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Friends - 5/30/2006 1:47:54 AM

SirSteven34

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Hi there well starting to get out in the big world

met a sub but has a master and she still wants to be good friends

As we met in person it was all good and fun you know but life moves on still

looking for the one of my life but i make good friends on here anyways

And then found another which we are doing just the talking thing for now

But im just happy where we are in this world right now

Dose not have to be the mean are calling them sluts all the time

it can be good you know this world is differ`int from the vanilla world i must say

But then every world has a differ`int

meaning to it

As i found that out cause i tryed the both worlds but like i say

the dom part keeps on coming out

so this is where i stay as i could widen the search a bit

But i do not want to as

My friends don`t jugde me as the way i look

And im happy just to be the way i am

With friends and family that i have

So be it if i am ment to be alone that is fine

But i know there is one out there somewheres

lurking in this alberta bound

Be W/well and safe and have a great day

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 2:17:18 AM

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Canadian English gets harder and harder to understand.

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 7:46:54 AM

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Canadian English gets harder and harder to understand.

I don't think OP's being Canadian has any thing do with not understanding this. lol

Maybe it's the layout??? Lost me too though

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 7:54:07 AM

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Very ambiguous. You really need to learn how to frame a thought or a question, and that highly stylized format belongs on a greeting card.

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 7:58:11 AM

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Hello Steven,

In becoming friends first, a relationship just may grow and be the exact thing you are looking for.

Well wishes to you,
piscess

(For other posters..sometimes there is a mechanical device used when a person cannot type with their hands, this may or may not be the case here but wow talk judgemental people)

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 9:56:41 AM

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You either have my congratulations or my condolences. Since I'm not quite sure what you're saying, I'm not quite sure which to offer.

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 12:09:51 PM

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W/Well lets see my writing to start out with,,,,my writing is like horrible on these things but befor you have to build a relastionship i guess the best way to do that is be frineds first and then build on that which i agree but also that other world is about the same darn thing i think....Cause i tryed them both and learned too so my message is do W/We all become friends first and build into the relationship after wards i think that is like the best way but what do you think...Don`t rush be your self and just have fun at first thats what i do never rush into things that you are not ready for as i got many of friends and even family into this so there you go thats my question for the day....

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 12:31:42 PM

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SirSteven, learn to type in a Word document that has all the grammar features checked off. Then you just might get a post that is coherent enough that people can respond to with ease. Or, take a basic Language Art course. There are books in the library and places in your city that offer this service free in many cases.

I do think it's nice to become friends first before playing. That is your question right?

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 12:33:33 PM

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It most definately is ideal to become friends also with Y/your partner whether or not its a vanilla or BDSM relationship...other than that i didnt understnad the post sorry

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 12:37:43 PM

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g'day SirSteven.... Ladies and Gents

girl knows SirSteven from having talked to Him on yahoo, msn and meeting Him here....she knows His typing is not the best and hopes that He finds what He seeks...

girl knows that SirSteven needs help with His typing and has helped Him as best she can seeing W/we live four hours apart and that is a barrier to girl helping Him more.

girl agrees that starting out as friends first is a good idea and seeing what developes from there, taking Your time to get to know each other and if things don't work out, then at least You have made another friend.

Blessed Be

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 12:42:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirSteven34

W/Well lets see my writing to start out with,,,,my writing is like horrible on these things but befor you have to build a relastionship i guess the best way to do that is be frineds first and then build on that which i agree but also that other world is about the same darn thing i think....Cause i tryed them both and learned too so my message is do W/We all become friends first and build into the relationship after wards i think that is like the best way but what do you think...Don`t rush be your self and just have fun at first thats what i do never rush into things that you are not ready for as i got many of friends and even family into this so there you go thats my question for the day....

K.. well maybe I'm the only one who understood your first post as well as this one. Though the poem-esque form of the first post made it more confusing.

Anyway you slice it, finding a partner or partners is the same in either realm vanilla or BDSM. What you want out of it, depends on how you approach it.

I think the friends first method is the best way to do it, as if nothing else you end up with a friend even if things don't work out.

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 1:33:11 PM

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W/Well thats how i found out up here,,,Most like to be just friends at first and girl i still have you on my list somewheres here so just message me please back ok anytime you like and yes i agree the method of friends first always work even spend the time to get to know them like i mean im sure W/We ain`t getting any younger again But anyways,,,,you all be well and have a great day.. as i will try a post again that is much better then the first .....The second was good but the first i do not know where it took off too..lol..Maybe i was tired could that be the reason..

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 6:03:03 PM

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Steven,

Starting out as friends and taking things slowly is always a good idea. It doesn't always work that way, as humans are prone to rushing things sometimes.

I think you would have more success with posting your messages if you would remember two things. One, it's okay to go slowly and write in short sentences. Two, use a period (.) at the end of each thought.

Hope this is helpful.

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 7:22:21 PM

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Friends first is a wonderful way to enter a relationship. -smiles- i'm glad you've found friends here.

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RE: Friends - 5/30/2006 8:18:24 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SirSteven34

W/Well lets see my writing to start out with,,,,my writing is like horrible on these things but befor you have to build a relastionship i guess the best way to do that is be frineds first and then build on that which i agree but also that other world is about the same darn thing i think....Cause i tryed them both and learned too so my message is do W/We all become friends first and build into the relationship after wards i think that is like the best way but what do you think...Don`t rush be your self and just have fun at first thats what i do never rush into things that you are not ready for as i got many of friends and even family into this so there you go thats my question for the day....

Steven,
This post gives your first post more meaning. Sometimes we don't understand what another means especially online when you can't see the facial expressions or hear the voice. Makes it harder at times to figure out what folks are saying. At least you post.

If you think being friends first then seeing if the relationship goes deeper and you become Dom/sub...then that is good for you. In this lifestyle there are many different levels and depths and each one has to seek out that which is comfortable for them.

It's good not to rush into things with relationships as it's one reason I think which causes so many to get disillusioned so quickly. Folks get collared one week then they are uncollared the next. They find the ONE this week then are alone next month.

You can be friends with many people which can help you find the someone that you are meant to find. Good luck.

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RE: Friends - 5/31/2006 5:30:02 AM

SirSteven34

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The friend method works good... As i sake all your hands as im across the land...But not to far away across the land just go north and thats where i am so be well and Y/You all have a great day...

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RE: Friends - 5/31/2006 5:40:31 AM

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That's what works for me, but most I've met online are really in a rush to get the goods. The thing is, for me at least, sexual attraction blossoms from the bonds and connection created through a deep caring friendship. So I find it impossible to be intimate with anyone I don't first feel a loving rapport with.

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RE: Friends - 5/31/2006 5:56:38 AM

SirSteven34

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I like the bond and the trust that one builds i think it is great as W/We learn from each O/Other what this is all about Y/You just don`t jump into a relastionship you know nothing about cause the other could get hurt emostionly....

So i think the best thing to do in any is just take your time cause you got lots of it and just don`t rush it it will work out just fine....

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