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RE: Lost Trust - 1/9/2012 11:35:49 AM

CelticPrince

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Within the past week, a series of events involving my Dom and me has led to me feeling hurt and betrayed. While the things that happened were clearly not his intention (either because he felt he was unable to influence them or because he did not expect them to hurt me) and were not exactly big changes or anything, I wasn't able to just put them behind me.
As a result of these events, I've started to become rather aggressive towards him, any submissive or masochistic notions gone for most of the time while I alternate between being sad and hurt and being angry. Also, I've sort of lost trust in him to protect me or be there for me and keep expecting the worst to happen.
I'm wondering if anyone experienced something similar and if anyone maybe has ideas on how to get past this, except waiting for it to pass.

Lux,

since your the one concerned, better get it fixed or move on>

CP

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RE: Lost Trust - 1/9/2012 7:55:29 PM

slaverachel2Him

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Sometimes we go boldly forth and end up finding out we got in over our heads. Poly is especially prone to that because many people aren't as liberal about it as they thought they were. i know of MANY men who have been poly....until their wives finally agreed to try it too as urged by them. Suddenly it wasn't fun anymore. You are not alone in this and it would be good to have some talks (note plural) about this with Him.

Is party playing something you have dine or discussed in the past? Master has recently gotten jealous and i am not allowed to play at parties anymore making the sadists a little sad LOL. The first time HE offered me- then it was pre approval. Now it's nada. We ALL go through things and changes and emotional/intellectual conflicts. As a sub there is more control, as a sub you have opted NOT to live within enslavement. As a slave, except to leave or Master modifies His design it is controlled for me. That is why it is critical to know what you are getting into and with whom.

Was it just play? That is really no big deal to me. Sex? Well, it depends on your D/s or M/s agreement. To Master it IS a big deal. So you need tp talk and see which way it will be going and for whom. Will you play? Will He play? will you BOTH play? With each other at a party, or others? Both?

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RE: Lost Trust - 1/10/2012 7:03:36 AM

SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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And next time, don't allow someone to pressure you into accepting an open relationship if you know you're monogamous.

This, or posthaste get The Ethical Slut and read the Jealousy and Conflict chapters.

Start reading Ethical Slut on your Kindle in under a minute :)

I agree. I often recomend that book and often for those two chapters. They are useful even if you are monogamous. The rest of the book is a bit preechy about the supposed glories of polly.

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