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What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/12/2012 8:22:53 PM   
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Hey there,
I'm relatively new in terms of actively seeking a Mistress. I've messaged a fair amount of people. Some immediately came off as fake (bad English, wanting money right away).
The Mistresses who have not responded seemed to be the ones who look the most real.
So my question is what am I supposed to say in the first message in order to get a response?
Thank you
Patrick
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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/12/2012 8:23:39 PM   
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Have you read the FAQ's in here?

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/12/2012 8:25:31 PM   
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No I didn't see them

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/12/2012 9:16:48 PM   
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First of all, read the How to Contact a Dominant Woman, one of the subsections of Ask a Mistress FAQ. I swear they're really good suggestions, and then go from there.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/12/2012 9:53:16 PM   
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Thanks!

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/12/2012 10:46:15 PM   
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Get used to the fact that the fakes will give you a 100% response rate and the real ones, maybe 5%.  And as politely as possible, rewrite your profile.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 12:03:02 AM   
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Hiya, Lameusername.

It is funny, and clever, in a self deprecating kind of way. But you might take DarkStevens' advice a little further. It might be a small part of the problem. I am not so nice as Steven. In any case, Hiya. And here is the rest of the "Welcome Aboard" package that NiceButMeanGirl didn't give you. I hope you find it helpful. Or at least of interest.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 12:11:52 AM   
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Forget about the concept of Mistress and dominant woman and start communicating with women, plain and simple.

You do have a mother and female friends and relatives, right? How do you communicate with them?

Mistresses and dommes are no different, they're still women. Try to get a grasp of who she is as an individual human being.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 2:23:46 AM   
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what Stella said

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 4:09:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lameusername

I'm relatively new in terms of actively seeking a Mistress. I've messaged a fair amount of people. Some immediately came off as fake (bad English, wanting money right away).  The Mistresses who have not responded seemed to be the ones who look the most real.
So my question is what am I supposed to say in the first message in order to get a response?



My first suggestion would be to stop referring to them as "Mistresses".  And when you write to them, don't call them "Mistress" in your introduction (unless their screen name is "Mistress ______" , in which case, you should use the entire title).

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 5:28:14 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: stellauk

Forget about the concept of Mistress and dominant woman and start communicating with women, plain and simple.

You do have a mother and female friends and relatives, right? How do you communicate with them?

Mistresses and dommes are no different, they're still women. Try to get a grasp of who she is as an individual human being.


Re communicating with Mother. A few quotes from the old dear.

Peter YOU NEED a strict woman.

Peter when are you going to find a woman who will keep you incheck?

Peter I don't know how women put up with you, they must like shouting a lot.

Peter why are you dating different women? Are you really good in bed or something?
Well Peter your Father was.

Peter I don't understand you young peoples obsession with sex, your Father & I only had it 3 or 4 times a week when we were in our 40's.

Oh Peter I found out what dogging is this week. Your father & I were doing that in the early 60's. In fact you were made in a Ford Prefect.

Needless to say the communicating with said mother is reduced to juvenile giggling most of the time.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 6:10:12 AM   
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Peter, I love your Mom.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 6:13:53 AM   
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Oi Forny she's the only woman who calls me that!

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 7:07:38 AM   
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I got nothing.

My mother is a VIRGIN.



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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 7:23:24 AM   
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omg, Niner!1 I love your Mom!!

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 7:53:40 AM   
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Cute Mom, Peter! I think you should keep her! (Grins)

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 8:41:05 AM   
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What you don't realise is the old dear is bloody serious when she comes out with this stuff.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 8:42:02 AM   
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I do realize that, IT'S THE BEST PART!!

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 8:46:41 AM   
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Does she know about your proclivities? If so you must get some really interesting stuff at Christmas.

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RE: What do I say in messages to a Mistress? - 1/13/2012 8:54:11 AM   
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Good question, don't know for sure but I suspect she thinks me a kinky fucker.

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