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New dominant man - 1/5/2012 4:26:20 AM   
JohnnyTom


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Status: offline 		Hi, my name is Tim and I'm new here. I'm an older man, married over 20 years, and until now completely monogamous. I've always wanted an open, polyamorous life, but repressed it, relegating it to fantasy. My wife and I have been discussing it, and are trying to figure out if we can turn fantasy into reality. Any advice and encouragement would be appreciated.

My ultimate goal would be to invite a young woman into our home, our bed, our lives, and our hearts. My wife is submissive to me in bed, this young woman would need to be also.

In the meantime, as we work this out, my chosen outlet is online chatting. I've been doing that for a few months, via TigerText, and have found I have a talent for it. My work as an aspiring author seems to translate well to chat, sexting, and leading women through their fantasies. I'm told frequently that they cum harder from my chat than by a man's touch. Can anyone advise me how to find a sub to explore this with me? If things worked well it could lead to more, but that's not required at this point.
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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 4:54:35 AM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		Welcome to the message boards.  Use the search feature (top right of screen) to look up "unicorn"and you will find that you and your wife are amongst the many looking for the wondrous thing that is a young female sub to join an established relationship.

There is a poly forum on here which may be able to give you some information on opening up your  marriage to a third.  :)

As for this -



quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnnyTom
My work as an aspiring author seems to translate well to chat, sexting, and leading women through their fantasies. I'm told frequently that they cum harder from my chat than by a man's touch.



It is amazing how many men fall for this

edited to fix up my screwed up formatting stuff


< Message edited by wandersalone -- 1/5/2012 4:55:54 AM >

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 4:56:22 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Hi there, and welcome to collarme!

The bad news is that such women, bi and willing to be the third, aren't easy to come by.  The good news is that your situation is ideal for them - bad stuff occurs when the primary relationship isn't solid.

I'm confused what you want - are you looking for a third to invite to your life, or for a woman to sub to you online?  If the former, prepare for a long search.  (And also define how you see her relationship with your wife working.)  If the latter, the world is your oyster.

Welcome to collarme.

Edited to add:  WANDERS!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 5:24:30 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		*TACKLESMOOOOCHES WANDERS!!!!!*

oh, and hi, OP.. what they said!

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 5:59:43 AM   
JohnnyTom


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Status: offline 		thank you so much for taking the time to read my post and reply. I'll do as you suggest and lookup unicorn and the poly forums.

As for this:

quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone
quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnnyTom
My work as an aspiring author seems to translate well to chat, sexting, and leading women through their fantasies. I'm told frequently that they cum harder from my chat than by a man's touch.



It is amazing how many men fall for this

edited to fix up my screwed up formatting stuff



Well, you could be right! Online is just fantasy after all. :)

But I'll take it. After all, the same women keep coming back asking for more, and they send me videos and pictures of them cumming and their wet pussies. If they're going to those lengths to keep hearing my fantasies, that's good enough for me! ;)

Thanks again!

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 6:03:10 AM   
LillyoftheVally


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Status: offline 		Hiya Mr New Guy,

As has been said, not easy to find. Also has been said check the poly section, do some reading, do some chatting, go out and meet people, even if it takes you a while to find you will probably make many a friend on the way so will hopefully enjoy the journey.

xx


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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 8:17:41 AM   
ashjor911


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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 8:50:25 AM   
JohnnyTom


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I'm confused what you want - are you looking for a third to invite to your life, or for a woman to sub to you online?  If the former, prepare for a long search.  (And also define how you see her relationship with your wife working.)  If the latter, the world is your oyster.



Sorry about that! It's my first post and I guess I was eager to include everything. Thanks for the information and your patience. :)

For now I'm looking for online relationships. I'm glad to hear the world is my oyster. Now I have to figure out how to connect to people!

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 9:04:37 AM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Hey there and welcome! So nice to have someone here who seems quite nice, open, interesting, and whose wife is along for the ride! I wish you the best 

There is a wealth of information on these forums, I learn more every day just by reading here. You can also use the search feature to look up topics of interest.

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 9:16:12 AM   
DaddySatyr


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Status: offline 		Welcome to CM.

I would add a little something that may or may not be of help. There are "poly support groups" that are fairly easily searchable. I italicized the one word because that is how it was listed, when I searched and, when I attended one of the meetings, that is essentially what it was. It was like an AA meeting for people who were having some sort of "trouble" with the polyamorous lifestyle.

I did embellish a little bit, in that last paragraph but not a whole lot.

I know there is a website (I wish I could remember it. I'm sorry but, I have a memory issue that is fairly debilitating, at times) where you start or join a local polyamorous network. I will see if I can find that for you.

Again, welcome and good luck.



Peace and comfort,



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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 9:37:03 AM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		good luck

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 9:48:05 AM   
kalikshama


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quote:

In the meantime, as we work this out, my chosen outlet is online chatting.


Beware of abandoning your wife as you work this out. Put as much effort and energy into the woman you live with as you do with pixels on a screen.

When my husband and I were new to BDSM we joined a local BDSM group, went to munches and public and private play parties, and got a bunch of books including The Ethical Slut. We did things together.

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RE: New dominant man - 1/5/2012 9:51:10 AM   
hlen5


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Welcome to collarme.

Edited to add:  WANDERS!!!!!!!!!!!

smoochsmoochsmooch



Ditto!!

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RE: New dominant man - 1/6/2012 6:18:17 AM   
OohAahMrs


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Status: offline 		Hey there john, finding that second girl can be a monumental search, not disimilar to finding a grain of salt on a sandy beach! Having said that, in my youth i did have a relationship with two girls, no sub or dom, but mutual love involving four relationships, three couples, one threesome.

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