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RE: How much do you push a newbie? - 12/1/2011 1:00:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Its a lot like driving really fast in a car you have never driven before. Skill and luck both play important roles, the less skill you have the more luck you need not to crash and burn. When the tires lose traction and you are about to crash and burn experience becomes even more important. And in life faster isnt always better...

WTF...!?! Crikey, Simply, way to inform/educate the newbies.

Stirs flashbacks of that most quotable of CM gems, "Sailing is a lot like BDSM"....

C'mon, you sure this is really all you've got? "If a job's worth doing, it's...."?

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RE: How much do you push a newbie? - 12/3/2011 10:02:36 AM

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If you are experienced enough to read and interpret their non-verbal and unconscious responses to what you/they are doing (meaning very experienced) you might trust those responses more than what they are telling you verbally in deciding how far and where to take them and how quickly. If you aren't that experienced or adept (don't kid yourself) you'd better listen to what they're telling you about how they are responding to what you are doing and operate accordingly.

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RE: How much do you push a newbie? - 12/3/2011 11:14:45 AM

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So how do you become magically experienced enough to read and interpret what they really want versus what they say, when this is your first encounter? Because it doesn't matter how many other people you've played with, you're a newbie with this one.

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RE: How much do you push a newbie? - 12/3/2011 12:54:03 PM

Rectio

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Welp, unless I am misreading the OP, they weren't asking about a first encounter. They were asking about the "getting to know you" process with a "newbie". Your observation that you can't know a stranger is extremely insightful though. Thank you.

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RE: How much do you push a newbie? - 12/6/2011 4:35:57 AM

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ORIGINAL: subgirlga

Really by the third meet...that is moving slowly? For an inexperience sub?

Wow, no wonder the Doms are interested in me.

Pretty funny...you go on with your badself girl.

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