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Epytropos -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/5/2012 9:53:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: jaslyn82

8th slut will sing a bum tit tit song every night entering the house and ask master if he would like to sick his thumb up sluts bum .

lol wtf?



anniezz338 -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/5/2012 9:56:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: jaslyn82


7th masters slut will compete against  other subs for masters attention .



Oh hell to the no. If i am calling someone Master, the competition is over.



OsideGirl -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/5/2012 10:02:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: jaslyn82



masters slut will compete against  other subs for masters attention .
In my view everything on the list, but this would be negotiable. But, this line means that he wants his submissive to feel insecure and constantly threatened. Not exactly a healthy, trust inspiring relationship.



searching4mysir -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/5/2012 10:38:40 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: jaslyn82


6th other couples will be brought into play with master and his slut


Hard limit for me. I'm monogamous and so is Master. Neither of us share. He wouldn't be my master otherwise.



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7th masters slut will compete against  other subs for masters attention .


When Master decided to collar me, the competition was over. I have no issues if he looks at other women, but that is as far as it goes (and I'm allowed to look at other men if I so choose but that is as far as it goes)




NuevaVida -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/5/2012 10:21:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: jaslyn82

7th masters slut will compete against  other subs for masters attention .


I don't compete for attention. Period.  If I don't rock his world standing on my own, he should keep looking.

The song idea is hilarious to me.  I'd sing it differently every night - maybe a country/western twang one night, opera style another, etc.  If he wanted to stick his thumb up my bum, I'd ask if I could twirl on it.



fragilepieces -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 3:45:43 AM)

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If he wanted to stick his thumb up my bum, I'd ask if I could twirl on it.
How is that done---I am picturing different positions in my head and all of them end with him having a broken wrist or a lamp crashing to the floor? [:)]



stacey4u2luv -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 6:49:57 AM)

I wonder if it is this song? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FT0ONu9c8Cw



seekerofslut -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 7:27:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: jaslyn82

2nd my slut must swallow her master  



A mermaid slut might be able to, but I am 5'8" and 165 lbs. Well, she could try. [8|]



NuevaVida -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 8:05:27 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

quote:

If he wanted to stick his thumb up my bum, I'd ask if I could twirl on it.
How is that done---I am picturing different positions in my head and all of them end with him having a broken wrist or a lamp crashing to the floor? [:)]


I am graceful and multi-talented.  [8D]



favesclava -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 9:08:06 AM)

#1 slave prefers a trim cut but Master likes shaved . although He might change His mind from time to time
Master does as He pleases and slave lives to please Him. # 7 Master is always aware of His slave. there's no competition. #8 this girl cant sing but would if Master wanted her to.



littleone35 -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 10:12:04 AM)

If i was not happilied owned and i saw this list. Depending on what he means by showingh er off Well 1 thrugh 5 seem ok  6.7.8 are NOT gonna happrn.  As for 9 pics are iffy depending what he is gonn do with them.  If they are fr ONLY h enjoument that i don't mind but oisting them online or share them with his friends( my Master would never do that) i am not ok with that .  9 mayve or maybe not.

Matt's littleone



Alida -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 12:26:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: stacey4u2luv

I wonder if it is this song? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FT0ONu9c8Cw


Thanks for that!

As to the rules, no. Not clear enough, too constricting, and not my style. But not too terrible.



Miserlou -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/6/2012 8:47:42 PM)

1. ok, not my preference, but that's no big deal. as a rule, its easier to follow than the inverse would be.

2. ok, no problem.

3. ok, no problem.

4. assuming you take care to insure i'm not going to go to jail over it, that wouldn't be an issue.

5. ok, but does that include things like planning a surprise party for you, or purchasing your birthday/xmas gifts?

6. ok, again not really my preference, but it would depend on how often it happened. as an occasional thing it wouldn't matter, but if it were a regular happening i don't think i could.

7. nope. sorry, lost me there. completely unacceptable.

8.  [8|] if you insist, but you're going to feel kind of dumb when i come home and you're having coffee with your parents.

9. i doubt it. sorry. i decide when compromising pictures of me are taken.




osinfixo -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/7/2012 8:11:09 AM)

I would first ask for clarification on some of those rules... now if this was some random guy on the internet that sent me a list of those rules and NOT someone I had met and decided that we were compatible, I would LMFAO then message him back telling him to get his hand off his cock and get real...



gungadin09 -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/7/2012 10:04:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: jaslyn82
1st my slut will have a full bush on her

Not a problem.

2nd my slut must swallow her master

Not a problem.

3rd ass fucking, my slut will be fucked in the ass whenever master wants to

I have a rule against doing anything illegal, which would include fucking me up the ass in a public place. Otherwise, not a problem.

4, masters property will be shown off where ever and whenever master wants too

Again, not a problem, unless it was illegal.

5th  slut will never do anything behind her masters back

Like what? These rules are painfully vague. Would throwing a surprise party violate the rule? I think it's reasonable to require honesty and transparency, with the understanding that things like surprise parties would be an exception to the rule.

6th other couples will be brought into play with master and his slut

Possibly a problem depending on how often it happened and how well I knew them.

7th masters slut will compete against  other subs for masters attention .

What does that mean? Because it's just human nature to judge and compare others. Engaging in head games that were designed to make me feel worthless and insecure would be a problem.

8th slut will sing a bum tit tit song every night entering the house and ask master if he would like to sick his thumb up sluts bum .

Kind of stupid, but not otherwise a problem.

9th photos will be taken of my slut where ever i want in anyway i want

That would be fine, unless it was illegal.


Individually, most of these would not be a problem. Taken together, they indicate a dominant who's vain, silly, and doesn't respect his partner. THAT would be a problem.

pam



bikerdude567 -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/8/2012 3:48:39 AM)

you know, to me if your in this life style, then the frist thing you really need is love an trust of each other an to know what each others limits are.
if you in to debaseing someone to try an to control them then to me that is just abuse to me,
i want to make it fun fot the both of us, the enjoyment, of what we both love to do. yes it can get out of hand at times but thats love. but you don't
do it where you might get arrested you where others will see, you won't go into wal-mart an screw her or tie her naked to a panty rack, thats stupid.
show some decorum, an if your the master in this, maybe you should talk to others to see what the limits are an learn how to treat a slave, before collering one.



rachandchell -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/8/2012 4:01:05 AM)

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8th slut will sing a bum tit tit song every night entering the house and ask master if he would like to sick his thumb up sluts bum .


lol we both found ourselves trying to imagine this song and then you, stacey4u2luv provided THAT link and now we both are wandering round singing winky winky bum bum... *sigh*

thanks a lot!!!

and chelle is now contemplating make a titty titty bum bum song of her own >.< *double sigh*



DarkSteven -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/8/2012 4:08:07 AM)

I have some serious issues with these rules.

1. Several of them are not thought out.  They are too specific and in some cases just plain silly. 
2. Evidently they were presented as nonegotiable.
3. The sub, instead of discussing the rules with her Dom, posted them here.  Serious breach of protocol.
4. The rules are juvenile.

My sub's original rules:

1.  I will always be honest and never betray Steven’s trust. 2.  I will always remember that when I speak or act in the lifestyle, that I am representing Steven and myself.  I will never purposefully do anything that brings shame or discredit to Steven or myself; or anything to cause others to lose respect for us.  I will always try to increase the respect that others have for Steven through my own behavior. 3.  I will always obey Steven's instructions to the best of my ability, and if I do not understand them will ask for further direction or clarification.  If there is a valid objection to following his instructions, I will voice it at once. 4.  I will strive to become closer to Steven, earning his trust as he earns mine.  5.  I will learn to love and appreciate myself for who I am right now, while striving to become what I am. 6.  I am not allowed to disparage or talk down about myself, but will tell Steven when I am in one of my dark moods so that he can help me to get through it. 7.  I will use my skills and abilities to benefit Steven and myself, whether asked or not. 8.  I will honestly tell Steven my lifestyle desires, even if they are embarrassing to admit. 9.  I will also be honest about those things that are completely off-limits, making a careful determination whether those things are fears of the unknown, or genuine limits. 10.  I will share my vanilla life with Steven as much as practicable, so that they can both share in my joys and help me through my disappointments. 11. I am not to speak ill of Steven or anyone involved with him (including myself) to others. 12. I am to be vanilla in vanilla settings. 13.  I am to request permission from him to play with others.  Other interactions short of play do not require permission. 14. I am to show respect to him and to myself.  If I believe that he has said or done something that does not show respect to me or himself, I shall notify him. 15. I am to notify him when I go to bed. 16. I am to initiate contact with him a minimum of three times per week.  That can be a phone call, a text, email, message on Fet, or an in person visit. 17.  I am to quit smoking. 18. I am to take care of myself.  That includes eating well, not drinking to excess, etc.
The above are the kinds of rules that I feel make sense.  They were begun before she moved in with me - I will remove rules 15 and 16 as no longer applicable now that she's living with me.




BootyBoy -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/8/2012 10:39:37 AM)

[Quote]"6th other couples will be brought into play with master and his slut
7th masters slut will compete against other subs for masters attention ."[Quote]

Six and seven are more lifestyle boundary issues. Are you into Swinging and are you into Poly (from a relationship standpoint). If not, then no deal.

But number 4 is a bit different:
[Quote]"4, masters property will be shown off where ever and whenever master wants too"[/Quote]


That probably needs to be better understood, because in it's absolute form, that is pure fantasy, or else true insanity. I understand that Doms often word things in a way that enforces their dominance and control "positionally," but at some point, this needs some questions answered on a practical level. In short, what is meant by "showing off" and are his "wants" going to be within the law, reason, and your boundaries? I assume that they will be, but it still needs looking into.

The problem is that sometimes Dominants are risk takers, but with the subs well-being rather then their own. When a Dominant loses perspective in this, their "wants" may compromise your safety or freedom. I once had to pick up a sub friend who had been left somewhere, concealed but naked at 2:00 am. She had been spotted by somebody and the police were beginning to circle round the neighborhoods searching. It was later revealed that the Dominant had driven to his home (5 miles away) and simply hadn't considered what would have happen if his submissive was found hiding naked in somebody else's neighborhood. He had planned to come back to pick her up about a half hour later.



OsideGirl -> RE: Any sub feels they can adhere to all these rules? (1/8/2012 1:56:56 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


3. The sub, instead of discussing the rules with her Dom, posted them here.  Serious breach of protocol.


Actually, my impression is that some Dom she was talking to presented those to her as the rules for a prospective submissive

quote:

4. The rules are juvenile.
I'll agree with that.




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