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stellauk -> RE: Searching. (1/1/2012 6:19:58 AM)
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Searching isn't enough, you also have to get involved.
The problem here of course is that a lot of people are stingy with their time, attention and resources and if things aren't going like an express train towards meeting their expectations they will lose interest or back off.
But why does it always have to be Route One without any deviations? This is something I can't work out with most people. Most attempts at getting to know someone fails, but people just move on and go to the next person and adopt the same strategy time after time after time.
The thing is, most of the big stuff starts with the little stuff, the minor details. Something like fifteen minutes of your undivided attention in conversation, offering help with a problem, and if you're a guy looking for a domme, I'm pretty sure that an afternoon spent gardening or doing odd jobs isn't going to hurt.
Relationships aren't just about play, and sex, and kinks. Any form of interaction, even a five minute conversation about the weather - this is a relationship.
Therefore I'll say it again, start with the person and with the interaction and leave them with the opportunity of continuing that interaction. It's more effort, no guarantees of course, but this isn't a race or a competition.
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