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xssve -> RE: BDSM internet wisdom (1/4/2012 5:43:15 AM)
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Well if she's too slutty, then you're supposed to rein her in, no? Chain the bitch up.
I think if anything, the internet leads people to believe they can just order what they want of the shelf and don't have to put any work into a relationship or themselves.
Men have never, as a group gone for slutty women as life partners, it has to do with paternity assurances, i.e., if she's gettin' around and gets with child, you can't be sure it's yours, it's ingrained genetically as far as I know, at the same time I don't know any man wouldn't like his cock sucked at the drop of a hat, so the two things are always fighting each other.
Same for women basically, they'd all, or most of 'em like dick on demand, but restrain themselves in order to make themselves attractive as mates, breeding partners, essentially, and not that many women stay with promiscuous men either for that matter.
You can overcome this through reason and logic, but emotionally, it's always going to be a mixed bag, these sort of emotions are expressed as jealousy, disgust, etc., but the bottom line is nobody want to get stuck raising a kid that isn't theirs - well, not nobody, some do, but on average, keeping track of who's related to who is a fairly critical social requirement for a variety of reasons, avoiding incest, economics, including interfamilial connections, inheritance, etc. Social politics in the area can get complicated, reproductive politics - after all, latex condoms, or any reliable form of birth control have only been around for a century or so, whereas all these social adaptations to deal with the the issue of breeding exclusivity have had 7 Million years or so to be selected, the religious right fought hard against the promotion of birth control because reproductive politics is so ingrained that the whole social order pretty much revolves around it.
In the end, sex and breeding are two different things, but they're obviously linked together for biological reasons, that's why we have homosexuality, anal and oral sex, social monogamy, prostitution, etc., because we're mainly monogamous out of necessity, the majority of us get a wild hair up our ass at some point in our lives; women traditionally, are just under more scrutiny and held to a higher standard - you find a lot more couples looking for a third woman than you do looking for an extra stunt cock, but it's not because women wouldn't maybe mind that one in a while, you probably incorporate a dildo in play, but how many MF couples incorporate a rubber pussy?
You can get around all that, you can take people as people on a case by case basis, but getting around it takes some doing in terms of thought, action, self knowledge and self control, requires a bit of compartmentalization, but even swingers get jealous.
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