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Hello to all who choose to read - 1/4/2012 9:56:14 PM

MrNMrsLarsen

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We are the Larsens, a couple from fort Lauderdale and new to this site, but we haven't had as much of a positive experience as we were expecting here. We are looking for a Sub/Pet/Slave, with whom to buld a Poly Home, however it seems that people here just want to be rude or play games. We would LIKE to think that based on the lifestyle, people would be perhaps a little less arrogant or vicious in general, but we havent found that to be the case. One would think that because we are all here due to a difference in "traditional", "Socially accepted" lifestyle. But instead, people use the term Dom (or Domme) as an excuse to be dicks and hypocrites to everyone for no reason. We are both Dominant people, but we dont feel the need to degrade perfect strangers who are just looking for the same thing we are, we prefer to save that until after we know someone and have the relationship to do so.
We are trying to find not only a female, Live-in, sub/slave/pet. In addition to an enjoyable experience on this site, and it seems all we have come across are fakes and assholes. We are more than happy to chat to people who aren't rude, disrespectful, or worthless IF we could find some here, but we are starting to feel that it would just be better off deleting our account here. would someone please give us a reason NOT to do so, because we're all here for the same reason, and I'm sure there are some incredible REAL people here, and if we could meet some, We're sure that it would make this whole thing so much more pleasant.
So, I guess our point here is this, we are looking for something REAL with Someone who isn't a jerk, bitch, or whatever else the case may be. So if youre NOT a pain in the ass and a real woman looking for something special, we'd love to hear from you. but we have already been jaded by a majority of people on this site, so IF you do contact us, forgive us for being cynical.

< Message edited by MrNMrsLarsen -- 1/4/2012 10:02:43 PM >

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/4/2012 10:21:56 PM

smartsub10

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I'm very sorry that you've had a bad experience here on CM but this is about the gazillionth complaint about fakes, assholes, bitches, yada, yada, yada.

Why do you need someone to give you a reason to stay on this site? It doesn't matter to me or probably anyone else whether or not you close your account. This is the internet. It abounds with all types of folks. You just have to learn to weed out those folks you don't want to deal with.

Hope you find what you seek. Welcome to CM and the boards.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/4/2012 11:14:24 PM

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I don't know how you are approaching others so have no idea why you have found rudeness here. Finding that bi sexual play toy is not going to be easy nor will it probably be soon. Unicorns, as they are fondly called, are very rare compared to the many couples seeking one. If you go to the poly forum you will see many posts that offer advice about locating and finding a unicorn.

Collarme is no different than any web site on the internet. Many will not be who they say they are. It's just the way the internet is.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/4/2012 11:18:25 PM

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I say delete your account and join your local scene...

Also please know your seeking a needle in a stack of needles..... theres a reason they are called unicorns... take your time, be patient, and welcome, know your in for a VERY long search...

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 2:34:33 AM

stellauk

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Oh the irony.. But then again that's what you get when those who deem themselves socially privileged express their frustration and bitterness when they don't get what they perceive they're entitled to.

Gosh it must be so hard, please accept my sympathy.

Welcome to CM.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 4:55:38 AM

seababy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MrNMrsLarsen

We are the Larsens, a couple from fort Lauderdale and new to this site, but we haven't had as much of a positive experience as we were expecting here. We are looking for a Sub/Pet/Slave, with whom to buld a Poly Home, however it seems that people here just want to be rude or play games. We would LIKE to think that based on the lifestyle, people would be perhaps a little less arrogant or vicious in general, but we havent found that to be the case. One would think that because we are all here due to a difference in "traditional", "Socially accepted" lifestyle. But instead, people use the term Dom (or Domme) as an excuse to be dicks and hypocrites to everyone for no reason. We are both Dominant people, but we dont feel the need to degrade perfect strangers who are just looking for the same thing we are, we prefer to save that until after we know someone and have the relationship to do so.
We are trying to find not only a female, Live-in, sub/slave/pet. In addition to an enjoyable experience on this site, and it seems all we have come across are fakes and assholes. We are more than happy to chat to people who aren't rude, disrespectful, or worthless IF we could find some here, but we are starting to feel that it would just be better off deleting our account here. would someone please give us a reason NOT to do so, because we're all here for the same reason, and I'm sure there are some incredible REAL people here, and if we could meet some, We're sure that it would make this whole thing so much more pleasant.
So, I guess our point here is this, we are looking for something REAL with Someone who isn't a jerk, bitch, or whatever else the case may be. So if youre NOT a pain in the ass and a real woman looking for something special, we'd love to hear from you. but we have already been jaded by a majority of people on this site, so IF you do contact us, forgive us for being cynical.

(First the disclaimer - Im in the wrong country, Im the wrong age, and I am not currently looking.)

See I look at your profile and I think -
Presentable looking couple who give the impression of having a solid commited relationship    check
Both dominant                                                                                                      double check
Kink list looks doable                                                                                                                             check
Dominant female is bi                                                                                                                             awesome check
Profile pic is cute and classy and noones bumhole is on show                                                               relief check
Top interests shared especially scuba diving                                                                                           check
Looking for a serious poly household                                                                                                      check
If I contact them I will get a cynical response                                                                                          cross

This post as underlined in red - if I contacted you I have to get through your cynical jaded response first.
I know that wouldnt put everyone off but it would me.
Its hard enough trying to work out if all three people are genuinely attracted to each other, are compatible, that there is no lurking surprise kink (what we didn't mention the snake?) and especially the female in the relationship isn't just saying bi cause her partner thinks its hot.
Its the internet, it comes prepackaged with assholes and timewasters, no matter what side of the kneel. So the geniune person your looking for is going through exactly what your going through now.
Life is full of expectations not being met. Collarme isn't costing you anything and it gives you another potential option for finding someone.
I see dating as fun and exciting, even time wasters can give you something to chuckle about. Your on an adventure to find and I assume both fall in love with someone who will be a permanant fixture in your life. What part of that did you think would be quick or easy? Enjoy the journey even the stupid frustrating stuff.

Good luck with your search.

Sea

< Message edited by seababy -- 1/5/2012 5:16:17 AM >

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 5:02:32 AM

DarkSteven

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Your first post is negative and almost hostile. Your profile is negative and almost hostile. Why would anyone go into a relationship that will, have so much negative energy? Females willing to enter an existing relationship as a third are hard to find, and they can afford to be choosy. Why should one choose you?

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 5:06:07 AM

Azonier

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Because "I want the goose that lays the golden egg, daddy, and I want it NOW!"
Yes, I have tv on my spaceship, sooo?

Oh, and welcome to collarme, OP, good luck in your search.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 5:31:39 AM

GreedyTop

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what Sea said.

and incidentally, not everyone here is looking for anything at all. Personally speaking, I come here for the forums to post and interact with folks that I like, admire and respect (and to get different points of views on things). So no, we are NOT ALL here for the same reasons.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 5:32:09 AM

searching4mysir

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Welcome to the discussion side of CM....

As people have said, a bi-submissive female willing to enter into an already established relationship is called a unicorn for a reason...they are very few and far between and have the option of being very choosy in regards to who they spend their time with. The ranting and raving about fakes and timewasters portrays you as someone, as a slave, I wouldn't want to be bothered with as there are so many other, more positive people, to be with.

If I, when I was searching, sent out a positive, respectful, message to a dom (or Dom/me couple) then I would expect a positive, respectful message back. I would consider YOU the time waster if you sent anything else, and would immediately strike you off my list of compatible people. I do not suffer fools gladly...I know my worth as a slave.

If you thought unicorn hunting was going to be quick and easy, then you are in for an education.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 6:02:01 AM

Delilya

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good luck

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 6:55:35 AM

Fornica

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You sound like..super friendly people.
I can't imagine why you aren't meeting people here...esp when you basically just called us a bunch of assholes.
Good luck, Larsons. I think you're going to need it.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:06:14 AM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Your first post is negative and almost hostile. Your profile is negative and almost hostile. Why would anyone go into a relationship that will, have so much negative energy? Females willing to enter an existing relationship as a third are hard to find, and they can afford to be choosy. Why should one choose you?

This. And welcome........though I would be surprised if you stick around.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:09:52 AM

DaddySatyr

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I found a unicorn, once. It was beautiful and it was the right age and it was well-bred and it was amazingly acquiescent and it was ugly, on the inside. How do I know? I gutted it, when I found out that it was just on "sneak-away plan" from an unhappy marriage.

I truly hope you find what you're looking for. However, the best advice I can give you is stop looking and start being a couple that unicorns will want to look at .

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:13:32 AM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Your first post is negative and almost hostile. Your profile is negative and almost hostile. Why would anyone go into a relationship that will, have so much negative energy? Females willing to enter an existing relationship as a third are hard to find, and they can afford to be choosy. Why should one choose you?

Yeah, what Steven said.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:38:39 AM

Kana

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We are the Larsens, a couple from fort Lauderdale and new to this site, but we haven't had as much of a positive experience (Awwwww) as we were expecting here (Teach you to have expectations). We are looking for a Sub/Pet/Slave (Good luck finding that unicorn), with whom to buld a Poly Home, however it seems that people here just want to be rude or play games(Well Goshgollygeewhiz, it's might fine to meet you too). We would LIKE to think (First mistake) that based on the lifestyle(What lifestyle, whose lifestyle...oooh you mean your preconceived notions-OK. Gotcha), people would be perhaps a little less arrogant or vicious in general(And what in the world would make you think that. BDSM people are just as rude as any others, they ain't special...and this is a board for freaks, so you are really surprised when they act freaky?), but we haven't found that to be the case (That's because this is reality, not childish naivete). One (Who is this one? Certainly not me. Oooh, you mean you-gotcha) would think that because we are all here due to a difference in "traditional", "Socially accepted" lifestyle (Actually I have no idea why people are here. I know why some SAY they are here, but with few exceptions I have zero reason to believe them. Me-I'm here to get some chucks, maybe share an experience or two, meet some decent folks and perhaps learn something while I'm at it). But instead, people use the term Dom (or Domme) as an excuse to be dicks and hypocrites (You're shitting me...people acts like dicks on the net...and lie too...OMG, heaven help my heart...and who is this they you keep talking about anyhow-The Eisenhower military industrial complex, Al Qaeda, John Ashcroft, Aliens from Mars?) to everyone (Wouldn't being an ass to everyone be kinda a full time job?) for no reason (Oh I suspect strongly they have reasons. I just may not comprehend em, but they have a reason).

We are both Dominant people(Demonstrating it by whining), but we don't feel the need to degrade perfect strangers who are just looking for the same thing we are (Well good on you-you get a gold star and a cookie), we prefer to save that until after we know someone and have the relationship to do so.

We are trying to find not only a female, Live-in, sub/slave/pet. In addition to an enjoyable experience on this site(What exactly does this sentence mean. I've read it three times and still don't understand. If your experience has been "enjoyable" then why ya bitching? And how does that connect with the second part of the statement? The pair are inherently contradictory comments), and it seems all we have come across are fakes and assholes (Sorry for you. I've met phenomenal folks here, Doctors,receptionists, lawyers, shrinks, CFO's, pornstars, escorts, housewives, nurses...simply put CM has been very very good to me). We are more than happy to chat to people who aren't rude, disrespectful, or worthless IF we could find some here (Well, gee, ain't we the lucky ones), but we are starting to feel that it would just be better off deleting our account here (Don't let the door hit ya on the way out). would someone please give us a reason NOT to do so (No. In fact Hell no.Find it yourself Charlie. I don't do others work for em. Don't like the experience you are having-make a newer better one. Empower thine own ass), because we're all here for the same reason (We are? This is a vast assumption..and one that couldn't be more erroneous), and I'm sure there are some incredible REAL people here, and if we could meet some, We're sure that it would make this whole thing so much more pleasant (No shit I bet it would).

So, I guess our point here is this, we are looking for something REAL with Someone who isn't a jerk, bitch, or whatever else the case may be (Man, you would have done so much better if you had deleted the first paragraph and just started with this, although jerk/bitch is kinda over the top.). So if you're NOT a pain in the ass and a real woman (Contradiction-All real women are, by definition, pains in the ass. That's what they do best. chortles :-)) looking for something special (Not to be an ass or anything, though you probably already think I'm one by now, but how have you written anything here that would impress the reader of the fact that you are special), we'd love to hear from you. but we have already been jaded by a majority of people on this site, so IF you do contact us, forgive us for being cynical.

Editorial comment-Fer fucks sake, stop crying and sack up.
Meanwhile-I haven't done this in some time-it's still fun!

edited for formatting

< Message edited by Kana -- 1/5/2012 7:48:58 AM >

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:41:34 AM

GreedyTop

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I love you, Kana.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:49:09 AM

JstAnotherSub

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Been here for almost a month and haven't found what you are looking for?

It is because everyone on this site is fake.

Duh.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 7:50:26 AM

OsideGirl

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Thank you Kana! I wasn't awake enough to do something like that.

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RE: Hello to all who choose to read - 1/5/2012 8:01:39 AM

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Hi Larsens,

Fort Lauderdale has an active kink scene. I also noticed a lot of swingers there are kink friendly if not kinksters. Have you gone to munches, Alter Ego parties, SDC events, the Rooftop, Haulover Beach? Perhaps in person networking might be more successful for you than online.

You'll catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Talking about fakes and assholes will do nothing to deter them and only aggravate the non-fakes and assholes.

You may find this book helpful - The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures

Best,

KK

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