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Higuysitsme -> RE: Stranger Danger (12/10/2011 3:27:05 PM)
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I suppose it depends on the fantasy; why is no one you know willing to engage in it with you? Because its boring for them, or because its too extreme?
For me, the first time you actually let someone make you helpless while you're alone with them is an enormous act of faith. Even if you have spent time getting to know them beforehand, there is always just that little bit of risk that you haven't got to know them well enough. It may be part of your kink to do this with someone unknown to you, and it may be the element of risk that's the endorphin rush, I don't know. But this could be your life or long term future health you're talking about here, so I think if it was me I'd want to put in place all the safeguards I could without necessarily destroying the pleasure of the scene.
So if possible, a verified name and address of the person, left with a friend you can trust not to open it unless you don't put in an appearance next day or whenever, could be one idea. Although that don't stop you maybe being tortured for hours against your will; nor being given a solid dose of some STD. Obviously, she would need to know you've done this for it to be any safeguard at all.
Does she have references, people on the scene that know her and can verify she is safe player? If not, why not?
Better would be a large friend downstairs or calling in an hour or so, to check all is well; surely with friends on the scene you can find someone like this? Or just the standard safe call using a code word an hour after she starts on you, and again each hour or so maybe thereafter; code words need to either change, and you to remember them, or else be subtle enough she can't be sure what it is!
If all this cuts into the idea of your scene then I admit its tricky. But ya did ask!
Good luck to you.
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