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thesubway7 -> New here! (1/8/2012 10:49:59 PM)
Hello everyone I'm new to this scene, though I've been interested for a while. I've had a few conversations on here so far, but most aren't real, or try getting me to sign up for ybsingle.com before we can 'go any further' The only legit woman I've talked to wants me to buy her an amazon card before she gets to know me. (I would if i could verify she is who she says) it's really disappointing. How can I find a mistress who'd want to 'break me in'? Are there no Dommes who are interested in just that? I'm a 21 year old male, and I know I could be a good sub if given the opportunity.

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: New here! (1/8/2012 11:26:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thesubway7 Hello everyone I'm new to this scene, though I've been interested for a while. I've had a few conversations on here so far, but most aren't real, or try getting me to sign up for ybsingle.com before we can 'go any further' The only legit woman I've talked to wants me to buy her an amazon card before she gets to know me. (I would if i could verify she is who she says) it's really disappointing. How can I find a mistress who'd want to 'break me in'? Are there no Dommes who are interested in just that? I'm a 21 year old male, and I know I could be a good sub if given the opportunity. Welcome to CollarMe, thesubway7. Searching takes a while, and yes, some of us enjoy breaking in newbies. Alas, I have found and collared my boy and will have to be satisfied with hunting down every last little virginity he has and then taking them, mwahahaha. I topped many bottoms from CM over the past eight years and have had several subs. Nobody paid tribute, nobody had to buy me an Amazon card. I met with all of them, and many more, IN PERSON. You have plenty of time to meet other kinksters at BDSM Munches, and time to learn through reading non-porn, non-fiction BDSM books like SM 101 by Jay Wiseman. When you look up munch groups in your area, be sure to see if there are any TNG ones listed. Those will have more young people, kinksters under 30, if that is your preference. It took me years to find the right sub. It took patience on my part...and he was worth the wait. Searching and topping newbies was fun too.

peppermint -> RE: New here! (1/8/2012 11:28:06 PM)
Get off the internet. Go to munches. Go to events. Wow the Dommes you meet with your great personality. One might like you enough to give you some experience subbing. I have seen several newbie young male subs who had more Dommes wanting to play with them than they had time available at the event. It's all in what you are willing to do to find that Domme you say you seek. Dommes do not grow on trees. It is up to you to do what is necessary to attract a dominant lady. If you are not willing to do what is necessary to attract a Domme, then perhaps you do not want it enough.

hangemhigh1953 -> RE: New here! (1/8/2012 11:34:51 PM)
Most people here will suggest reading the FAQ, so I'd start there. Second I'd say if you want someone to "break you in" a pro might be able to help you out. Or you could message local people and ask if they know any good munches or events for you to get out into the community and network. Take it from me, it's hard enough to find someone while you're out and about in the real life scene; searching ONLY online will probably net you some less than reputable people (I used to be friends with one of these people, they're covered in red flags) if anyone at all. Being out there will also show the online crowd that you're serious and dedicated and attract the right type of people.

thesubway7 -> RE: New here! (1/8/2012 11:44:35 PM)
Thanks for the replies! I'm sure a munch would be the best way to meet, but I want to dip my toes, ya know? Just the idea of submission is exhilarating, and I've always wanted to please more than be pleased. Was hoping someone wouldve been interested, and I could just dive right in, mentally. If it was as amazing as i'd hoped then i could pursue a physical path. @cynthia, what does TNG stand for if I may ask?

thesubway7 -> RE: New here! (1/8/2012 11:45:38 PM)
that was an "at" symbol btw, I'm not being disrespectful lol

FrostedFlake -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 3:06:44 AM)
TNG meas 'The Next Generation'. I am surprised that you missed it. Don't they teach Star Trek in high school anymore? @ is what happens on this site when you type a capitol 2. Keeps email addresses of the page, so the webcrawlers can't get them. A safety precaution. As the other three posters mentioned, online is only one resource. The real World is where real life happens. The site can be fun, interesting, helpful. It can also acquaint you with a variety of scammers. Fortunatly, there is a helpful red letter message above the mailbox reminding you to NOT send money. You can, of course, but why? If you want to experience 'something', that is why there are pros. If you want to experience 'someone', there is no reason to pull out your wallet before the waiter brings the check. Now, having blathered on long enough to feel like I did something, I will without further screwing around, throw your homework onto the table. http://www.askmen.com/money/successful/41_success.html http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_60/66b_success.html http://www.askmen.com/money/successful_100/117_success.html http://www.collarchat.com/m_1717756/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1717756 http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057095/tm.htm http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057123/tm.htm http://the1585.com/performativemasculinity.htm http://www.xtranormal.com/watch/8325689/the-meeting?page=1 http://gayglobeus.powweb.com/barbarella.html That should be of some help. Best wishes.

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 3:22:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thesubway7 Thanks for the replies! I'm sure a munch would be the best way to meet, but I want to dip my toes, ya know? Just the idea of submission is exhilarating, and I've always wanted to please more than be pleased. Was hoping someone wouldve been interested, and I could just dive right in, mentally. If it was as amazing as i'd hoped then i could pursue a physical path. @cynthia, what does TNG stand for if I may ask? Sorry I hadn't told you TNG in this instance stands for The Next Generation. I suppose someone was copying Star Trek TNG. It could very well have stood for Troublesome Nekkid Gentlemen... [;)]

Fornica -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 5:44:04 AM)
Um, sorry dear, but any of the chicks requesting "tribute" or amazon gift cards, etc...aren't looking for a relationship. They're looking for clients. Paying clients. quote: ORIGINAL: thesubway7 The only legit woman I've talked to wants me to buy her an amazon card before she gets to know me. (I would if i could verify she is who she says)

SadisticMs2 -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 6:37:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica Um, sorry dear, but any of the chicks requesting "tribute" or amazon gift cards, etc...aren't looking for a relationship. They're looking for clients. Paying clients. Agreed. If she's asking you to pay her for meeting you - it's a scam. A good pro wouldn't handle things in this manner - she'd be up front that she's a prodomme and not let you think there might be a relationship in it for you. If you're willing to pay for play, check out maxfisch for a local prodomme who is open about being a prodomme and will handle things in a professional manner. If you're not willing to pay for play - I'm going to put this bluntly. You ALWAYS pay for play in SOME way. Whether it's your cash, or it's your investment of time and energy by educating yourself and getting involved in your local scene and going through the whole dating/courtship ritual, you HAVE to invest something. It's your choice which route you go.

xxblushesxx -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 6:43:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica Um, sorry dear, but any of the chicks requesting "tribute" or amazon gift cards, etc...aren't looking for a relationship. They're looking for clients. Paying clients. quote: ORIGINAL: thesubway7 The only legit woman I've talked to wants me to buy her an amazon card before she gets to know me. (I would if i could verify she is who she says) I'll have to disagree. I'm looking for a relationship. With his wallet. [;)][:D]

peppermint -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 6:59:40 AM)
quote: I'm sure a munch would be the best way to meet, but I want to dip my toes, ya know? Let me clarify to you. If you go to munch you meet people. If the people like you they might invite you to a play party. If you go to a play party there will be people doing all kinds of kinky things there. IF you are nice and have made a good impression and IF you ask politely, someone might consider doing some of those kinky things to you. However, if you do not go to munch and meet people they will not invite you to play parties and you will not have any kinky experiences. It is really your choice. As I said, Dommes do not grow on trees. If you are expecting to pick one with no work on your part, then you will most likely be disappointed. It takes work to get what you want.

xxblushesxx -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 7:12:08 AM)
ponders asking Resident Sadist to make us a domme tree I get what you're saying Peppermint, and I do agree that a munch (or somesuch) is his best course of action, but he may still get said action even if he never attends one.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 9:42:37 AM)
Did anyone else read his profile. It says he is NOT looking for a realationship. He is NOT looking to meet someone. He is however looking for something online. I'm not even going to comment on what "dip my toes" translates to in my brain. Op, ask Blushes for a number off her "domme tree" I'm sure one of them will be able to help you. That is if you can afford it.

peppermint -> RE: New here! (1/9/2012 9:46:58 AM)
I do agree with you, blushes. My point is he needs to expand his search for a Domme beyond the internet. The internet is a great place to meet people for some. As a female submissive I located Doms in my area and could pick and choose from them. It's not the same for male submissives. They have to work harder at finding what they seek, and as a result need to use every resource available. The nice thing about play parties is that he'd get those experiences he's craving. At least where I go there is always someone willing to take newbies by the hand and give them the taste of a flogger, cane, or violet wand.

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