unappropriate, and uncalled for, but everyone has the right to their opinion. I just dont understand the mentality, if I see something on here I dont like I just move on. Any insight?

thanks



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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 11:23:07 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		It's kind of crappy and when it happens you just wonder the hell is it with people that have nothing positive in their life that they have to go hunting down random strangers to get vehicles for a little self esteem by belittling them. Sure, it stings sometimes. It is a reflection of the person who mailed it to  you, not a reflection of your wife.

Women here get a lot of nasty notes when they write to say 'No thanks' to someone. It's like that person can't stand the rejection and has to build themselves up again by calling those women ugly names. Just a fact of human nature that it will happen under certain circumstances and you won't get away from it. So your choices are pretty much to keep the profile up or hide it.

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 2:13:58 PM   
Duskypearls


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi

It's kind of crappy and when it happens you just wonder the hell is it with people that have nothing positive in their life that they have to go hunting down random strangers to get vehicles for a little self esteem by belittling them. Sure, it stings sometimes. It is a reflection of the person who mailed it to  you, not a reflection of your wife.

Women here get a lot of nasty notes when they write to say 'No thanks' to someone. It's like that person can't stand the rejection and has to build themselves up again by calling those women ugly names. Just a fact of human nature that it will happen under certain circumstances and you won't get away from it. So your choices are pretty much to keep the profile up or hide it.



You are only too right, lizi. It is astounding, however nicely we try to dissuade the "less than desirables," how many retaliate with meaness and aggression. It can be disheartening, until a thick enough skin builds up. I wonder, if they ever wonder, if that might be why they're alone? Seems pretty obvious to me, but what do I know?!

< Message edited by Duskypearls -- 11/27/2011 2:14:33 PM >

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 2:15:13 PM   
Duskypearls


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ORIGINAL: Arienos

Dismiss that e-mail, you are the controller of what you allow to displease and never lose sight of the fact this is the internet, in a real life setting the maker of that comment would immediately be introduced to an excruciatingly heightened understanding of the phrase, “Do not allow your mouth to bite off more than your ass can chew… backup. “


^^^^
What he said!

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 2:39:44 PM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		I get nasty grams occasionally. Don't let it bother you. There are bullies everywhere.

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RE: Just venting - 11/27/2011 2:47:13 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		Continuing to think about the negative comment is allowing that person to live in your head rent free.

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