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RE: My second time giving up.. - 1/9/2012 8:02:36 PM

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I can relate to being a rope/bondage slut but not a submissive. I also love doing some bondage shots (I'm in a fetish photo club which helps). Between the rigger, myself and the photographer we have a composition concept. I'm tied, positioned and the photographer takes upward of 100 pics, of which MAYBE 2 or 3 are used.

I agree, keep the picture taking for a different time, so you can focus & enjoy the session to it's fullest. (Or have him take the rope impressions left in your skin. That's where you can relax and feel more comfy directing the pics!)

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RE: My second time giving up.. - 1/9/2012 9:21:51 PM

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It sounds like you identify as a bottom rather than a sub. I've heard of people being dominant bottoms, nothing wrong with it really. Just accepting that you're not submissive will probably help find someone who is compatible.

i know it's a bit off topic, but you mentioning accepting your not submissive is such a an interesting thing because for me i had to accept i WAS submissive. It is just weird to me to think about it from the opposite pole, yet both exist

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RE: My second time giving up.. - 1/10/2012 9:25:57 AM

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Did you tell him that you were OCD and that symmetry is essential to you?

I frequently tell him when there's a minor problem that is hampering my enjoyment of a scene. He has no problem moving a rope a quarter inch because it's pinching my skin or getting my hair out of my face.

As far as the pictures go, you may want to do that separately from play. And be clear about what you want the picture to look like. It shouldn't be a big deal to first take a couple of pictures while you still look good and then get all sweaty with makeup smeared everywhere.

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RE: My second time giving up.. - 1/10/2012 6:13:09 PM

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So after my second 'real' bdsm session, in where I'm tied up in various ways without doing it myself - or instructing others how to do a knot - and I'm finding that, even though I've always identified as a submissive, that I have to fight with myself to not start blabbing about "this or that" that I'd like changed.

I'm so used to doing photos and bondage all my own way, and I can be sure that I'll at least be somewhat satisfied with the way things turn out. But today, sitting there all helpless and blind knowing pictures were being taken it was difficult to just give in and sit there (hopefully) looking sexy.

I also tend to be OCD some, I like symmetry in things and it bugged me that the crotch strap for the straightjacet slid to the side - and that my mentioning it kinda bugged me only made him resolve to leave it there *pouts*. Darn you Doms!

I get this vision in my head about what I'd want a picture to come out looking like and it just bugs me when I can't check it and adjust as needed per shot I just have to hope they do it the way I want.

It's so easy to sit there and let him take my arms and hold them tight in place while he cuffs me, but so hard to let go of how I end up looking.

Of all the issues you could think of for giving up control I never thought I'd struggle with how my pictures look. Is it to picky of me to want pictures a certain way?

Ok, it was your second *real* bdsm session. I gather that you've controlled much of your scene, tying-up, what, and how pictures were taken, until then.

You're used to *photos and bondage* being all your own way that maybe you left out the submission bit? Or you may be terribly consumed with pictures and rather *absent* from the scene itself.

Have you ever thought of just doing all this stuff without a camera? Just doing it for the pleasure and experience of it? No record.

What would, or wouldn't, bother you if no-one was there, nor ever would see the experience?

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RE: My second time giving up.. - 1/10/2012 8:13:27 PM

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Not sure if anything would bother me, a lot of my misc bondage is unrecorded. Its the times where I have a picture in mind going into it that it would bug me if no camera were around.

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RE: My second time giving up.. - 1/11/2012 6:19:09 AM

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What I found that helps me is... when I look at the picture, I mentally take myself out of it and view it more as what he took the picture of, what was his focus in it, I think of how he is seeing me not how I am seeing myself... and find that I like the pictures a ton more thinking that way..

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