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falling in love - 12/27/2011 5:37:41 PM   
Lily315


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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 5:47:29 PM   
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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 5:51:56 PM   
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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 5:54:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		If we had not fallen in love with each other I would not be with him, so yes for me it is. I would not/could not have it any other way.

But going by your other post about this guy you haven't even met in real life yet and he hasn't talked to you in a couple of weeks until today, I'd tell you to slow down and that you're getting ahead of yourself.

Meet him first, date in person for awhile, get to know each other before you say you're in love with him.



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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 5:57:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder


Meet him first, date in person for awhile, get to know each other before you say you're in love with him.





^^This^^

Particularly since he has given you cause to doubt him.

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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 7:56:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		Definitely normal--and required--for me. Without love there is no desire in me to submit. If I did not love my Master I wouldn't be with him in first place. 

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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 8:33:22 PM   
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is it normal for a sub to fall in the love with her Dom.



I would think so. I would be cautious, maybe, of applying the label of love to what might be other types of feelings, but ... I would definitely need and want to love the man I'm so devoted to, so - I certainly hope so!

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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 10:01:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lily315

is it normal for a sub to fall in the love with her Dom.


Eventually some will come along as say no its not normal/necessary/required. It's all personal. There is no right or wrong answer. It all depends on you and what you need.


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RE: falling in love - 12/27/2011 10:21:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		There is also the so called" Stockholm Syndrom" - araising out a hostage situation where the hostages had feelings for their captors.

Any sane person would hope to se good in the persons in charge of their well being - this could be mistaken for love.

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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 12:36:45 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		It is normal for me to fall in love with my Dom. It is normal for my Dom to fall in love with me. We're in a relationship together, that lends itself to shared feelings of intimacy and eventually love. Did I love all the Doms I met and was with for however long it lasted? No. Did they all love me? No. I think I am happiest in a D/s relationship that includes love as it enhances and deepens what we do in the D/s field as well as the bonds we have with each other in every other way.

Some people don't find love necessary, some do. It's up to you what works for you. It's worked for me not to have love, but I like things better with it. The times I did not share love with my Dom the relationships did not last. Which was fine at the time...

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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 12:43:57 AM   
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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 3:33:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I date someone, I can never tell if we're going to fall in love with each other. Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't.

This time I did. The fact that he's my Master doesn't change the fact that we are dating.

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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 3:43:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		A certain amount and type of love is present in all relationships I have, even with coworkers. To what degree or how, that is dependent on the individual and what they awaken.

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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 3:48:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lily315

is it normal for a sub to fall in the love with her Dom.



you decide in your life if it is normal or not. If it happens..why would it be wrong.
I always loved my subs/slaves at least as very very good friends, because without this feeling I am not interested.


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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 4:00:04 AM   
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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 4:49:56 AM   
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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 6:25:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP, you might be feeling some kind of attachment that you think is love; everyone does that at some point in their lives, and if you've got a case of sub frenzy, it can be difficult to tell the difference. But I do think it's nnormal to fall in love with them, and visa versa.
For me, it's important; situations where I can't express those kinds of feelings just make me miserable.

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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 7:46:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Meet him first, date in person for awhile, get to know each other before you say you're in love with him.


This.

I'm also going to add: Being in a D/s BDSM relationship tends to break through walls and brings up strong emotions which frequently get misdiagnosed as love. Date for awhile and determine if you really like him before you run into a commitment. Don't let your genitals rule your decisions.


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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 9:19:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say that it is very common for Dominant/Submissive to develop feelings for each other beyond friend/playmate (unless they are just occasional playmates). Exactly what it develops into will be different from couple to couple.

For me, from the Dominant side - I have cared for all my submissives, felt an emotional attachment to them, perhaps even to some extent loved them without being "in love" with them, if that makes sense. I am in-love with my wife, which is different than loving/caring for my submissives.

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RE: falling in love - 12/28/2011 10:48:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Is it commom yes  normal  if it is normal for you than it is.  I could not submit to someone that i did not at least like.  When i met Master i liked him a lot, i agreed to be his and we would see where it goes.  I was not intending to fall in love with him, but i fell head over heels in love with him and he with me.  Now almost 6 years later we are mor in love then ever.

It is normal for us.  Don't stress about it just go with it.

Matt's littleone

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