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Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/30/2006 9:16:02 PM   
Sensualips


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Status: offline 		This weekend I had the opportunity to witness an awesome scene between a female submissive and her partner/Dominant.  As I watched, I found myself trying to decide exactly what made it such a “good” scene.  The actual activities were fairly typical and mundane – blindfold, a little impact play, controlling her movements by her hair and throat, etc. Visually her body had great lines and he was the perfect height and build to be taller and physically imposing.  They reacted to each other in a graceful but primal way that illustrated the cliché “poetry in motion.”  It was more than that though.

I decided it was two things. The first was the energy. Prior to the scene she commented to me she was nervous.  I reassured her she would forget the onlookers once they started.  She replied no, it wasn’t that – she was ALWAYS nervous before every planned scene they had ever done.  The anticipation and anxiety and fear were always present, and she had gotten to a point where she enjoyed the tension it created for her. I had talked with him earlier and he seemed like a good guy, personable, and very pleasant. Once the scene started he took on this authorative commanding presence that was a little surprising.  They were so focused on each other, in a small dungeon where another scene was going on literally a few feet away. At one point a woman started screaming hysterically right next to the scene as she was hog tied on the floor and saw a spider crawling towards her.  Neither of them even reacted.

The second was the details. The way she tended to stand on tiptoes, and lift one leg in reaction. When she would reach out, clinging to his leg, or whatever body part was closest, and he would command “don’t touch me” and she would instantly pull back. She was DESPERATE to reach out and touch him, but more intent on obeying. She melted into him as he would grip her throat from behind and he would let her stay there for a moment, before abruptly yanking her away and into the next motion. He had a large piece of leather in his bag, something he had bought that night to make a toy from.  On a whim he picked it up and used it to smack her – something that sounded wicked but probably did not hurt much at all.  He also wrapped it under her hips or around her stomach and used it to move her.  At one point he grabbed her by the throat and by the pussy and lifted her up sideways and threw her down in another area. 

It was very, very hot.

So my question to the all the voyeurs: what specific things get you revved up?  I mean in that deliciously near unbearable “oh god someone should really fuck me now” way?
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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/30/2006 9:57:31 PM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		What really gets me revved up is just the mere thought of watching you watching them, knowing that someone is watching me watching you watching them... umm so hot!

Why are you looking at me that way?


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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 1:20:02 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		That sounds absolutely wonderful  - thank you for sharing that!

I'm still trying to find the courage and opportunity to attend a munch or play party of some kind.  You've really motivated me to try harder!

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 6:03:09 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sensualips
So my question to the all the voyeurs: what specific things get you revved up?  I mean in that deliciously near unbearable “oh god someone should really fuck me now” way?


No surprise, exactly the same things.  I've been bored to death watching some very "intense" type scenes because the energy going on was nothing to me.  I got blasted at the Austin Rope Symposium for saying I didn't really get into one of the bondage exhibitions because they weren't really doing anything and I didn't feel much connection between them. 

It's all about the energy and connection flowing between them.  If that's there, they could do nothing but look into eachothers eyes and kiss for an hour and I've be captivated.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 6:17:19 AM   
ExistentialSteel


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quote:

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No surprise, exactly the same things.  I've been bored to death watching some very "intense" type scenes because the energy going on was nothing to me.  I got blasted at the Austin Rope Symposium for saying I didn't really get into one of the bondage exhibitions because they weren't really doing anything and I didn't feel much connection between them. 

It's all about the energy and connection flowing between them.  If that's there, they could do nothing but look into eachothers eyes and kiss for an hour and I've be captivated.


My thoughts, too.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 6:35:57 AM   
CrappyDom


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The first was the energy...The second was the details.


That about sums it up for me too.    The one thing I would add is connection, nothing kills a scene for me like seeomg the top looking around to see who is or isn't watching.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 8:04:21 AM   
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What gets me is how this shit is happening in Kansas, that backward, BUSH voting, gun toting, Capote lionizing red state.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 8:35:30 AM   
mistoferin


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quote:

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They were so focused on each other


You said it right there. I am turned on by the connection and the energy that flows between two people within a space that is impenetrable by anyone or anything that is not a part of it. In other's scenes and also in my own, that is the thing that does it for me...the dance that is shared by just the two.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 8:42:34 AM   
Sensualips


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Status: offline 		I am glad to see I am not the only energy slut here at CM. :)

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I didn't really get into one of the bondage exhibitions because they weren't really doing anything and I didn't feel much connection between them.


I have really never seen a bondage scene that I felt there was a strong connection.  I have seen artistic and beautiful bondage, people having fun and messing around with bondage, etc.  I have seen bondage incorporated into a hot scene, but it is typically quick-and-dirty type stuff.

I am not saying it does not happen. I am saying I have not had the opportunity to see it.

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What gets me is how this shit is happening in Kansas, that backward, BUSH voting, gun toting, Capote lionizing red state


You forgot the wheat and the cows.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 8:59:14 AM   
Kirei


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Status: offline 		  I'd say its when you see that connection and the energy are flowing right between two people.  I've watched scenes where its basically the dominant putting the sub into subspace by pain and sensory overload...and those scenes do nothing for me. 

Then again I've proven with the right person, you can fake the energy part of it too, if you have the ability and understanding of energy play well enough.  I did that once for a contest scene, but then I played on the fantasies and the energy of the audience and reflected it back at them to make the scene more intense than it actually was.  It worked and she won her competition. 

Koneko

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 9:34:31 AM   
fellatrixkris


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Status: offline 		I've always been scared to attend one just due to the fact that I don't know how I'd react if my Dom just suddenly expected me to scene in front of an audiance. It's hard for us because well, about a year ago after being boyfriend and girlfriend for about 2 years, we learned about the not so vanilla world around us. Being that we went from bf/gf into D/s after two years makes it hard somtimes to remeber for me anyways that I am His submissive. We are still so new to the whole thing and learning together. Sometimes I'll notice He's much moer commanding or controlling of other submissive friends of ours than He is me. A friend of mine told me this was because its harder for Him to be this way with me, because of our past and His love for me. When He is He has complete control of me, its like He doesnt even relize just how much. I live for His commands, and in the bedroom....good god! We really need to be more active in the lifestyle, we recently moved and are trying to find a munch or somthing in the area that we fit into. It kinda reminds me of church...(please just listen hahaha) for when you are active in Church...going every sunday, and to some functions your activly kept in mind that you are a Christian and should try to do godly things and act godly to others. Well with BDSM, for us, its like, when we are going to constant munches and events...were in the state of mind more! AHH sorry everyone for going off in this post, its just ..how do I get my Dom to know I need these things...I crave this, and knowing He can do this for me,  just getting Him to belive it. I love the "need" i get for him after a strong scene...i just wish i could share it with others...sorry for blabbing on...

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 9:45:41 AM   
Proprietrix


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Status: offline 		I think I might be a bit different on this. The energy doesn't do a whole lot for me. Not that I'm unaware of it, but more because I'm always aware of energy exchange, so it holds no special meaning in the context of BDSM play.
And although I can't say as I've ever experienced that “oh god someone should really fuck me now” feeling, I do enjoy a unique scene.
Unique being the keyword.
I can literally fall asleep watching a flogging session with Domly black outfit flogging naked subbie on the St. Andrews Cross, regardless of their energy exchange. It simply bores me to tears because I've seen it so many times.
But if a couple decides they're going to try dressing up like Little Bo Peep and a teletubby and vomit on each other underwater, I'm most probably going to pay attention and enjoy watching, even if the energy between them is awkward and distant.
I like the new. I like the unusual. I like watching play that breaks outside what I've come to consider pretty mundane and typical.
I'll even sometimes challenge myself to watch a scene I find squicky, just because I enjoy something fresh and different.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 10:05:06 AM   
HollyS


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Status: offline 		This weekend at the club I got to watch a Domme top a younger woman.  They seemed new to each other and spent a long time on the floor together going through through the Domme's toybag, pulling out each thing, explaining what it was, testing it lightly on an arm or hand. The bottom was very animated, interested and used her eyes to connect with the Domme before standing, being partially stripped and having her hands cuffed to two ropes (though not suspended).  The two took a long time together, playing with many of the toys, and the energy between the two of them was fabulous to watch.  It was playful and fun, yet sensual and very engaging even though the play was fairly light according to some standards.  The sub's reactions were priceless when the Domme brought out the clover clamps! *grin*

I like to watch a wide variety of scenes, but at the end of a long day this was really enjoyable.  They clearly enjoyed being with each other and spent such a long time together, slowly building from item to item...  it never seemed like a "paint by numbers" scene or otherwise forced.  Very yummy!

~Holly

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 10:10:08 AM   
ADomDoc


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Status: offline 		Are you kidding?  The more repressed the community, the more swingers & the more kinksters you'll find there!  

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 10:19:54 AM   
ADomDoc


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Status: offline 		kris,
Don't worry ... your concerns are pretty universal.  I had a sub who, before she met me, had attended about 6 play parties.  She always stayed along the back wall watching.  Since she was 5'11", fully dressed & well made-up, all the TVs stood around & told her how much she looked like a 'real' woman.  But she didn't have the nerve to get into a scene w/ anyone.  Finally, after we met, she attended a party with me.  There were about 16 (maybe 20) play stations being heavily used.  Finally when one opened up, I told her to get naked & get up there.  She was mortified & so nervous she was shaking as if she were naked in the arctic.  She nearly tipped the stocks she was in over.  But she enjoyed the session ... blushing w/ the admission.  The next time, she was still nervious ... and she was worried that everyone would be watching her.  I pointed out that though some would watch ... they'd also just move on ... she wasn't the center of attention ... just one of many.  And, being a professional actress, she soon realized that was true & she could enjoy the role.  From then on, I had a hard time keeping clothes on the wench :-)  Just jump in & have fun.




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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 5:09:54 PM   
cloudboy


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Speaking of voyeurs, my posts keep disappearing on nuked threads. There's nothing like taking the time to post only too see the moderators air brush the whole thing away. I should probably stick to talking about cars in the Off Topic Discussion board. Speaking about "daddy" or "marriage obsessed" Doms doesn't really seem to lead anywhere (for anyone posting along such lines at all.)

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 5:29:56 PM   
genvieve


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Status: offline 		i would have to agree with you, Sensual.  It is not the act itself, but the energy behind it. 
 
i watched a scene once that lasted for over 3 hours.  i only watched 3 hours of it.  It started out with bare bottom spanking with very simply leather cuffs...then moved to a horse, then a crusifiction cross, etc etc...
 
What make it beautiful was the energy between them, the love they so obviously shared, and how beautifully they seemed to flow between sections of the scene...and from one peice of equipment to the next.  Gawd, i was horny that night.  Called muh Sir to tell Him too.  -growls low-  Good times.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 7:18:12 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		I only just discovered that I -really- like watching and being watched.

For me, it's all about the person KNOWING I'm watching. I like to watch someone who is just a little bit uncomfortable with the idea of being watched, but doing it anyway. I like the edge of discomfort. I think this is my favorite thing about watching people.

Actually, that's my favorite thinga bout being watching too--being just al ittle bit uncomfortable.


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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 7:38:34 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sensualips
I have really never seen a bondage scene that I felt there was a strong connection.  I have seen artistic and beautiful bondage, people having fun and messing around with bondage, etc.  I have seen bondage incorporated into a hot scene, but it is typically quick-and-dirty type stuff.

I am not saying it does not happen. I am saying I have not had the opportunity to see it.


Ooooooooh, one of the best scenes I ever watched was a bondage scene. The dom suspended the sub, stomach down, just high enough off the ground that he could slide underneath her. (Lying on his back on the floor beneath her, how undomly, huh?)

As long as his hands were off  her, she couldn't reach him. He'd occasionally grab her by the pigtails and tug her face down and kiss her, or bite her lip, or whisper to her...Then let her go so she couldn't reach him. Sometimes he'd swing her a bit and talk to her...and sometimes he'd carress, or pinch her.

He spent a long time just teasing her this way. She was squirming for more contact, even begging for his kisses...So hot!!!

One of the most elegant, romantic scenes I've ever seen.

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RE: Voyeurs and Critiques - 5/31/2006 7:47:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
I like the new. I like the unusual. I like watching play that breaks outside what I've come to consider pretty mundane and typical.


I like unusual, as well. I once watched a scene that comprised of nothing but the dom writing, and drawing, all over the sub's mostly nude body.

Everyone was wondering when their scene was going to actually begin, or where the pain was, but I think, as a writer, I got it right away. It was all about the sexual words he was writing, and that he was whispering them in her ear as he wrote them...thinking them up on the spot often inspired by her responses. (At least as far as I could tell from small overheard snippets of their conversation...)

Add to that, she had to hold herself still in several different revealing positions as he found new places to write...I'm sure it tickled.

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