Duskypearls
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Tease the fuck out of him.
You keep a mans dangly bits pointy and hard, and you keep his interest.
That's a bit vague, I know. So here's a few tricks sure to make him perk up and pay attention. Or atleast amuse him.
Guys seem to be fairly visual. They like pics.
Dress sexy and go to a restaurant or shopping or somewhere. Take a picture of yourself in the perfectly normal setting, then send it to him.
Go to the bathroom there and take another pic. Send it to him.
Start stripping. As you take each piece of clothing off, take a pic of the clothing you are taking off and send it to him. All the way down to the panties and bra. Try to space the texts out to about 1 minute apart.
Without any kind of naked picture at all, he will be suddenly very aware of you being naked, in a random place.
You can easily tweak this with funny notes, or something sweet like "wish you were here..."
More picture sequence fun!
Take a upper body pic of you smiling, with your shoulders clearly showing you have a shirt on. send it.
Take off your shirt and send a pic of just your shoulders and face, maybe a hint of clevage. I like to make a cute or teasing face for this one.
Text with this photo "Lower?"
If he responds properly(and lets face it, we all know how he will), send him a "lower pic" depending on how much you want to tease, you can still avoid showing him the whole shibang and just show an inch or two lower with the same "lower?" attached.
If he doesn't respond in a timely matter... no picture for him!
If you are shy about sending pics you can be identified from, the ones that show your boobs can be sans face.
ETA hmmm now I want to start a how to keep long distance fun thread.
Excellent advice, my dear. Men love, need, and appreciate being frequently stimulated in such (and other) ways. The art of luring, is a skill from which all of us can benefit. A good, little tease and taunt can go a long way! It's also easy to do with words, which are more powerful than most realize, but not everybody's into words.
While I generally believe that people who get bored tend to be boring, it never hurts to learn how after you "hook" your person (and I don't mean that in any negative, manipulative way), it is useful (and fun!) to know how to reel them in and out, as appropriate, to keep them stimulated and on the line, and the relationship healthy. Such stimulation need not always be only of a sexual nature, but it sure doesn't hurt to throw that in regularly.
People also need to know they're important, desired and needed. Invest your interest and energy in him. Educate yourself and become proficient in whatever interests, or is important to him, be it hobby, sport, movies, books, topics, etc. If he mentions there's something he's curious about, research it and offer him what you've found, showing you care and want to help him. Ask him for his opinion/guidance and/or help on issues/events that come up for you. Find out what kind of food he likes, research for the best recipes, and tell him you'd love to cook these things for me, unless of course, he wants you to use his mother's recipe. If you're going to meet him at his home, come prepared with you recipe and foods, and be prepared to cook! Ask him what you can do to please or help him.
Always point out his positive strengths and goodness, but do it honestly. Never try to fake it. Tell him what you appreciate about him. A little praise goes a long way. When you do write or speak, do so gently, respectfully, supportively, and with dignity. Don't overreact to his words or action is you disagree, or they displease you Give yourself time and space, rethink the incident, examine what you may or may not have done to cause it. If you feel he is at cause, ask for an opportunity to discuss it, at a time that is convenient for him. Don't crowd him when he's cranky. If you are wrong about something or think you might be, immediately own it and apologize. Respect, and allow him his opinion, even if it differs from yours.
If you know something about him and his likes/interest, keep an eye out for a little gift of that kind he may like, with which you can present him with upon meeting. It shows you were thinking about him. Same thing with sending urls/pics of interest, before and after you've met. Share his successes.
Don't take things personally, and don't hold a grudge. Clear up anything you don't feel good, or are not sure about by making inquiry.
Be of good patience, humor and wit, and use them all whenever possible.
The short and the long of it is, tune into him as much, or more, than into yourself.
Oh crap, this is starting to sound like a self-help book! Not everyone will agree with what I've put out here, and that's fine, as they are not me, and those who don't agree are welcome to make their own list. Use or toss out any and all I've proffered here.
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