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can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/3/2011 6:59:09 PM

vickycd1

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Hi...I love wearing anything and everything feminine nylons,short skirts,high heels,bra with breast forms, being submissive..and of course more.Are there any Mistress's interested in such a fetish like this? I wonder when i see a picture of a Mistress with a dressed up all feminine submissive if that's just for show.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/3/2011 7:03:40 PM

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This topic gets covered a lot here. You should go read the FAQ at the top of the forum. There's a section that specifically addresses your question. You might also want to read this thread: "I don't want a sissy, I want a real man!"

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/3/2011 7:10:30 PM

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Not really, many dominant females don't like males who want to be feminized. They especially don't like it when it's a major fetish you lead with.

Think of it from their point of view. Any dominant female can have (literally) any male she chooses. Why should she choose you? To fulfill your fetish needs? Not likely.

Be a sub male a dom female might want to choose. Here's a hint: treat her like a female person, not like a fetish delivery device.

That will cost you $100. Next, please.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/3/2011 7:15:10 PM

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To be fair, I know --personally--several women who enjoy feminisation. They're not a huge percentage of the femdom population.

There's a local couple where the man is Vicky in the wintertime. Great couple, neither led by the fetish. So don't lose hope, but you'll need to look harder.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/3/2011 8:21:25 PM

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Are there any Mistress's interested in such a fetish like this?

Whenever someone asks "Are there any Mistress's interested in......" the answer is usually yes. There are some somewhere who will be interested. Not all, but some.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/4/2011 1:27:53 AM

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Not this Mistress. If I wanted a female, I'd have one. I like males who serve as males.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/6/2011 12:58:00 PM

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There are plenty of women who enjoy that (I'm not one of them, the irony is not lost on me), though CollarMe isn't a place that "caters" to any specific fetish. In fact this is probably the most...."vanilla friendly" place, I guess, in terms of that it's broad and encompassing. So just like a vanilla site and you're wondering if some girl prefers opera as a first date, some will, some won't, and whether that's a deal breaker is up to you.

I've seen people throw around fetlife's name a lot, so I don't think I'm necessarily breaking rules by saying Femdommesociety (the only one off the top of my head) is a D/s site that actually -encourages- feminization in subs in their site culture. You might be better off at one of those sites, where a greater preponderance of the dommes you find will at least have interest in it.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/6/2011 3:08:59 PM

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Just be yourself and try to find someone that fits you. Do you really think you'll be happy twisting yourself around until you're not really yourself just to meet someone else (not to say you couldn't have a personality that allows you to be happy that way). If it's just an interest mention it's just an interest. If you absolutely need it to get anything out of a relationship then say so.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/6/2011 4:12:56 PM

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To be honest, I wouldn't advise make that fetish a huge priority for you. Think about it, do you really need a Domme just to crossdress? If you really do just want help with that you can find a pro or a CD transformation service, but to base a relationship on the fact that you crossdress and want her to dress you up is a bad idea.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/6/2011 6:57:13 PM

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Coming back to this...I read the OP as already BEING a CD, but is he asking whether *becoming* one would be good? Because as Hangemhigh said, being yourself is the best route. Both parties can expand their horizons by trying new stuff but a whole fetish persona?

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/6/2011 11:48:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: vickycd1

Hi...I love wearing anything and everything feminine nylons,short skirts,high heels,bra with breast forms, being submissive..and of course more.Are there any Mistress's interested in such a fetish like this? I wonder when i see a picture of a Mistress with a dressed up all feminine submissive if that's just for show.

Frankly, you're going to have trouble finding a mistress with the approach you're taking. Here, and in your profile, you only strike one note - "feminize me." Some dommes like this fetish, some don't; but it's a common enough fetish that your having the fetish isn't by itself going to intrigue or impress anyone. So my suggestion: toss out the penis photo and act like a human being rather than a cartoon.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/7/2011 12:16:45 AM

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Dude, having a dick pic as your main photo violates TOS. Tuck that trouser trout and try again so you don't get mod spanked (not fun like a real spanking ;-)

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/7/2011 4:50:54 AM

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No it's not all for show inregards to the pictures. I loving doing however I like doing it along with other things.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/10/2011 8:28:17 PM

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Hello,

Indeed there are Mistress like Myself who like owning sissy slaves as well as males who have a fetish for crossdressing or being feminized. Not all Mistresses specialize in it but do enjoy dressing up a male in pretty lingerie to look sexy. I own one slave in particular who likes being a sissy slave so much that We/we decided to do a film on it. That sissy still goes out shopping with Me almost weekly and from time to time I have the sissy come over to cook for Me and do My dishes like a good sissy maid. Where as some just like to dress up and sit and look pretty and that is fine too. It's all fun.

Hope this helps.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/10/2011 8:38:09 PM

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How much does it cost to get that close to one of you Academy babes? You come in with a whole lot of promise... yes.. I do... we do... we often do. There is always a chance to sound promising... but bottom line... how much of an open ended contract and what's the bottom line Academy babe? Even on your site you don't say how much or how to get out of the contract.

If you are going to continue to tell all these seekers what you are willing to do... tell them the bottom line as well. You need more honesty in advertisement and posting. Don't just come a postin, doing that better than most domina dance... when you know damn well... any of the suckers you pull in... don't stand much of a chance. I mean hell... if you were that busy in person with so many... you wouldn't have time to post.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/11/2011 10:29:10 AM

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Another point I would make is that many of the women who do sometimes enjoy feminizing a man, want it to be their own idea, not something that the man is asking for. They'd rather do it to a guy who is not (at least initially) turned on by the idea (except perhaps to the degree he's turned on by being dominated in general). Otherwise, they see it as catering to his fetish, not imposing their own will.

I definitely see both sides of this. (For one thing, the dream of having someone else decide to dress me up, without knowing it's something I'm into, is incredibly powerful....but waiting decades hoping it would happen seemed like a poor strategy.) Many dominant women will say things like "Forced feminization? How can it be forced if you're asking me to do it?" Which does certainly have its logic, but this conundrum doesn't seem to bother many of the same women when it comes to things like bondage or whipping or CBT.

The impression I have from CM, however, is that the FemDom community here is very much geared towards the "service' part of the equation. Starting out as a submissive male by talking about your own kinks and fetishes, whatever they are, is getting off on the wrong foot. That said, I'm not quite sure what the right foot would be...but, in case anyone is thinking it, saying "I'll do anything!" isn't likely to work either. :).

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/11/2011 11:22:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit
If you are going to continue to tell all these seekers what you are willing to do... tell them the bottom line as well. You need more honesty in advertisement and posting. Don't just come a postin, doing that better than most domina dance... when you know damn well... any of the suckers you pull in... don't stand much of a chance. I mean hell... if you were that busy in person with so many... you wouldn't have time to post.

This. ALL of it. ^^^^^^

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/11/2011 11:24:14 AM

SylvereApLeanan

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quote:

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How much does it cost to get that close to one of you Academy babes? You come in with a whole lot of promise... yes.. I do... we do... we often do. There is always a chance to sound promising...

But for the love of mike, don't ask for sex because then she/they'll be flummoxed!

OP: Asking to be feminized won't help you find a dominant woman and it can hurt you if you ask the wrong person or are pushy about it. However, it's possible to find a dominant woman who likes you enough to participate in feminization with you if that's your kink. The key here is that she has to like you as a person first. Be a considerate, well-adjusted, well-rounded individual who takes an interest in her as a person. That is what will help you find a Mistress.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/11/2011 11:27:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit
If you are going to continue to tell all these seekers what you are willing to do... tell them the bottom line as well. You need more honesty in advertisement and posting. Don't just come a postin, doing that better than most domina dance... when you know damn well... any of the suckers you pull in... don't stand much of a chance. I mean hell... if you were that busy in person with so many... you wouldn't have time to post.

This. ALL of it. ^^^^^^

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ORIGINAL: missygwen
The impression I have from CM, however, is that the FemDom community here is very much geared towards the "service' part of the equation. Starting out as a submissive male by talking about your own kinks and fetishes, whatever they are, is getting off on the wrong foot..

I'm not sure if you mean the Dommes are more service-oriented, or if you mean the guys want the Dommes to just service their fetishes. Actually there are some nice sub males on here but there is a percentage of guys that start out with their own fetishes, rather than treating Dommes like women first, are the ones who want the Dommes to be service-oriented. Not the Dommes.

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RE: can asking to be feminized help find a Mistress - 12/11/2011 11:50:55 AM

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