Survey about habitual practices

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Baroana -> Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:44:03 AM)
I have a question for the people with long-term partners. What regular activities do you engage in that you feel most express the d/s nature of your relationship? (I hope the foregoing makes sense. If not, let me know and I will rephrase)

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:52:42 AM)
I combed his hair. It let me focus all of my attention on him, and was totally non-sexual. Either that, or massages; directing my energy to him (hopefully that doesn't sound like nutty hippy mumbo-jumbo). Personally assisting in his sense of wellbeing. Important stuff for me.

Baroana -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:53:30 AM)
Thanks for the info!

littlewonder -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:53:48 AM)
there isn't any one specific activity. We just live life like anyone else. His dominance and my submission come across quite well in our relationship due to our personalities, not our actions. He simply is a dominant personality, he takes charge. I'm a submissive personality. I'm more than thrilled to follow.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:54:39 AM)
He had miles of the stuff, so it was a nice time to be quiet together. Or talk about silly stuff. :p

Baroana -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:56:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder there isn't any one specific activity. We just live life like anyone else. His dominance and my submission come across quite well in our relationship due to our personalities, not our actions. He simply is a dominant personality, he takes charge. I'm a submissive personality. I'm more than thrilled to follow. Ok, I can see that. I can see it for myself as well.

HisPet21 -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 10:59:00 AM)
Are you asking about protocols, rituals that occur on a regular basis? Or just activities that come as a natural result of being in a D/s relationship?

Baroana -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 11:01:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HisPet21 Are you asking about protocols, rituals that occur on a regular basis? Or just activities that come as a natural result of being in a D/s relationship? What I am hoping to find out is what you personally feel defines the d/s lifestyle for you, so much so that you do it on a regular basis.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 11:05:45 AM)
That's a bigger question than your original post -- "express" vs. "define" Combing his hair, or something like that, was an expression of how I felt about him. But DEFINING the whole lifestyle? There wasn't one single activity that did that -- we just were who we were together, and were honest and happy about it. People define, affirm, redefine and reaffirm their lifestyle every day.

DesFIP -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 11:07:28 AM)
I let him lead. He decides where we're going, in what order the errands will be done. Hell, he even sets parameters for what flavor ice creams can be bought.

Baroana -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 11:10:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep That's a bigger question than your original post -- "express" vs. "define" Combing his hair, or something like that, was an expression of how I felt about him. But DEFINING the whole lifestyle? There wasn't one single activity that did that -- we just were who we were together, and were honest and happy about it. People define, affirm, redefine and reaffirm their lifestyle every day. Ok, it's a loose question. I don't know if "express" or "define" is what I'm interested in the most. Run with whatever works for you.

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 11:14:23 AM)
No worries, I'm not meaning to nitpick. I'm just really hyper and kinda overthinking. :p Just put me in DesFIP's camp.

Baroana -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 11:20:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep No worries, I'm not meaning to nitpick. I'm just really hyper and kinda overthinking. :p Just put me in DesFIP's camp. Your point was very astute. Mostly I was just trying to get a discussion going.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 12:40:49 PM)
He says. I do.

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 2:58:48 PM)
The only answer I can give is: All of them, everything. There's a thousand little things; tuna salad is made with chunks of onion in it the way Suze likes; we drink Coke not Pepsi because Hanners prefers it; when I'm watching TV and one of them joins me, I hand the remote to her; when one of them says she likes a piece of clothing or jewellery of mine, I wear it more often; showers are at the temperature they prefer them <hotter than I like for Hanners & colder than I like for Suze>; when we're out shopping, they take things off the rack and just hand them to me to carry or put in the cart; when Hanners picks up her book I turn off the TV. Its in those and a thousand other little things that nobody else would even be aware of. It permeates our lives, it is in everything we do to some degree.

DesFIP -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 3:01:31 PM)
Now if you're talking about stuff he does that puts me immediately into a fuzzy headed submissive headspace, that's different. I feel really grounded when he has a hand on my neck. Wrapped around the back of the neck or wrapping around my throat. Being yanked backwards against him in the kitchen when he comes up quietly and puts his arm around my throat. His teeth in my neck. All those things drop me out of an analytical thinking state into one of just feeling.

Baroana -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 7:16:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather The only answer I can give is: All of them, everything. There's a thousand little things; tuna salad is made with chunks of onion in it the way Suze likes; we drink Coke not Pepsi because Hanners prefers it; when I'm watching TV and one of them joins me, I hand the remote to her; when one of them says she likes a piece of clothing or jewellery of mine, I wear it more often; showers are at the temperature they prefer them <hotter than I like for Hanners & colder than I like for Suze>; when we're out shopping, they take things off the rack and just hand them to me to carry or put in the cart; when Hanners picks up her book I turn off the TV. Its in those and a thousand other little things that nobody else would even be aware of. It permeates our lives, it is in everything we do to some degree. That's very cool. Thanks for sharing.

Duskypearls -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/3/2011 7:53:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Now if you're talking about stuff he does that puts me immediately into a fuzzy headed submissive headspace, that's different. I feel really grounded when he has a hand on my neck. Wrapped around the back of the neck or wrapping around my throat. Being yanked backwards against him in the kitchen when he comes up quietly and puts his arm around my throat. His teeth in my neck. All those things drop me out of an analytical thinking state into one of just feeling. Yum!

Delilya -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/4/2011 12:20:51 AM)
Myself and my last LTR lived together for 9 years. He got home from work first and always started dinner, lit the candles, ran my bath, laid out my robe and book, got my glass of wine, turned on my music. He would wash and brush my hair, massage me, and anything else that needed to be done to help me unwind and relax after working.

kalikshama -> RE: Survey about habitual practices (12/4/2011 6:05:17 AM)
quote: What regular activities do you engage in that you feel most express the d/s nature of your relationship? I've only done this once - I spent a few hours using a pumice stone on his feet. I enjoyed giving and he enjoyed receiving. The cooking and cleaning I do on a daily basis comes from a place so innate it almost seems not worth mentioning.

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