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HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 1:33:53 PM   
kernelpanic


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Status: offline 		I'm looking for a 24/7 slave situation. I'll happily relocate the proper candidate.

I'm a strict master, I have a set of laws that I want followed. Break a house law, and the slave is punished directly proportional to the infraction. Of course punishments will be determined based on the particular slave...

While I'm strict, I also reward well for good behavior. Even while I'm rewarding, I don't lose sight of the fact that the slave is my property.

Anyway, figured I'd pop a message in the forums here, I'm getting a little disheartened from a lot of the people who claim they are subs/slaves on this site... they make so many demands.

Meh, I'll be around.

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 1:55:12 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Hi there.  Welcome to collarme.

There aren't that many women willing to be 24/7 live-in slaves right off the bat.  You seem like a nice enough guy - just meet sub women and date them.  See if things are compatible enough for Dom/sub.  Then move into M/s after a few months or years.

Almost all the women willing to chuck it all to move in with someone they don't know and instantly jump into TPE - they'd have to have some serious issues.

Seriously, this isn't that different from vanilla.  We just have kinkier sex.


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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:08:58 PM   
kernelpanic


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the advice man!

Yah, I've messed around with the D/s stuff on and off... but never anything longer than a full weekend... Figured I'd take the move to Austin as a fresh start on a new life for me... complete with diving into this world even further :P

I guess I should re-word my profile teehee... while I'm looking for TPE 24/7 I do understand that it is quite a bit to just 'dive' into it with a complete stranger... But I do want it known that is ultimately what I'm looking for....


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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:10:51 PM   
JanahX


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Status: offline 		First off welcome.

I just read your profile and it reads like you want an instant relationship. You are talking about home base, when you havent even gone up to bat!
I would recommend to s l o w down.
Have you ever been in relationship before? Let alone live with a slave 24/7?
its just coming across a bit wankerish.

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:17:37 PM   
kernelpanic


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Status: offline 		Hi there!

Yah, I've been in a relationship before lol I was married (for too long)...

I've never had a live in before, but I've done weekend long M/s TPE sessions before...

Taking the paid relocation for work as a way to dive further into the fet-world :P


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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:17:54 PM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kernelpanic
I've messed around with the D/s stuff on and off... but never anything longer than a full weekend... Figured I'd take the move to Austin as a fresh start on a new life for me... complete with diving into this world even further :P



MAJOR red flags.

1. You have essentially no experience and yet want a 24/7 TPE slave.  They will be putting their life in your hands and will want someone with lots of experience.

2. You have no contacts in the local community and likely none where you moved from.

Why is it so important that you have TPE?  You've never had that kind of control over someone.  It's not easy - I have known a couple of men who could maintain that, and they're very strong, experienced, controlling people.  And even they have difficulties finding slavegirls.  You don't fit that mold.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:30:17 PM   
kernelpanic


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Status: offline 		Well, I'd be stupid not to listen to the more experienced :P

Maybe I should say TPE is what I think I want hahaha

Any suggestions on what kind of mold I would fit in? I'm looking for more than just a weekend thing... live in would be optimum. What do you think I should be looking for?

I have some contacts in the semi-local community here. I say semi-local because they are 3 hours away... met up with them at a huge convention last year... I was 'dabbling' in stuff on my own, and those guys seriously helped me out as to finding more of what I was looking for...

Sorry if this seems rambling... Trying to get my thoughts in order at the same time I'm doing some programming work.



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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:40:25 PM   
kalikshama


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I'll happily relocate the proper candidate.


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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:43:48 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		The net in Nigeria, Ghana and Texas just crashed due to overloading, huh?

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:44:44 PM   
kernelpanic


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Status: offline 		lol yah, thats not on the agenda either...

I work in Cyber-security, cryptography and online anonymity stuff... (i.e. I find ways to electronically beat scammers, phishers, and the likes)...

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 2:54:11 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Ya, but sometimes the all the blood goes to the little head.

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 3:17:36 PM   
Fornica


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Status: offline 		Slow down.
Slow down.
then, slow down again.
Welcome to CM.

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 3:27:35 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kernelpanic

I work in Cyber-security, cryptography and online anonymity stuff... (i.e. I find ways to electronically beat scammers, phishers, and the likes)...


You'll have a field-day with that here, kernel!

24/7 TPE's a freakin' pain for a dominant. Too much work. Look for a nice, well-adjusted woman you can smile and laugh with; if she's from CM listing herself as a sub or slave it's a given she's into the dynamic so no need to lead with that. Women are always women first, sub, slave or dominant further down the list. There are no shortcuts; treat them as such and you will succeed. Best of luck to you, and welcome to CM!

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 3:54:23 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

quote:

ORIGINAL: kernelpanic
I've messed around with the D/s stuff on and off... but never anything longer than a full weekend... Figured I'd take the move to Austin as a fresh start on a new life for me... complete with diving into this world even further :P



MAJOR red flags.

1. You have essentially no experience and yet want a 24/7 TPE slave.  They will be putting their life in your hands and will want someone with lots of experience.

2. You have no contacts in the local community and likely none where you moved from.

Why is it so important that you have TPE?  You've never had that kind of control over someone.  It's not easy - I have known a couple of men who could maintain that, and they're very strong, experienced, controlling people.  And even they have difficulties finding slavegirls.  You don't fit that mold.



Well, I'm going to add that I found this disheartening.


quote:

ORIGINAL: kernelpanic
I'm getting a little disheartened from a lot of the people who claim they are subs/slaves on this site... they make so many demands.


They're not your sub or slave and just because you've labeled yourself as dominant, doesn't mean you are. Until they are in a relationship, they have every right to have "demands" and find someone that fits what they want in a relationship.


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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 4:02:29 PM   
ashjor911


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Status: offline 		Welcome To CM

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 6:09:36 PM   
BurntKitty


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From: Here To Eternity.
Status: offline 		Welcome to CM. Like the other peeps said, slow down.

Get to know someone as a woman first. Date a few. Leave all d/s out of the equation at first. When you meet someone you're compatible with on a vanilla front, then ease into the d/s. Slowly. You had a 24/7 dynamic previously. You did say you were married. Did you move in together after the first date? Think of tpe as that. Take it slowly. Hell Tx is prime kink territory with a passel of munches & events. Head on over to them. Take your time. And did I mention go slowly?

Good luck!

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RE: HI there! Dom looking for live in slave - 12/8/2011 6:39:52 PM   
Fornica


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Status: offline 		O. I missed that. Umm yeah. What she said.
quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Well, I'm going to add that I found this disheartening.


quote:

ORIGINAL: kernelpanic
I'm getting a little disheartened from a lot of the people who claim they are subs/slaves on this site... they make so many demands.


They're not your sub or slave and just because you've labeled yourself as dominant, doesn't mean you are. Until they are in a relationship, they have every right to have "demands" and find someone that fits what they want in a relationship.




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There is no spoon.


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