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will2please -> picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 5:02:09 AM)
As a newbe sub we can pick how I want my Mistress too look or must I accept her because she choose me?

searching4mysir -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 5:11:44 AM)
FR It's mutual. For it to be anything else would entail a bunch of felonies (in the USA).

DarkSteven -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 5:13:55 AM)
1. The fact that you're a male sub is relevant. You being a newbie is irrelevant. 2. She does not pick you. It's a mutual decision - you choose each other. 3. Unfortunately, the bit about you picking out her clothes is hard for me to answer because I keep thinking of various fetishes and I'm not sure if that's what you're asking. I guess I should start by asking why you want a Domme. If you watched some femdom porn and thought the women looked hot in their latex catsuits and you want a woman to dress that way 24/7, you'd be better off paying for a pro Dominatrix. If you legitimately want to make a woman happy in and out of the bedroom, then I'm not sure why you'd want to pick out her clothes. Many male Doms get off on picking out the sub's clothing. It's a control thing. That's why I'm puzzled to see it coming from a male sub. Could you please clarify what sort of relationship you envision with a Domme? Both in the bedroom, and out of it?

Fornica -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 5:14:47 AM)
fr You pick her, then you pay her, then you go home. HTH

BoxwineForBrunch -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 6:56:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: will2please As a newbe sub we can pick how I want my Mistress too look or must I accept her because she choose me? once you have declared your eligibility, i am afraid you are simply going to have to go with the first organization that drafts you, even if they're in a rebuilding process, as long as you are selected in the first round. now i have seen your projections, and there is a good chance you may slip down into the 2nd or even 3rd round, in which case, per the collective bargaining agreement, you could decline to sign a contract and take your chances with the next draft. in that scenario you would need to ask yourself if you realistically think you're going to land in a more favorable situation next time around, or whether you should just try to sign a short-term, incentive-laden contract and hope for the best.

DarkSteven -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 7:19:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BoxwineForBrunch quote: ORIGINAL: will2please As a newbe sub we can pick how I want my Mistress too look or must I accept her because she choose me? once you have declared your eligibility, i am afraid you are simply going to have to go with the first organization that drafts you, even if they're in a rebuilding process, as long as you are selected in the first round. now i have seen your projections, and there is a good chance you may slip down into the 2nd or even 3rd round, in which case, per the collective bargaining agreement, you could decline to sign a contract and take your chances with the next draft. in that scenario you would need to ask yourself if you realistically think you're going to land in a more favorable situation next time around, or whether you should just try to sign a short-term, incentive-laden contract and hope for the best. [sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif][sm=rofl.gif]

LillyBoPeep -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 7:27:44 AM)
I guess, as a fellow s-person, I dunno why you're expecting to pick your Dominant's clothes, unless it's delegated down to you. If you're looking for a Barbie to prance around in your favorite fetish-driven fashions, then you'd better be prepared to pay for it. You don't submit to anyone who happens along, you and the D agree to work at something together. And as an msub, sorry, but the rules of online supply and demand are not in your favor. A random FemDom is unlikely to just sweep you away (unless she's a pro trawling for clients). You have to sell yourself as an interesting and worthwhile human being, and this "picking what she looks like" thing isn't goinng to earn you any points.

81song -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 7:54:55 AM)
Listen to Dark Steve... I would also add do a lot of reading up on any given subject as to do with D/s. It is the one thing you do more then anything else....read. Also is is not like buying food and you go down one hallway and pick out a Domme, Dommes are people with feelings and have lives.

Fornica -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 8:24:57 AM)
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA quote: ORIGINAL: BoxwineForBrunch once you have declared your eligibility, i am afraid you are simply going to have to go with the first organization that drafts you, even if they're in a rebuilding process, as long as you are selected in the first round. now i have seen your projections, and there is a good chance you may slip down into the 2nd or even 3rd round, in which case, per the collective bargaining agreement, you could decline to sign a contract and take your chances with the next draft. in that scenario you would need to ask yourself if you realistically think you're going to land in a more favorable situation next time around, or whether you should just try to sign a short-term, incentive-laden contract and hope for the best.

peppermint -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 9:35:42 AM)
Let me put it this way and try to get you to understand. Let's say there are 5 Dommes in the world. This would mean there are about 250 male subs working to attract the attention of those Dommes. Yes, in the real world there are many more male subs than there are Dommes. Let's say you have certain criteria for your Domme. You want her to be a certain height and a certain weight and certain hair color. Maybe there is one Domme out of the 5 who satisfies that criteria. Now you are one of 250 submissives who are trying to get the attention of 1 Domme since the other 4 don't interest you at all. The other 249 male subs who aren't as picky as you still have 5 Dommes they are interested in meeting. So the answer is yes. You can decide how you wish your Mistress to look. However, doing so will decrease your chances of finding one.

Fornica -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 9:38:12 AM)
Also add in the fact that your profile makes no sense whatsoever, and you're down to .25

searching4mysir -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 5:27:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica Also add in the fact that your profile makes no sense whatsoever, and you're down to .25 Do you need me to translate: I'm almost 50 and have never had a Mistress (or gotten laid). Since this is the case, if you don't like how I do something, you can't blame it on an old mistress.

Killerangel -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 8:21:33 PM)
Ok, so you understand now that it's bit harder to find a Domme than just picking one out right? Even if you want a certain look or whatever, there just aren't all that many Dommes out there unless you plan on paying someone. If there are Dommes who are selecting you as their sub/slave then they are mostly likely scammers or women who want money to Dominate you. There are so many submissive men about that women Dominants don't need to go around willy nilly choosing men to serve them much to their dismay.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/3/2011 8:34:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: will2please As a newbe sub we can pick how I want my Mistress too look or must I accept her because she choose me? Of course when you're looking for a Mistress/Domme you're going to have your own ideas about how you want her to look, but do keep in mind that there are gazillions more male subs than there are Dommes. Your chances of finding one that also wants to be yours will decrease in at least direct proportion to how picky you are increases. The thing is picking out one's wardrobe is something that some Dominants enjoy doing for submissives/slaves because it's a matter of control. So I don't think a Mistress would appreciate your telling her how she should dress or fix herself up. I always appreciate it when someone tells me I look attractive in a particular instance but, if he were to say "You need to wear that leather corset because that's the only way I can get off," well, not so much. NBMG

Verijaa -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/4/2011 5:47:12 AM)
First, you go on line, and you order a blow up doll. Then you can buy anything your little heart desires her to wear, and tell her all about all the things you want to do, and prop her up so you can pretend she's doing them. Or you can rephrase and see how silly your question is. "As a newbe boyfriend we can pick how I want my girlfriend too look or must I accept her because she choose me" D/s is a relationship between two people. First you find somebody attractive to you who is also attracted TO you. Then you make friends, get to know each other, and build a relationship. Just like any other relationship. Kink is just a part of the mix.

thishereboi -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/4/2011 5:49:15 AM)
Before you heard about bdsm where you allowed to pick your girlfriends or did you have to just take whoever wanted you?

Fornica -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/4/2011 6:56:24 AM)
I feel as though this might be moot, in the OP. quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi Before you heard about bdsm where you allowed to pick your girlfriends or did you have to just take whoever wanted you?

Rochsub2009 -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/4/2011 1:50:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: will2please As a newbe sub we can pick how I want my Mistress too look or must I accept her because she choose me? No. According to the Official Newbie Sub Rule Book, you must submit to the first Domme or Dom who chooses you. You have no choice in the matter. Once they choose you, you officially become their property, and have no say in any aspect of the relationship. You seem like a nice person, so I am officially choosing you. You now belong to me. As my property, my first command is that you send me a private message that includes all of your credit card numbers and expiration dates. Once you finish doing that, you are to send me a second message which contains all of your bank account numbers and the corresponding passwords. And finally, I command you to go to the nearest gay bar and start offering blowjobs to any males who come within 30 yards of you. You must walk up to each of them and kindly ask them for permission to give them give the aforementioned blowjobs. You are not to leave the gay bar until you have performed at least 30 blowjobs. Now, go and obey my commands. Because I was first to choose you, you have no alternative but to obey. At least that's what the Official Newbie Sub Rule Book says. [;)]

LadyConstanze -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/4/2011 1:53:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: will2please As a newbe sub we can pick how I want my Mistress too look or must I accept her because she choose me? No. According to the Official Newbie Sub Rule Book, you must submit to the first Domme or Dom who chooses you. You have no choice in the matter. Once they choose you, you officially become their property, and have no say in any aspect of the relationship. You seem like a nice person, so I am officially choosing you. You now belong to me. As my property, my first command is that you send me a private message that includes all of your credit card numbers and expiration dates. Once you finish doing that, you are to send me a second message which contains all of your bank account numbers and the corresponding passwords. And finally, I command you to go to the nearest gay bar and start offering blowjobs to any males who come within 30 yards of you. You must walk up to each of them and kindly ask them for permission to give them give the aforementioned blowjobs. You are not to leave the gay bar until you have performed at least 30 blowjobs. Now, go and obey my commands. Because I was first to choose you, you have no alternative but to obey. At least that's what the Official Newbie Sub Rule Book says. [;)] Come on, let the guy at least charge and hand over the money to Mistress Roch, or else he will feel cheated and like he hasn't properly served you! You could lose your Domme card for such a violation, you know!

Rochsub2009 -> RE: picking a Mistress (12/4/2011 1:59:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Come on, let the guy at least charge and hand over the money to Mistress Roch, or else he will feel cheated and like he hasn't properly served you! You could lose your Domme card for such a violation, you know! You're quite right. How could I have missed that? Wouldn't want to have my Domme card revoked. Will2Please - You are hereby commanded to charge $.01 for each of those blowjobs. You are then to turn over the proceeds to me. Your Mistress has spoken!!! Now go and start sucking, slave! Hurry, or I'll "unchoose" you.

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