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searching4mysir -> RE: Daddys new girl? (12/16/2011 8:28:21 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr
On a side note: I don't necessarily agree that "a dominant goes after what he wants" as a flat statement. Certainly, I show ladies that I'm interested in getting to know them better but I have never been the "hit-'em-in-the-head-with-a-club-and-drag-them-off-by-the-hair" type. Unfortuantely, I believe to some extent, that since it is the submissive's choice to serve or not serve (and even on a daily basis), some of the onus rests on their shoulders.
Michael,
I didn't mean that the submissive didn't have any responsibility here or that he had to chase. Were I searching and unhappy with what was coming my way, I wouldn't hesitate to make myself known to a dominant that interested me.
I just meant that a dominant usually knows his own mind about what he is looking for and doesn't often delegate the start of a relationship (and whether it is sex-only or something deeper, there is still some sort of relationship there) to another.
If I were poly and a woman approached me to be a third (or a 4th in this case) I wouldn't take her seriously because my relationship is primarily with HIM, not her. Yes, depending on the poly structure I might have to be sexually attracted to her as well, but he is the primary relationship.
In this case, she claims he is "hot" but doesn't attach a pic of him...we are just supposed to take her word for it as well as her word that "I" might be compatible with him. She really says nothing about him or what he is looking for other than the fact that it is a 4th.
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