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ORIGINAL: ilearn

Yes, but some people find it offensive. So it is better to clear up things first.

My 2 cents:

If you don't want to get PM's from strangers, turn them off or some setting that lets
you get PM's from your buddies. I believe that's a feature.

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

What's the issue?  Just send them the message, and start a conversation.

Keep in mind that a message starting "You said XXX in the Ask a Submissive forum.  That is a different way of looking at things from my usual way.  I've thought about your statement and..." is a lot better than "U gotz nice titz.  Lets fuck."

Be respectful.  And if you write a sub/slave who's owned, acknowledge that relationship.

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

What's the issue?  Just send them the message, and start a conversation.

Keep in mind that a message starting "You said XXX in the Ask a Submissive forum.  That is a different way of looking at things from my usual way.  I've thought about your statement and..." is a lot better than "U gotz nice titz.  Lets fuck."

Be respectful.  And if you write a sub/slave who's owned, acknowledge that relationship.

And yet we had a lovely chat the first time you sent me that message

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ORIGINAL: ilearn

Is it frowned up on? Sending a PM to a member who's been around much longer than you? What's the norm?

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ORIGINAL: ilearn

Is it frowned up on? Sending a PM to a member who's been around much longer than you? What's the norm?

Um...  ilearn, I just read your profile and it advertises that you are primarily here for phone sex and cybering.  If the woman you write to wants someone they go out with on a normal, r/t date that might lead to a kinky LTR...she might pass you by.  Just part of her screening process and nothing personal.

Btw, my mentor used to screen Doms by putting "Make sure your first sentence says purple crayon or I will delete your letter unread" deep into her journal entries.  She figured that if the man wasn't interested enough in her to read as much as he could before sending a letter... *where is a toilet flushing emotie when ya need one?*

In my ad, I say I am looking for friends...and I write back to anyone who isn't creepy, trying to pick a fight, or trying to grab at my... ...flogger!

If you are talking about asking for permission to PM someone while in the chatrooms here, that's different.  It is considered polite to ask someone in the main room if you can send a PM.  I used to spend hours each day there winding down and enjoying several conversations with friends... sometimes two or three all at the same time...and strange men I had never talked with would flood me with PMs.  Most expected me to drop everything and talk with them, lol.  I doubt most males here are hit with a dozen or more PMs in the chatroom while they are trying to talk with friends, or with a particular someone who might end up being quite special.  Unexpected PMs can be...annoying.  Especially when they pop up mid typing and I didn't notice; stuff gets sent to strangers instead of to the friend I was trying to respond to.

I spent a lot of time telling random PMers that I was already in chat but could talk with them in about half an hour or whatever. 

Also, it is better to ask before sending a PM in a chatroom because that person may be owned and not allowed PMs, while others might be there to relax in the main chatroom and want to focus on the discussion there, not on PMs.  It might be good for you to have two windows at CM open at the same time, so you can type a username into the Search feature within the Home page...and get some kind of warning in advance how your PM would be received.

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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

I just send messages with the word Breast, just that. It works for me.