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needlesandpins -> RE: How do you define the "Perfect Partner?" (12/22/2011 3:45:03 PM)
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the problem with finding your 'perfect person' is that they don't always think you are perfect for them.
also, the person you thought was perfect to start with may tarnish as the years go by. now that can be ok, but it depends how bad it gets. being in-love puts padding over someone's faults sometimes. now if that person just keeps chipping away at that love you'll soon find that the flaws that looked like faint hairlines are really gapping cracks.
i guess for me 'perfect' depends on what we are talking about. as someone else said, it's as much about how i feel when with a person as much as anything else. i have to have trust in them. i want them to treat me with consideration and respect. i don't want double standards, whereby they treat someone else in their life better than me, and think it's ok to treat me as a lesser person just because i haven't been in their life as long. if you wouldn't treat this other person the way you are treating me then don't do it to me, i deserve better. don't put less effort into me than you do them, it's bad form. i want someone to look at me with 'that' look. i want someone who looks at me and thinks i'm beautiful and can actually tell me that like they mean it. i want to be wanted, not just because i turn them on; afterall, anyone can want to fuck you, but really want me in their life. when they look at me with that intencity and i say 'what?' that it's actually something instead of 'nothing' (i miss it being something, or at least being told anyway) on top of all that i want them to understand that i don't want full on in-your-pocket anymore. mostly i want to be able to feel that i'm enough in that i'm good enough that the thought of someone else wouldn't even enter their head because no-one else would have anything better to offer than what i'm giving them.
actual perfection is hard to expect though don't you think? i'm not perfect so how can i expect someone else to be? not only that, but perfection is intimidating when you know yourself to be less than. therein lays another problem, someone could actually find me perfect for them, but would i think them the same?
in conclusion i think that being enough for each other is better than perfection which is too hard to live upto.
needles
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