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Age - 5/29/2006 1:23:34 PM   
nightstick1


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Status: offline 		A younger "friend" of mine sent me a mail the other day asking why there is not a catagory for younger seeking older, or older seeking younger.  Is there anyone out there that has this particular desire, or any comments in this regard?   
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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 1:24:47 PM   
nightstick1


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Status: offline 		If I don't answer right away, I'm off doing something else.... I will however respond.

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 1:28:57 PM   
desertdancer


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Status: offline 		I'm sure there are lots out there that desire, younger looking for older or vise versa, if there isn't an option for that, one could just write it into their profile....

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 2:00:21 PM   
mstrjx


Posts: 2045
Joined: 11/27/2005
Status: offline 		Nightstick,

If the rest of the items on the 'activities' lists are fetishes of sorts, I'm not certain to what extent actual age (as opposed to age play) is a fetish.  One time I did have a submissive for eight months who was substantially younger than myself, but it began more out her spirit more than anything.  Partner-less now I would say the same thing; that age is not as big a deal to me as whether I feel her feelings about herself and the Lifestyle match mine.

With me, however, I think I'm beginning to feel that my years of experience (age, not Lifestyle) might be catching up with me.  I realize that mid-40's with 15 years in the Lifestyle doesn't 'sound' old and with possibly an ideal amount of experience, but somehow I think the latest wave of women coming into their own with their interests might not find me the catch that perhaps I am.

Hmmm, perhaps that category is necessary after all.

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 2:01:13 PM   
lisa1978


Posts: 224
Joined: 5/19/2006
From: Kansas City
Status: offline 		I know this is a gross generalization, but you can pretty much count on most of the men pretty much anyone their age or younger is in their search area so a category for them would do little good.



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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 2:05:48 PM   
LordofLightAZ


Posts: 3
Joined: 2/26/2006
From: Arizona
Status: offline 		Hell, if t breathes it is in my age category.  Living in the US I guess I should say "If it takes an adult breath."

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 3:08:24 PM   
NastyDaddy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nightstick1
A younger "friend" of mine sent me a mail the other day asking why there is not a catagory for younger seeking older, or older seeking younger.  Is there anyone out there that has this particular desire, or any comments in this regard?   


My gawd, how preposterous and unimagineable... a young lusty woman desiring an old worn out fart!  Poppycock?

There are perverts and then there are more experienced perverts, so who's to say who wants what.

Making categories for young pervert seeking old pervert and vice-versa would only invite more perverts of both ages...

Do we have enough already or do we need more?

  

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 7:10:58 PM   
fullofgrace


Posts: 395
Joined: 3/24/2006
From: fl, usa
Status: offline 		i'm in an age gap relationship with an especially large age gap. i tend to be drawn more to older men, so if i were ever seeking a Dominant, i'd probably start with the 30 and above range, but that doesn't mean i have anything against being with men (or women) younger than that, either. i just find that i tend to click better with partners who are at least 10 years older than me.

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 7:52:00 PM   
slaverosebeauty


Posts: 1941
Joined: 12/12/2004
From: Cali
Status: offline 		'Age gap' relationships have been around for thousands of years, they actually have worked out better than thos relationships where both partners are close in age, since they are more likely to learn from one another and be more 'openminded.' After my exhusband, I went full throttle into that, no more men tthat are wihin 10 years, 15 if I can help it of my own age; I need someone with maturity, intelligence and who will keep me on my toes in and out of the bedroom; its very very hard to find that in men around my own age, I have made few exceptins and when those exceptions were made, and things got 'bad' I was reminded of WHY I ONLY date older men.
You won't catch me with a man under 35 any more, or 40 if I can help it.

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 8:02:42 PM   
IronBear


Posts: 9008
Joined: 6/19/2005
From: Beenleigh, Qld, Australia
Status: offline 		Well y'all know Neets and I have a 30 year age difference with me eing the Old fart at 61 and Neets being 31.. It works for us.. 

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 8:04:24 PM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline 		Well, first....you can set your search criteria for a certain age range. Then I suggest actually reading the profiles, rather than just looking at the pictures.

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 8:15:17 PM   
ADomDoc


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Joined: 11/8/2005
From: San Antonio
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx
If the rest of the items on the 'activities' lists are fetishes of sorts, I'm not certain to what extent actual age (as opposed to age play) is a fetish.

Just a side comment that doesn't change your argument ... there is a big difference between preference & "fetish."  Ask any dirty old man if they want someone younger ... and most will jump at the opportunity.  Lots of the married men on this board are cruising for a sub 1/2 their age but they function with a wife of a similar age. We don't get into the area of "fetish" until it's an activity (or pre-requisite such as an article of clothing) to fulfillment (presumably orgasm).  [I defer to any shrink who can functionally tighten up my definition. But I think I've got the gist of it.]  So fetishists into age differential relationships are, frankly, the child abusers that cruise the schoolyards & other activities frequented by children. 

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 8:27:56 PM   
slaverosebeauty


Posts: 1941
Joined: 12/12/2004
From: Cali
Status: offline 		So what does that make someone like me who gets 'older' men's attention?? I don't ask for it, they just seem 'drawn' to me liek a moth to a flame {per my best friend}. Besides, I have a t-shirt a friend's mom made for me a few years ago it says
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I AM a Mid-life Crisis.
Just Ask Him.


It makes light of something that way too many people don't understand. For me liking older men is not an 'activity' its just who I am attracted too and thank goodness they are attracted to me as well, otherwise I would be in trouble and may have to go nilla. {scream} Nahhhhhh even when I was vanilla older men liked me; its just more 'fun' now. ;o) 

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 8:35:53 PM   
dsamethyst


Posts: 91
Joined: 9/20/2004
Status: offline 		I too collect the attention of the older and supposedly "wiser" gents of our lifestyle...I am 40...but well given my small stature and the fact that Im a bit niave...well I have a youthful spirit  I have been mistaken for 25...thank you god !! LOL

Basically older men _ sorry guys Im goign to place a number on it....45 and over...Hey Im 40 I can call 45 older!!!   Anyhow what i have seen is that fellas over 45 can have that dirty old man wish taken care of with someone that wont get them arrested!  Just my 2cents worth

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RE: Age - 5/29/2006 9:23:55 PM   
Sub03


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear

Well y'all know Neets and I have a 30 year age difference with me eing the Old fart at 61 and Neets being 31.. It works for us.. 


Yeay!!! I don't feel so alone. Their is a big age gap between me and my Master and alot of people don't understand it or don't want to understand it or think my Master is an old pervert that likes young girls. It's refreshing to see a different view point and to see that im not alone.

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RE: Age - 5/30/2006 2:44:13 AM   
CmotDribbler


Posts: 83
Joined: 1/17/2006
From: canada
Status: offline 		I'm the elder in a Age gap relationsip,
My mother was older than my dad,
My sister is marrying someone 12 years older than her.
*shrug*
happens all the time,
personally the people my own age bore me :P

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RE: Age - 5/30/2006 3:10:13 AM   
Dustyn


Posts: 1044
Joined: 4/5/2006
Status: offline 		Personally, I don't think that there is anything wrong with an age gap in a relationship as long as it works for the people that are in the relationship.  For me, It's just not something I would do, personally, but that's me, not you.  I figure as long as the younger person isn't trying to subconsciously replace a missing parental figure with the relationship, it can be as healthy as the next one.  Only reason I say that is I know a woman that is preparing to marry her father's best friend, making for an age gap of roughly 40 years, or so.  When hse was younger, she looked at him as a type of father-figure, so I don't believe that this is all that healthy of an idea, nor is it fair to either of the people involved.

But it's her choice to make, just as it is with everyone else, including myself.  As long as the younger partner is of legal age, guess it doesn't overly matter.


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RE: Age - 5/30/2006 3:47:50 AM   
talibahh


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Joined: 4/9/2006
From: NSW Australia
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in my profile, i asked for someone experienced... and often with experience comes age, although not always. But for me, for them to have experience is important. Very.
 
i dont look at the age so much, as to how we relate and get on... is there a connection? Do we have things in common? Stuff like that.
 
i do, however happen to like older men (to a point), if He is fit and healthy enough to keep up with me (cheeky grin )... i love the idea of having a Daddy Dom/Master/Owner. 
 
i am currently *under consideration* and there is a 15 year age gap... Does it bother me? Not in the slightest. i like it!
 
But i do know, that when i take Him home to meet the folks, there will be a few raised eyebrows perhaps.... do i care?  Nope! Dont give a rats... thats their problem... not mine!
 
tali
 
 

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RE: Age - 5/30/2006 4:25:57 PM   
xxmstrchasxx


Posts: 423
Joined: 5/9/2006
Status: offline 		I have had subs ten years older and have had subs 19 years younger.  My sub now is ten years younger than me.  The sub that was 10 years older and I was together for 10 years before her death. The sub ten years younger and I have been together eight years.



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RE: Age - 5/30/2006 4:49:39 PM   
genvieve


Posts: 228
Joined: 5/14/2005
From: SF Bay Area
Status: offline 		As a whole, i tend to prefer older men.  Do i only get involved with the older ones?  No.  This isn't a rule that i post in muh profile.  It just happens that the Dominants who encompass what i am looking for tend to be of the older persuasion.

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