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MHOO314 -> RE: Dom and Master Exhaustation (6/2/2006 6:35:12 AM)
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Well, I am going to take a stab here at some things I see on BOTH sides of the equation--and yes I get petitioned by Doms on a regular basis sooo..
I am going to start with our--well ok My age---just as we have seen so many young people flocking to our life to "find or claim" someone, I see it in My age bracket as well---the newly divorced, widowed, and retired see it as a means to "get a gurl"--( yes I spelled it that way for a reason and I am not saying ALL< so calm down Guys...)--they think as a Dominant, they can demand an adoring thing at their feet, or as a sub, if they say no limits, we Dommes will line up--(for what-- I don't know)---so there are lots of those--looking for a "real wife this time by gawd"--or a woman so that are not alone--or worse a meal ticket or immigration pass.
The other issue, is again at our age, we need to look deeper than we may have once done and face reality not fantasy----the idea of Fabio dragging a sub off by the hair--well it won't happen--but being swept off one's feet by someone like Raven--is a pretty hot prospect in My opinion---for the elegance of style, grace, class, paternal adoration is all there.
( and he's damn cute too)--
I know that you have remanufactured your profile many times---I adore you kid--but stop it--you are an amazing woman with great talent---put "yourself" out there---you have high standards and there is nothing wrong with that--you have every right BUT--that takes time and patience--and the realization that it may never happen--hence CM has many posts on being happy with one's self---and I would say as well, perhaps tougher interview criteria--better to have them bolt in a conversation or two than to go through numbers as you've stated---for remember there is another person inside all those "numbers" that had expectations too---
Personally--I'm tough, I don't entertain conversations with those that don't have at least 9 of My 12 criteria--and the key ones better be there---I don't do CM chat or chat rooms, I don't get on the phone right away and if I see anything that's a flag, I politely send them off on their way--hopefully a tad better--but off anyway---but that's Me, maybe there is some wisdom here you can use--(and the few subs that I came close to are still My close friends, though we didn't make it as D/s--) I am not here to say look at Me, I am here to say--maybe rethink criteria, rethink what you may be giving up that gets you too close too fast--take a look at the Doms on here your admire, figure out what it is and look for that as you search.
IMHEO--and best of luck--it is after all a big ocean. Hugs
( as for people taking shots--cmon, we all do--you asked for advice, it always doesn't come in the best packages, but... there is always room at the kitchen table, the coffee is always hot, the drinks cold and an opinion to be offered.)
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