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SorceressJ -> RE: San Francisco gay male sub for Str8/Married Men (12/16/2011 9:44:38 AM)
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OP, for my part, I get that you are just practising your very narrowly focused kink. Fine, to each their own, at any age. I also get that it probably does something for you on a deeper level to be that special catalyst for a male who IDs as straight. Ok, between consenting adults, that's a no-brainer. But when you scope out married men who may have wives and families who would be hurt by the duplicity of yourself and the straying husband who requires your discretion - this means you are hurting non-consenting others that may include offspring; it makes you dishonest and possibly a homewrecker (well GEE, it's not like THAT never happens..), and you have then lost all right to be respected in your freedom of choice, and from most of the people here, will not receive it.
In stretched theory, if I were the spouse of one of your marks and he went with you behind my back, I would 1) question my sanity for ever marrying that person and wonder why I hadn't seen his true character previously; 2) leave him and take him for everything he's worth, and 3) come after you to share my pain in a way that I can promise you would NOT enjoy, regardless of whether or not you're 60.
Yes, I -am- just a bitch like that. I am a grown woman of almost 45 summers, it is my right and I do not apologize. Think what you will, I certainly do.
We all speak our minds from a deep place of internal judgement. For a cognizant adult, this is our prerogative, and we all do it. So do you. Everyone does, whether or not we think ourselves to be the judgemental type, insomuch as we may even try to keep this judging to a minimum in consideration of to each their own. But you cannot expect us to respect your choices when they may involve others to the above extent. Please do not insult our relative intelligences by suggesting that all the spouses of your marks know about and accept what you do with their husbands, because I will call bullshit on you if you do.
This is why I personally will have nothing remotely intimate to do with any married or spoken-for person, because of the inherent issues which almost always come up. Now, if every once in a blue moon or two you run across one whose spouse openly consents to something, then that is a whole different ball of wax, but one I would personally be leery of unless I were theoretically able to speak with that spouse myself to confirm their consent and that no one was being hurt by my actions.
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