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Hey, just getting started - 12/5/2011 9:13:12 PM

lameusername

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Hey everyone,
so I have had a profile on this site for a little while but I'm just starting to actively look. Not as easy as it sounds.
What I'm thinking is that I need to make some friends and learn more.
I'm easy going, laid back, and can hold a conversation with most.
If anyone has advice to offer, I'm all ears but please don't respond with negativity. It is a waste of both of our time. Thanks
Pat

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 4:09:08 AM

DarkSteven

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Negativity? Nah. You're doing everything right, or at least not doing anything wrong.

1. Your profile is spelled properly
2. Your username shows a sense of humor.
3. Your photo shows your face, not your *ahem* other features.
4. Your Likes and Dislikes list show you to have a life outside of fetish and kink.

Basically, you sound like the kind of man that Dommes keep complaining they can't find.

You've been on this site for a bit over a year. If you're striking out, you must be not looking for in-person events such as munches. Or not initiating contact and waiting for the ladies to come to you. Or, maybe, since you're 26, you're focusing on the 21 year olds and not the 30ish ones.

That's all I can figure.

Welcome to the forums.

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 4:53:28 AM

Fornica

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Hi Pat. Don't assume we're all going to be negative. It makes you look defensive.
Other than that, hi :)

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 5:24:33 AM

ashjor911

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Welcome To CM

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 6:27:54 AM

searching4mysir

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Dark Steven is right on the money.

If you go to the "Ask a Mistress" room, there are two documents stuck at the top. Reading them would be a good idea. They were written by several lifestyle dommes on this site.

If you are looking for lifestyle (instead of a pro) the hide and block buttons will be your friend. Put in the appropriate search parameters (age, location if important, straight/bi, etc.) and go through the profiles. If they demand tribute or try to send you to a pay site, hide/block and you won't have to worry about it coming up again in your search. Also, if the photo is "too good to be true" check it against tineye (I know Chrome has an add-in extension for the browser).

Lifestyle dommes are not in the majority here (but they ARE here)...if you want a relationship with one you are going to have to do some work.

Welcome to the discussion side of CM!

< Message edited by searching4mysir -- 12/6/2011 6:29:02 AM >

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 6:39:10 AM

stellauk

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The light switch is usually on the left hand side of the door.

(just kidding)

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 7:15:22 AM

OohAahMrs

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..don't you leave me broken hearted.

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 2:35:50 PM

lameusername

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Thanks for all the feed back everyone. Yeah I'm not sure why I just checked this part of the site out until now. Seems as though the actual real people are over here

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RE: Hey, just getting started - 12/6/2011 3:00:53 PM

Ninebelowzero

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Hiya Iam hope you enjoy yourself here.

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