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Is this normal? - 1/5/2012 6:57:42 AM

SAMHAIN09

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Okay I started seeing this Pro Dom and I've started to fall for her is it normal for this to happen?

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RE: Is this normal? - 1/5/2012 7:02:13 AM

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my question is....are you falling for her or are you falling for the act/roleplaying/persona? From your other post I'd say you're falling for her since she let her hair down with you. If this is the case then yes it's normal. You just need to make sure she feels the same for you.

If you're falling for the persona however, then you could be overstepping your professional boundaries with her.

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RE: Is this normal? - 1/5/2012 7:11:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

Okay I started seeing this Pro Dom and I've started to fall for her is it normal for this to happen?

How does this fit in with this http://www.collarchat.com/m_3983660/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#3983660 where you are concerned about her behaviour? Or maybe you wrote that post in the hope that people said that she is clearly falling for you and therefore validating your feelings.

To be honest, I am pretty sure it is normal but it may not be reciprocated. Its hard to broach such a subject but if you had her over for christmas dinner I would imagine you have the kind of relationship where you can openly talk about your feelings, it may be the end of your relationship of course but its up to you to decide whether that is a risk you think is worth taking.

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RE: Is this normal? - 1/5/2012 7:23:43 AM

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BDSM play tends to break through emotional barriers and sometimes can be interpreted as love. Sometimes it really is and sometimes it's not. Only time can tell.

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RE: Is this normal? - 2/14/2012 6:58:43 AM

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Sometimes it happens.

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RE: Is this normal? - 2/14/2012 12:17:19 PM

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Okay I started seeing this Pro Dom and I've started to fall for her is it normal for this to happen?

I see that this is an old thread, but since someone else resurrected it, I'll respond.

What you're feeling is actually very normal. It's a common thing. I think I've heard it called "John Syndrome" or something like that. It's where customers of prostitutes, exotic dancers, phone sex operators, pro-Dommes, etc. find themselves falling in love with the service provider.

Think about it for a moment. She's making your fantasies come true. No matter how kinky they may be, she is open to making them happen. Most people's wives/girlfriends don't even do that. So the provider becomes highly esteemed in the eyes of her john. Some johns even think they're in love with her. And if the provider is good, she knows how to keep him feeling that way, so he will remain a loyal customer.

Sometimes providers do enter into real relationships with their johns. But usually, she's providing you with a fantasy, and it's your job to enjoy it, but to know the difference between reality and fantasy.

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RE: Is this normal? - 2/14/2012 4:38:05 PM

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answer these simple questions :

What is her favorite book and why?

What is her favorite vanilla activity, and how often does she get to do it?

If she could go on a vacation, where would it be?

What are her goals / dreams?

Single ply or double?

If you can't answer these questions, you aren't in love with her, you are in love with her persona.

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