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not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/23/2011 6:43:55 PM

mike8249

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Not alot of people have initiated a conversation with me? let me know if my profile sucks lol.??????? just looking for a lil help.

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/23/2011 8:17:24 PM

RexDarcy

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I just took a look at your profile. My advice:

I got the impression that it seemed as though you were a bit unsure of things. Its good to be comfortable with your level of knowledge and experience, but be confident about it.

List some of your vanilla likes and interests. A good Domme will want to know a little about you as a person before she gets into knowing your kink side.

As for being called a fake, its just one of those things that will happen. You know that you aren't a fake, and so will the people that matter. The people that still insist that you are a fake, are most like people that are not worthy of spending time on.

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/23/2011 10:45:51 PM

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You lost me at "alot".

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/23/2011 10:51:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: Fornica

You lost me at "alot".

but he is pretty

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/23/2011 11:33:04 PM

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Loved the elephant pic. That's a conversation starter.

I wouldn't bury it.

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/24/2011 3:30:54 AM

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mike, you seem to have this idea that you want Dommes to view your profile and then initiate conversation. Men outnumber women on this site. The odds are skewed worse for malesubs and Dommes.

Think of a bar where there are ten men for every woman. You walk in, and every woman has a cluster of men around her, desperately seeking attention. You sit quietly in the corner and wait for some to notice you.

Go to some RL events and meet people. Not just Dommes - people. Once you get to be known in the local community, you'll find meeting the woman of your dreams is MUCH easier.

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/24/2011 7:30:28 AM

MissImmortalPain

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Awww , Steven, you are so nice and polite. It's hard to view you as anything other than a teddybear.

Mike, many people on sites like this are looking for something very hard to find. Something they already have a hard time finding in the real world. So many of them don't actively seek out conversations with people they think might not fit what they are looking for. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with your profile or you. It just means that finding the right match can be hard and take a lot of time. You just joined so don't worry to much about it. If the person you are looking for is here than at some point or another she will most likely see your profile. If you are lucky enough that she actually reads it than things might work out. If not...well tomorrow is another day and you can just keep trying.

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/24/2011 8:16:11 AM

mike8249

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Thanks A LOT for the help and good advice. ( for the people that gave any;) )

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/24/2011 7:03:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: seababy

quote:

ORIGINAL: Fornica

You lost me at "alot".

but he is pretty

He is pretty.

I have to agree with that.

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RE: not some scam to have people look at my profile lol. - 12/25/2011 4:58:40 PM

NovaDomme01

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Ok, my advice for what it's worth: I would lose the whole blurb about being real or fake and add a little bit about yourself - basics. vanilla interests, etc. Proofread your profile when you're done to correct spelling and grammar errors. The pictures are great. I agree with the comment about the elephant pic being a good conversation starter and would definitely keep it. Also, right on with what Dark Steven said... don't expect a Domme to come looking for you. If you see a profile that you find interesting, say hello. Don't send a form email or just one word, try to find a way to introduce yourself and stand out from the crowd. Other than that... patience. These things don't happen over night. Good luck!

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