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GreedyTop -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 6:20:32 AM)

just. wow.

good luck.



Epytropos -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 6:37:33 AM)

Because giant capital letters, a laundry list of demands, deliberate exclusion of just about anyone who isn't you, and repeated reminders that we can go fuck ourselves are not only unbecoming of a sub but frankly unbecoming of a member of polite society. Given that a submissive is an extension and representative of her dominant, the only options for a dom would be to allow his name to be sullied by this sort of behavior or to attempt to train what I suspect is the core of your personality out of you.

Give my regards and condolences to your ex. He is a more patient man than I.



Fornica -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 6:46:24 AM)

Yeah..that.
You seem to be very very defensive...before you've even been offended. It's like when a new kid goes to school and walks up to everyone and says "I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK OF ME CUZ YOU'RE A STUPIDHEAD ANYWAYS" before anyone's even had a chance to say hello.

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ORIGINAL: Epytropos

Because giant capital letters, a laundry list of demands, deliberate exclusion of just about anyone who isn't you, and repeated reminders that we can go fuck ourselves are not only unbecoming of a sub but frankly unbecoming of a member of polite society.




GreedyTop -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 6:55:19 AM)

Given the OPs age, I would have thought she might have learned these things already, Fornilovely.

*sad*



DivineDemise -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 6:57:30 AM)

I find it funny how only a few in this thread see it that way when I have many messages from people saying otherwise. They are shocked to see someone who exactly what they want. As I said before its a opinion & right to have it as everyone has that right. Cap letters are to stress a point which obviously doesnt work.

Im a Switch not a sub only 1 has brought that side out in me & he broke that trust. I dont speak with him I have no reason to. When I find a Dom we will discuss things & go from there. Im not giving my all the way I did before & get destroyed. Maybe Im coming off a bit strong & mean but it helps keep users at bay. There is a method to my maddness.

I exclude any that are not what Im looking for from the get go. Would you want some generic fake repsentation or the real deal? Im a orginal I dont mimic others.



DivineDemise -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 7:03:02 AM)

Ive always been a defensive person. Sometimes its good sometimes its bad. If a person can break that wall great!!

GreedyTop thanks for the welcom



kalikshama -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 7:35:05 AM)

Most people, when attacked, get defensive. Your profile feels like an assault. I'd lose all the negativity - don't focus on what you don't want but what you DO want.

If you are not compatible with people who use slashy speak, consider that a filter. By leading with this:

quote:

D/DO N/NOT C/CONTACT M/ME T/TYPING I/IN S/ SLASH. I/I D/DONT S/SPEAK S/SLASH L/LANGUAGE. Y YOU W/WILL B/BE I/IGNORED!!

You've just aggravated all the people who don't use it, aka your target demographic.

I think you will have more success if you lead with the positive and put your limits on the bottom.

You can set your filters to send these people to your bulk mailbox:

quote:

NO POLY, SUB MEN, OR FEMALES! DOMS ONLY! MUST LIVE CLOSE TO ME!

thereby not starting your ad by shrieking at your target audience.

Welcome,

KK



DivineDemise -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 7:42:22 AM)

Thanks & my limits are on the bottom. I dont see it as negative but thats me. Didnt know about the filters will for sure use it considering the gobs of mail from male subs.



Fornica -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 8:54:39 AM)

Every female gets literally hundreds of emails from sub men on here.
We're trying to tell you how your approach sort of sucks balls if you are here for friends. If that's not something you're here for, carry on.



Epytropos -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 9:51:52 AM)

If you actually have people messaging you to tell you how much they like a profile which abuses them ahead of time so you don't have to, by all means take advantage of that. They've clearly got it coming.



lizi -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 9:58:00 AM)

Hey there OP, welcome to CM, I hope things work out for you.

I have to say, your initial post and profile do include things that seem rather harsh and in your face. It's kind of like walking along a sidewalk somewhere and instead of nodding to passers-by and perhaps saying hello, you would instead choose to right off the bat begin to berate someone in a harsh manner. It's a bit invasive. It tends to put people off and set them on edge.

In your other postings around the board you seem to be friendlier and not as confrontational, dare I say you seem rather nice. I'm sure you can understand how your postings so far on this thread are coming off as defensive and perhaps not in your best interest? Just offering you a friendly observation.

Anyway, welcome, I hope you find yourself comfortable here and good luck with things.



Casteele -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/9/2012 5:23:55 PM)

DD, to a point you are right--we have our opinions and views, and you have yours. The problem occurs when you come off as if you're screaming yours in our faces telling us we better accept it, thats who you are. What did we do to deserve being treated with such disrespect? What did we do to deserve the invasion in to our own personal space? In most of your other posts, you don't seem to be so bad, you even seem like you might be a nice person.. And if you are, why would you want your profile to portray you as something you're not? That would make you a fake and a game player.

And yes, for every one post like ours, you're going to get 10 to 100 PM's from those who will say things like "I don't think you're all that bad," just because your profile screams "fuck with my head by telling me nice sweet things you don't really believe, so you can get in to my pants." There may be a genuine few people who will really mean it, but most of them really do have ulterior motives. I'm a guy, I know--I've been there, done that, screwed her, and gave her the t-shirt.

I really would advise you to give some thought to what you dismiss as mere opinions that some have posted here. None of them were really rude, just genuine and blunt, trying to share a little of their experience and hopefully a little hard earned wisdom. Think of it less as someone trying to tell you how to run your life, and more as a free gift that can help enrich your life. And you don't have to take it or leave it wholesale--You can always discard the parts that truly do not fit who you are.

Best of luck

ETA: A few words which got left out :-P



DivineDemise -> RE: Female Switch seeking a Dom (1/10/2012 2:15:30 AM)

Fornica
Iv setup filters so no more male subs which is great. :)

Epytropos
I see it as if a person can get past the inital bitch side then they did good.

Lizi
Thanks. I am fairly nice person but Im not putting myself out there as a person who can be walked over & trampled again.

Casteele
Thing is accepted or not matters not to me. Nor am I fake or a game player. There are people in this lifestyle who say do far worse than my few blunt words. Ive put my gentle side out before on this site under another name in past & on fet. I got people who wanted to walk all over me. It was seen as a weakness & mimiced all other profiles. I feel if a person wants someone who is brutally honest they will have no problem with me. Therrs a saying " behind every bitch is a man who made her that way" Ive become a straight forward person so Im not screwed over again. If cant handle me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best :)

although the advice helps & shows that the profile is saying exactly what I want it to say & its not changing.



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