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Hello. - 12/9/2011 7:17:07 AM

LaurenceL

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Hey, I'm new here. Interested in BDSM but never tried it before. And curiosity got the better of me, so need lots of guidance from the seniors here. :)

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 7:17:49 AM

ashjor911

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Welcome To CM

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 7:59:22 AM

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Hello, welcome. Er....what kind of guidance do you need?

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 8:03:38 AM

LaurenceL

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hi, well, i have taken interest in submissive. But i do not know the rules, the language etc? As in when servicing a mistress , what should i do?

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 8:51:32 AM

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There aren't rules.
It's a lifestyle.
There's a forum in here called "Ask a Mistress", and at the very top, an FAQ. It's a good starting point.

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 9:04:51 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaurenceL

hi, well, i have taken interest in submissive. But i do not know the rules, the language etc? As in when servicing a mistress , what should i do?

Well, you hunt down a woman that you want to dominate you, club her over the head, drag her by her hair to your cave and yell "Dominate me, dang you!" until she wakes up and does as she is told.

j/k

Check out the Ask a Mistress forum and read the FAQs there.

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 9:07:58 AM

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Yes, Fornica had a great suggestion. The thing is, everyone does things differently. Some people like using special language or gestures, others don't. It's not a case where you can read some general rules and be set. I'd say in your case the best thing to remember is that it's not about you, it's about what your potential Dominant wants, and no one is your potential Dominant until you both decide you'd like to try that type of thing out. You just approach Dominant women as women. You should concentrate on first being polite, charming, and good company just like any other time when you want to meet a woman. You don't talk about kink right off the bat, you get to know people as just people. You tell everyone in emails or in your profile that you're new, and they'll understand to let you know what they want.

So...when you do meet someone you'd like to take things farther with, they'll probably give you a general idea of how they want you to service them. It's not something you're just supposed to know. Ask them, they'll be glad to tell you what they prefer. It's not something to ask however of any Domme out there because remember...you get to know them as women first.

Go do some reading in the Mistress section, you won't regret it. If you have more questions throw them out there, you may get some information that helps. Remember, there are a lot of women out there who do Domination for money. If you want that then great, if not learn to tell the difference and keep looking. There are not a lot of lifestyle Dominant women out there so be prepared to put some energy into your search.

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RE: Hello. - 12/9/2011 9:37:42 AM

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Oh okay. Thanks for the advices! :)

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RE: Hello. - 12/10/2011 9:21:00 AM

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Hi lau, (very good) You need to go to one of those sites, look at the pretty pictures, make an appointment, then see if it's like you think it should be!

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RE: Hello. - 12/10/2011 1:38:22 PM

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good luck

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RE: Hello. - 12/10/2011 1:56:00 PM

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Welcome!

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RE: Hello. - 12/10/2011 3:03:14 PM

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Seniors? Whose she calling 'seniors'?! Cheeky young ...............woman!

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