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ashjor911 -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 6:38:30 AM)

happy new year,



Higuysitsme -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 8:14:21 AM)

Now what about the poor bloke..............



SweetCheri -> RE: To all those who write and ask (1/1/2012 8:58:59 AM)

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So.....what did the other members of the quad say about this adventure if you don't mind me asking?
They know, and approve of my decision to try it.



tj444 -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 10:48:43 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Higuysitsme
Now what about the poor bloke..............

the "poor bloke" went into it with his eyes open.. I wonder why you consider him a poor bloke?



tj444 -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 10:59:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake
what's to know?

I am sure most people have various questions in their life that they want to try or see how it feels, just once.. for some it could be sky diving or something like that.. she is very young, only 19.. I consider i was a kid until my late 20s, until then, you try things, or at least i did, trying to find out who i was.. most importantly for me, what i wanted to do with my life.. For her, at this point, that was her question to herself.. I can see for some people, their sexual orientation is a major question, if some gay people have this question, i cant imagine what a transgender person goes thru..




LizDeluxe -> RE: To all those who write and ask (1/1/2012 11:20:43 AM)

I don't recall it having been terribly climactic the first time and I really dig guys. That was a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away. I can't imagine anyone enjoying it under the conditions you seemed to have set up or for the reason you seem to have done it. You basically set yourself up for your desired conclusion in advance but as long as the exercise suited your needs it's all good.



LaTigresse -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 11:23:11 AM)

I remember when my teenage daughter came to me and told me she was gay. In my mind I was like..."Yeahhhhhh riiiiiiiiiiiiight!" But my mouth said "Okay". She hadn't had any actual gay experience but her experience with males of the species had been so negative she decided she must be gay. Not to mention, my daughter has always been a drama addict, doing her level best to get a reaction from the adults in her life. It didn't quite work as she had imagined it would and the subject just faded away. Within a few months she had a new male crush and came to me to tell me she didn't think she was gay after all.

When I was young I was so amazingly naive and clueless I didn't even know what sex entailed until I was well into my teens. Before I had time to think I was pregnant and married. Just because I didn't enjoy sex with that person didn't immediately tell me I was gay. During most of the next 20 years I was focused on surviving and raising my kids to be the best human beings possible. Sex was always at the bottom of my priority list. Doing it made my life with others easier but it was never a burning need of my own. I was well into my 30's when I discovered it could be great and that a woman was the missing ingredient.

I totally get Cheri's interest in seeing what it's all about and doing it on HER terms. And yes, nearly ever straight male I've known think that it just takes one guy (in their warped imagination they are that guy) to convert every lesbian. Especially if she is young and hot.

And yes, a lot of straight women seem to think that there is something wrong with a woman that hasn't any interest in what they find so hot. Trust me when I say, there isn't a dick out there that is 'hot' to me.



Iamsemisweet -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 12:28:36 PM)

You are at the stage in life where you want to experience new things. That is why so many women who end up hetero have brief lesbian affairs in their teens and twenties. It is so common it is practically a cliche. You are just the opposite side of the cliche.



tazzygirl -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 1:01:57 PM)

~FR

Men expect this... women expect that... heteros believe this... gays believe that....

You are who you are... you like what you like... why anyone feels a need to justify that to anyone, on line or off, tells me far more about the person doing the justifying.



tazzygirl -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 2:10:48 PM)

Btw, cute fish boarder in your room, cheri. And the black outfit is nice, but the white one is much better with your coloring.



stellauk -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 4:40:27 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tj444

i cant imagine what a transgender person goes thru..



It can be similar and just as tiring, or it can be different. When it's different you end up feeling dehumanized, if not by the way the person comes across to you, but by all the questions relating to your body parts and medical history, what bits you have, what bits you haven't got, what bits you intend to get.

An awful lot of people assume that because you're changing your gender and sex then you're also changing your sexual orientation.

Erm no.. not quite.

In reality nothing changes, because all you're doing is revealing that part of you which was once concealed, and asking people to perceive you and relate to you differently. You're still the same person with pretty much the same preferences. Unfortunately most people make being transgendered a much bigger issue than it actually is in reality.

For most people you're just an experience, something to satiate their curiosity, a kink, a fetish, an option, or even a right of passage. Some will even tell you to your face, saying how they always wanted to sleep with a woman with a dick or how they want you to take them from behind. All you want is for someone to accept you for who you are and love you for that very reason. Not that what you want bothers them, it's what they want that counts, and they state this blissfully ignorant of the pain and hurt you've gone through because of your genitalia and identity.

I admit that I've settled.. I accept that I will never be in another relationship and am happy just to have friends. I worked it out some time ago according to the Kinsey graphic, avoiding the polar extremes. Not that it matters because I've accepted that I will go through life without sharing physical intimacy with someone in a relationship.

And I'm cool with that.

But I can relate to the OP's experience and the reason why (I think) she's posted it and chosen to share it with us.

But kudos to the OP for leaping into the unknown and finding out and sharing it with others. It might not lead to fewer questions, but it might increase awareness for some.



tj444 -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/1/2012 5:47:10 PM)

that makes sense, that your sexual orientaton doesnt change even tho your appearance does..

When i was about 23 my father died, my mother saw one guy for a very short time, she never dated again or met anyone after that, she stayed single.. she used to say she didnt need a man (meaning she didnt need the sex).. When i decided to leave my ex, i had to consider the possiblity that i might not meet the right guy for me.. i had to come to gripes with that.. I finally decided that being single forever and not finding the relationship i wanted was still much better than staying in a relationship with Mr. Wrong... Not the same as you but i sort of get what you are saying.. You need to live how you want to live, even if the consequence is remaining single..



tiggerspoohbear -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 6:17:05 AM)

As usual Stella, eloquently put. You know who you are, and don't hesitate to sometimes share with others when it will help untangle issues. I applaud you for that and am glad to consider you a dear friend.

TJ, I don't quite see remaining single a "consequence" but that's just me. I stayed single from the age of 25 to 41 due to a vicious ex who was very cruel with his words. When I got back into dating, things had changed so much, I felt like a babe in the woods. I was taken advantage of because I was no longer the slim person I used to be. Men figured that because I was now a BBW, well, I'd date anyone, because, as everyone knows, larger women are just aching for sex and will do anything to get it. [8|]

It's taken me a number of years to get my confidence back, to accept myself, not to care what others think, and I've now found the Man who accepts me for who I am, doesn't care that I'm not a size 6, and cares for me as a human being, one with feelings (nutty at times), emotions and some baggage.

Cheri decided to post her experience, and that couldn't have been all that easy on her part. Kudos to her. She wanted to discover the other side, did, and now knows, even though she already did, that men aren't for her. It just seems funny to me that it's always okay for women to explore their lesbian side, to see if it's for them, but not okay for lesbians to explore hetero sex when they already know they're lesbians. O, you know what I mean, I'm not making much sense at the moment, it's still early.




Epytropos -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 6:40:07 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
And yes, nearly ever straight male I've known think that it just takes one guy (in their warped imagination they are that guy) to convert every lesbian. Especially if she is young and hot.


Strange, I hear/read this assertion a lot from women, but I don't think I've ever heard a guy say it in any sort of seriousness. Maybe twice when drunk I've heard guys jokingly say something like "Oh come on lesbian is just another word for women that haven't seen me naked" or something, but even that's very, very rare.

Anyway, congratulations on seeing for yourself Cheri. I'm sure it must have taken quite a bit of courage to take that step.



Ninebelowzero -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 6:41:55 AM)

Never thought it never said it.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 8:12:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Never thought it never said it.

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Btw, cute fish boarder in your room, cheri. And the black outfit is nice, but the white one is much better with your coloring


Because while you might be a cunt sometimes, you're not a gormless berk![:D]




Ninebelowzero -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 8:14:27 AM)

Hey I resemble that remark!



FullCircle -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 10:45:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake
I have a hard time relating to this Kinsey graphic.

Yep me too, last time I saw that many people queuing for the toilet I was at a service station on the M1.



hardcybermaster -> RE: To all those who write and ask (1/2/2012 10:52:08 AM)

I don't think any of the males who write and ask actually read the pages on this side but thanks very much for letting all of us know, cos that's what you're doing, letting us know not them
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ORIGINAL: SweetCheri

I had a man tonight, I am no longer a virgin by any definition. I want to say that while it wasn't physically unpleasant it was very much so on a mental and  emotional level.

I want to thank him for his understanding, patience and well, just for being such a good person to do this for me on my terms.

So to all those males who want to write and ask how I could know if I want a man. I have one, I did him, and I didn't like it enough to do it again.




tazzygirl -> RE: toall those who write and ask (1/2/2012 11:36:44 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


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ORIGINAL: Ninebelowzero

Never thought it never said it.

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Btw, cute fish boarder in your room, cheri. And the black outfit is nice, but the white one is much better with your coloring


Because while you might be a cunt sometimes, you're not a gormless berk![:D]





Give someone a compliment and people still get pissy! lol



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