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mike8249 -> new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 1:53:17 PM)

Hey just getting into this looking for any advive on the life style or even this site.
thanks;
Mike.



Fornica -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 1:56:55 PM)

Be more specific, Mike. And did you read the FAQ's?



mike8249 -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 2:13:53 PM)

no but thats the help i'm looking for. thanks!
this will sound dumb and people will prob have some things to say about this but i'm not shure what questions to ask so ill just start here.



xxblushesxx -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 2:17:09 PM)

Know what I'd do? Read, read, read. Mostly the forums, but also some of the classifieds, both what you're looking to attract, and others who advertise the same as you. (I believe in your case it's a sub male, correct?)
When you feel compelled by something you've read, make a comment on it, or ask a question, or even start your own thread if your question doesn't fit in neatly with the discussion. This way you'll get to know people, and they you, and you'll learn much more than just jumping in willy nilly.
You may want to do a search on sub frenzy. (not that you're displaying it, but I think it's important for new people to be aware of.)
And welcome!



Hillwilliam -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 2:18:03 PM)

Here's my advice. Hang out. Read the questions and answers of others. Read the "Ask a Mistress section".

At least you're smart enough to not go charging in until you know the question to ask. It will come to you just be patient.



Kana -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 2:25:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mike8249

Hey just getting into this looking for any advive on the life style or even this site.
thanks;
Mike.


Cock shots make for great introductory messages :-)



Fornica -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 2:29:54 PM)

It's all good. You've been respectful, and such. You're good people ;)
quote:

ORIGINAL: mike8249

no but thats the help i'm looking for. thanks!
this will sound dumb and people will prob have some things to say about this but i'm not shure what questions to ask so ill just start here.





DarkSteven -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 2:43:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

When you feel compelled by something you've read, make a comment on it, or ask a question, or even start your own thread if your question doesn't fit in neatly with the discussion.


I'd suggest starting one asking why the pro Dommes aren't banned.  [8D]



Ninebelowzero -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 3:08:29 PM)

Yeah What Steven said & get a full frontal nudie shot with an erection too.
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

When you feel compelled by something you've read, make a comment on it, or ask a question, or even start your own thread if your question doesn't fit in neatly with the discussion.


I'd suggest starting one asking why the pro Dommes aren't banned.  [8D]



Joking btw



SorceressJ -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 3:16:42 PM)

I think it's adorable how all the males are giving the Really Bad (but joking) Advice. You guys are lucky you're cute. [;)]

to the OP: [sm=welcomewave.gif]



mike8249 -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 3:35:11 PM)

thank you to all!



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 4:54:19 PM)

I answered in Ask a Master, but I will copy and paste my reply here, in case one of the double posts gets deleted. Since double=posting is really against the rules. Here goes:

Also, Fetlife is another kink site & it has much better networking for finding events. Check it out, they have a LOT of regional and local groups that you can check into for networking re: local goings on.

NBMG



xxblushesxx -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 5:28:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

When you feel compelled by something you've read, make a comment on it, or ask a question, or even start your own thread if your question doesn't fit in neatly with the discussion.


I'd suggest starting one asking why the pro Dommes aren't banned.  [8D]



Thanks Steven...[:-][&o]



DarkSteven -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/7/2011 6:13:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

When you feel compelled by something you've read, make a comment on it, or ask a question, or even start your own thread if your question doesn't fit in neatly with the discussion.


I'd suggest starting one asking why the pro Dommes aren't banned.  [8D]



Thanks Steven...[:-][&o]


Mike's too late.  UncleDuke just started one: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3952458/tm.htm



AneNoz -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/8/2011 6:58:29 PM)

My advice is for you to be most careful indeed in what it is you would ask for. Ere you seek to be owned, it would be best to both know yourself and what is within your heart most surely. Some choices offer no redress and offer not the chance of revocation.

Be at peace
Aneka



hangemhigh1953 -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/9/2011 10:14:39 PM)

You're already a few steps ahead in wanting to learn about it first instead of spamming the Mistress section with "someone please recreate my favorite porn video for me".



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/10/2011 9:13:58 AM)

I'd say, read read read the message boards and also get thee too a munch. Here's a link to BDSM Groups in Ontario, Canada. Hope this helps.

NBMG



coldblue29 -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/19/2011 6:02:35 PM)

Perhaps my view is skewed, but I wouldn't recommend looking for a partner on this site. Or any website for that matter. It's great for advice, for knowledge, but not for finding a partner. There are many kinky people out there, you would be shocked if you really knew.
If you're simply looking to fulfill a fantasy, looking on a website may be for you.
Common myth: male submissives are a dime a dozen. It's not a common myth online because most "submissive males" are only on here to get off. If you actually go out to a munch or something (munches are get-togethers of like minded people) you'd find that submissive males are actually quite rare. You'd find that you're quite accepted and actually fawned over (and what subby wouldnt like that??) How could that be you ask? It's because a dom or a domme cant be that unless they have a sub. Yes, you need them, but they need you as well, don't forget that.
Now, as for the why aren't sub males more common? Because giving up your will to a woman or man simply isn't manly. Hate to bring up how guys are raised but that IS how all guys are raised, whether it be by a parent or teacher or friends or even Lou down at the quickymart.



MistressDarkArt -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/20/2011 12:56:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: coldblue29

Perhaps my view is skewed,


'Tis skewed and alas a bit...erm...screwed, imo.

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but I wouldn't recommend looking for a partner on this site. Or any website for that matter. It's great for advice, for knowledge, but not for finding a partner.


My partner Wayward and I would beg to differ. We found each other here, and it's very unlikely we would have crossed paths otherwise. There have been many partnerships and marriages formed on this website. Just go on the Positive Experiences board...there's a lot to read.

quote:

Common myth: male submissives are a dime a dozen.


I've found this 'myth' to be true. I never had trouble finding genuinely submissive males both on and offsite. It may not always be a match due to lack of chemistry but that would be true no matter what the venue.

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It's not a common myth online because most "submissive males" are only on here to get off.

That is a poor generalization, and one that could prevent the OP from finding an ideal match. Wayward wasn't 'looking to get off' (though I enjoy inducing that in him). He was looking for a long-term, significant partnership and now we have one.

Perhaps you haven't been successful here, but that's not true of everyone. The OP is an intelligent young man who is open to growth and learning. That alone makes him desirable, IMO. My advice is to keep an open mind and use all possible venues including this one to connect with people.



Higuysitsme -> RE: new looking for advice> thanks. (12/20/2011 5:06:37 AM)

Take note of the mainly good advice already offered; avoiding the tongue in cheek suggestions about full frontal and cock shots! A sense of humour, even in bdsm, goes a long way in helping generate good feelings and relationships.

You have a nice honest profile and pretty pics. Now you've made a start, look into the kinds of things that you THINK interest you. Bear in mind that if you haven't as yet actually done some of them, the fantasy of them may be quite different from the reality. In fantasy, I love the idea of getting my bits whipped all roads; the reality would be likely to be far too painful (although I am always open to offers......ahem!) Chat on the boards and try messaging people on the site you find interesting; but do bear in mind its easy for people to hide behind a computer screen. Not everyone is as they present themselves. (Sorry; may be just my prejudices coming out here!) Don't go instantly to msn or yahoo or give out your private email or phone number to people who ask for them before you have established some degree of trust. God forbid, but the odd scammer has been known to be on the site! Not us guys like; we're the good guys!

And have fun and enjoy yourself; and all good wishes in your search.

And bear in mind that male subs are in reality in a majority, and female dommes in a minority, so you need to stand out to make an impression. They have a lot to choose from. although you are pretty cute........lol



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