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rabbitdearr -> Advice, please? (12/23/2011 7:28:37 PM)
i'm actually quite glad this forum is up, because i can't seem to find anywhere else that could possibly give the ideas i need. Anyway. Christmas is coming up quickly - two days! Can you believe it? - but sadly, i will not be able to give my Master a present until after the holidays. i want to get him something that will surely show his Dominant side, and his ownership over me, that he can even wear / use in public if he wishes. Seeing as this is our first year together, i want it to be personal but keep the basis of our Dom / sub relationship clear. Do any Dom/mes have suggestions sd to what i could get him? Maybe links to sites that specialize in this type of scene? i know, i sound kind of ignorant right now, but this is the first bdsm relationship i've been in that i actually felt it was good on both sides, and i want our first Christmas to have meaning. Any ideas are welcome, of course aside from those that are offensive. Thanks, it's much appreciated. Note : i'm not sure if this is listed in the appropriate section, as this is my first time in the chatrooms. If so, i apologize. i just saw 'ask a Master', and that is what i wished to do, so.. Well, you get the point. Haha.

littlewonder -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 7:43:14 PM)
does he have hobbies? Something he could use for work? Books? Music? Something homemade? Personally I'm not really big on "bdsm" gifts. I would rather buy Master things I know he can use and would like. We're not really big on outside appearances of bdsm. But I guess if you want to go that route, does he like jewelry? Maybe a necklace or bracelet? They're not just for slaves.

RexDarcy -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 7:55:21 PM)
I'm not sure what your budget is, so I will offer a couple of suggestions. If you are looking for something he can wear if he chooses, an engraved watch. The engraved potion being on the underside of the watch or band. With the idea of something homemade that littlewonder mentioned; one year the submissive that I was in a relationship with at the time typed a poem about what made our relationship important to her. She designed it with a nice border, printed it and got a nice frame for it.

rabbitdearr -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 9:05:34 PM)
Well, i was looking all around the internet for a good necklace or wrist cuff that would suit him, but i haven't had much luck. i really like the watch idea, but finding someone to engrave it plus the extra charge would be too much. i will surely use the poem idea for a card, though! Master loves my writings, and i think he'd enjoy something like that.

LanceHughes -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 9:22:55 PM)
I like gifts that can be given over and over..... food in particular... and home-made at that. For example, is there a special "cookie" that he likes? Internet has a bazillion recicipes... beginner? plenty of recipes for that too. Wine is always nice and there are nice ones for under $20, some under $15. I think we're all saying FROM THE HEART! Only you know what is in your heart and in his. A framed poem is great - or even prose. A "coupon" book is fun - that way you can give him some special ideas. Massages.... always nice, but if he already orders you to massage him, well, no coupons for that. LOL! One time I got an all-in-one printer / scanner / fax / copier. WOW! And it was $99 at Office Depot. The best part - he set it up for me. LOL! I like to do color printing of photos.... how expensive is that? Just a <correcet> color cartridge, wrapped up really pretty.... sounds good to me. Cook together? There's spice meals-inna-basket. All spices and recipes to make a meal. Add your own veggies, meat / chicken or whatever. Then your in that hot kitchen, arms around each other, stirring .... passions.... or, um, stirring the cake batter. LOL! Since "after Christmas" maybe go for a "our own Christmas party" establish your own traditions. AND what fun!!!! All the decorations and candy and stuff is 50% off. Go shopping together - set a teeny tiny budget. That way you need to discuss "this-or-that." You'll also find out alot about each other. As has been said many times, many ways..... BDSM relationships are FIRST and foremost RELATIONSHIPS. Getthat part right and the kink can be added in.

Duskypearls -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 9:26:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rabbitdearr Well, i was looking all around the internet for a good necklace or wrist cuff that would suit him, but i haven't had much luck. i really like the watch idea, but finding someone to engrave it plus the extra charge would be too much. i will surely use the poem idea for a card, though! Master loves my writings, and i think he'd enjoy something like that. THAT would be personal, and perfect, Rabbit! Maybe tailor it to his kink?

rabbitdearr -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 9:46:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LanceHughes Cook together? There's spice meals-inna-basket. All spices and recipes to make a meal. Add your own veggies, meat / chicken or whatever. Then your in that hot kitchen, arms around each other, stirring .... passions.... or, um, stirring the cake batter. LOL! Since "after Christmas" maybe go for a "our own Christmas party" establish your own traditions. AND what fun!!!! All the decorations and candy and stuff is 50% off. Go shopping together - set a teeny tiny budget. That way you need to discuss "this-or-that." You'll also find out alot about each other. well, i have decided on a pair of Demonia shoes, seeing as he has been complaining for months that his old sneakers are too torn up and ratty, haha. But i really like this idea! Master and i love outings and dates; an 'after - Christmas celebration' would be awesome! and as for dinner, i take care of that on a regular basis, but baking with him would be great. thanks so much! i'll have to look up some recipes. we love cupcakes. : D

Fornica -> RE: Advice, please? (12/23/2011 10:27:46 PM)
Don't forget a poem if he loves your writings! Have a merry xmas, I hope he loves what you give him :)

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Advice, please? (12/24/2011 12:25:10 AM)
Give him HERPIES... it's the gift that keeps on giving!!! [:D] Or, just show up nekkid with beer, pizza, then drop to your knees for a world-class blow-job -- I'm-a-guessin' he'll like that a lot more than a tie. [8D]

MasterGreg43 -> RE: Advice, please? (12/24/2011 1:38:05 PM)
well since u have decided on shoes I started not to drop anything but just incase u are still not sure one of the things I would be very surprise if u have a clean girl friend that Might be into or want to test the lifestyle then get a room, have her and ur self prepared clean, and waiting then do everything to Him and for him pamper him head to toe then afterward well u know two women one Master cater to his ego or Dominance

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Advice, please? (12/24/2011 1:47:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterGreg43 ...if u have a clean girl friend that Might be into or want to test the lifestyle then get a room, have her and ur self prepared clean, and waiting then do everything to Him and for him pamper him head to toe then afterward well u know two women one Master cater to his ego or Dominance Oh good GAWD?!! [8\|]

lizi -> RE: Advice, please? (12/24/2011 4:19:54 PM)
I have made my own Valentine's Day cards for my Dom for the last two years by writing the things for them myself and laying them out on the computer with nice fonts, art, etc. I put my work on a flash drive and take it to the Staples to have them print it out on nice card stock, or you could pick like a linen weave paper or whatever appeals, and then frame it. I fold the card stock and tie it with ribbons and such to make the cards. As far as making presents goes, I've also dressed up and posed in various lingerie or costumes and taken cam pics and printed them for him or sent them to him on the computer. For my birthday one year, he printed out pictures from a trip we'd taken together and put them in a small album with his own captions. I really loved that. As far as the wrist cuff goes I bought several knotted rope tactical bracelets for my sons at the local military base PX. Fairly cheap and kind of cool, they come in many colors and sizes -the boys really liked them. The rope they're made out of can be a kind of a sneaky way to slip in a BDSM theme. He's a guy...he'd love homemade goodies, favorite cookies etc. My guy made me some 'naughty' cutout cookies this year, they were hysterical. It felt wrong to eat anatomically correct gingerbread people but what the heck!

lizi -> RE: Advice, please? (12/24/2011 7:18:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterGreg43 well since u have decided on shoes I started not to drop anything but just incase u are still not sure one of the things I would be very surprise if u have a clean girl friend that Might be into or want to test the lifestyle then get a room, have her and ur self prepared clean, and waiting then do everything to Him and for him pamper him head to toe then afterward well u know two women one Master cater to his ego or Dominance This is a bizarre suggestion not knowing if they're into anything like this and I certainly wouldn't try it out as a first time for a gift unless she was into this herself and was sure of how it would be received. But of course everyone who is kinky likes the same things and would love to have a threesome [8\|] If I tried anything like this I'd be likely to have my Dom turn around and walk out on his surprise, and then dump me soon after...it's not his bag. Go ahead and generalize to your heart's content though.

tazzygirl -> RE: Advice, please? (12/24/2011 7:36:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterGreg43 well since u have decided on shoes I started not to drop anything but just incase u are still not sure one of the things I would be very surprise if u have a clean girl friend that Might be into or want to test the lifestyle then get a room, have her and ur self prepared clean, and waiting then do everything to Him and for him pamper him head to toe then afterward well u know two women one Master cater to his ego or Dominance Bless your heart

DarkSteven -> RE: Advice, please? (12/25/2011 4:44:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterGreg43 well since u have decided on shoes I started not to drop anything but just incase u are still not sure one of the things I would be very surprise if u have a clean girl friend that Might be into or want to test the lifestyle then get a room, have her and ur self prepared clean, and waiting then do everything to Him and for him pamper him head to toe then afterward well u know two women one Master cater to his ego or Dominance I'll be damned. She's had that slavegirl nude and bound in the basement for years and had no clue what to do with her. What a great idea for a use for her!

rabbitdearr -> RE: Advice, please? (12/25/2011 7:20:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterGreg43 well since u have decided on shoes I started not to drop anything but just incase u are still not sure one of the things I would be very surprise if u have a clean girl friend that Might be into or want to test the lifestyle then get a room, have her and ur self prepared clean, and waiting then do everything to Him and for him pamper him head to toe then afterward well u know two women one Master cater to his ego or Dominance my Master and i are not polyamourous. one of the things he states loud and clear in our relationship is that he is not interested in anyone else but me, romantically or sexually. when he wants me to be like that with another woman, it is for my pleasure rather than his. so sadly, this advice was not helpful. but thank you, regardless.

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