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sheareddelight -> Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:13:57 PM)
I have a question that I would like to throw out to the group... How would you respond to a Master or Dom, that requested to see your picture before you even exchanged an email to determine if there was an interest by either or both parties? Am I way off base here? I look forward to the replies. Thank you, delight

Prunesquallor -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:15:47 PM)
I would say that he appeared to be someone for whom physical appearance overrode everything else. That would lead me on to suspect that he might turn out to be rather shallow.

JohnWarren -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:23:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sheareddelight I have a question that I would like to throw out to the group... How would you respond to a Master or Dom, that requested to see your picture before you even exchanged an email to determine if there was an interest by either or both parties? Am I way off base here? I look forward to the replies. Thank you, delight I think a polite "let's wait until we know each other a bit better." If he gets upset or just vanishes, that tells you a lot about him

Level -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:23:11 PM)
Ehhh, not much wrong with wanting to know what another looks like. Now, if he wants a nude pic.... he may be a wanker, a sticky-fingered rogue, and I'd tell him "naw". If it feels wrong to you, then move on to someone more in line with you. Level

zumala -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:30:30 PM)
I agree with the general concensus. There's nothing wrong with giving someone a clothed photo, but I would distrust a person who just outright asks for one before he'll even get to know me. zuma

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:31:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level Ehhh, not much wrong with wanting to know what another looks like. Now, if he wants a nude pic.... he may be a wanker, a sticky-fingered rogue, and I'd tell him "naw". If it feels wrong to you, then move on to someone more in line with you. Level I agree...a pic is one thing, a nude pic is another.

talibahh -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:38:54 PM)
well... how much contact have* you had with Him? Is it the very first thing He has asked you before getting to know much about you at all?* Have you asked to see a pic of Him? And what did He say? i think trust your instincts... i don't see a problem with a pic, if like Level says, its not a nude one and you* feel comfortable sharing.* However, i think that by you asking the question here, maybe your instincts are telling you to be weary? So if this is the case, i would go with what JohnWarren has told you. Trust your instincts... hopes this helps, tali

Lordandmaster -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:39:05 PM)
I've talked to more than one sub who made the same (unreasonable) request, you know. It's not just big bad evil doms who do this. One sub even demanded to know my home telephone number!

feastie -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:47:39 PM)
My pic is posted. However, I didn't always post one. The people that thought it was more important that they saw my picture before ever having a word of conversation with me were people that I just didn't need to know.

Wulfchyld -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:55:57 PM)
Yes I know we have been talking for months and get along very well. Oh thanks for the picture, I am so happy to finally get to see you. As for the arm growing out of your forehead... not a problem. Yes I know it is one of my hard limits but for you, anything is just peachy.

SweetSarijane -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 5:58:44 PM)
My pic is posted, but if it weren't and seemed more important to someone to see what I look like before talking and getting to know me, then for me, I doubt I'd want to get to know them. Sounds rather shallow. Looks first then if good enough talk. Just the way I would see it.

Proprietrix -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 6:18:03 PM)
ehhh I go both ways on this. On the one hand, yeah, asking for a pic can smack of shallow. On the other hand, I really don't care to establish any kind of rapport with someone who reminds me of Uncle Icky who made me sit on his lap in my wet swim suit when I was 6. Nor do I want to be courting a gal only to find out that the reason she can't send a pic is because she's really a 52 year old man in mom's basement.

Morpheus07 -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 6:32:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zumala I agree with the general concensus. There's nothing wrong with giving someone a clothed photo, but I would distrust a person who just outright asks for one before he'll even get to know me. zuma It is funny that you mention this, as it has been my experience that many, many submissive women will not even begin talking without seeing a pic. Which is their right, and tells me something important (from my perspective) about them. I find that the better looking people (or those who think they are) on both sides of the aisle want to know that they are talking to someone they would actually be seen in public with, before they get started. I for one do not mind sending a pic, and can usually guess beforehand who will be emailing me back and who will be putting me on ignore. Pics are not all that important to me as the most beautiful woman in the world can appear quite ugly with a poor attitude/personality or less than stellar mind. And those are some of the things that attract me to people.

feastie -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 6:48:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld Yes I know we have been talking for months and get along very well. Oh thanks for the picture, I am so happy to finally get to see you. As for the arm growing out of your forehead... not a problem. Yes I know it is one of my hard limits but for you, anything is just peachy. I've yet to see someone with an arm growing out of his forehead, but I have seen many with heads that seem to grow out of their asses [:D]

Sinergy -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 6:57:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sheareddelight How would you respond to a Master or Dom, that requested to see your picture before you even exchanged an email to determine if there was an interest by either or both parties? Hello A/all, I would politely email the Dom or Master back and indicate that I am a Dominant heterosexual male, and indicate they will have better luck in their search for a shallow pond in a deep sea of intelligent and articulate submissives if they READ PROFILES once in a while. And if I felt really obnoxious, I would write that out in Dutch. But that, of course, is just me and I could be wrong. Sinergy

MHOO314 -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 7:04:02 PM)
When subs do that, I send them the pick of Lord and Master, if they can handle elephants screwing, they can chat with Me.. okok Im teasing.

perverseangelic -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 7:06:07 PM)
< rant > I don't mind too much being asked for a picture, but then again, I have clear face photos with my profiles everywhere, as I'm lucky enough to be able to be out. I get very frustrated by individuals who demand I turn on my (nonexistant) webcam or call them on the phone before they will talk with me. The excuse I've gotten is that they've met a lot of men pretending to be women.Well, if we're just talking online, why does it -matter- if I'm a man or a woman? And if we're going to meet, wouldn't it become abundantly clear, very fast? There's a huge number of people we never met, because they wouldn't meet us for coffee without me showing myself on cam. I just don't -get- that. If you live close together, the most that one's lost in a little bit of time. If I wasn't a woman, you'd probably notice pretty fast. < / rant >

sheareddelight -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 7:29:06 PM)
Thank you for all of the replies. And, yes, this was the first thing that he had to say to me. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being unrealistic in my expectations. Thank you, delight

sublizzie -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 7:32:19 PM)
While a picture is not a guarantee that the person sending it is being accurately represented, it does tend to deal with the 13-year-old boys playing tricks. It also handles any possible spam-type emails. If someone asks for my picture I will send it to them. For me, it's not a biggie. Sometimes I hear from them again. Often I do not. That's fine. It's another one of those things that helps weed out the ones I don't really want to deal with!

Chaingang -> RE: Question for the group (5/28/2006 7:38:06 PM)
More fundamentally: I don't get how this is working. If there has been no email, are you communicating by telepathy? Lacking any knowledge of you beforehand why did he even contact you at all? If you are conversing via chat, then that's like emails except via short messages. Why chat if you aren't interested? How would you find out if you were interested but by further conversation, emails, and picture exchanges? [8\|]

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