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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 7:42:16 AM

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Well, looks like you got some satin sheets to lie on,
Satin pillows to cry on,

Tonight, xxblushesxx sleeps with the maggots.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 7:45:19 AM

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Okay I was contemplating a possible punishment for a subslave particularly when they fall asleep on me whe they are not suppose to. The idea I had is that if they are so brazen as to fall asleep on me. They wake up in a locked coffin that I have stashed somewhere. This is for two reason one to make sure they never fall asleep on me again and two to have a good laugh as they start freaking out. I of course let them out after a few minutes or hours.

My second idea is when dealing with a very narcissisitic sub/slave that wont stop looking at them selves in the mirror and thus gets distracted from their tasks make them where a mask(for fixed period of time like a few hours in the day) or shave their head or both. Mind you I am new at this and I haven't decided to use these I as I fear the
potential repricussions.

If my girl were to fall asleep on me at inopportune times, I'd be finding out why she's not sleeping or whether she now needs more sleep than times past. Just not convinced that falling asleep quite rates as an overt act of defiance or disobedience.... <shrugs>

Hmmm, I like my girl to have long hair, so I don't think I'd wanna wait however many years it takes to grow back properly again after shaving it. And what's the biggy if she likes what she sees in the mirror? Does it mean she's not looking at you when she's sposta ('cause I'd make that one sting). Otherwise, I'd deal with the tasks that she's distracted from and generally make it my business that she focuses on me, *first*.

If you spend more time leading, you'll likely spend less time reacting. I've got the feeling she's not feeling the leadership and will likely do better with you in charge. Batter up!

Focus.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 7:54:22 AM

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Ha, the thing about bdsm I feel is that, even if it's extreme, that could be a woman out there who could dig this.
I'd post that in a journal or in your profile or something to test the waters to see if any females actually voices interest.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 7:57:43 AM

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Well, in a world of 7 billion, there is always someone gonna go for it. Thats why life works.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 8:04:52 AM

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Well OP, they are interesting, however, you must consider a lot of things.

First, why did they fall asleep? Are your expectations on them completely unreasonable? Are you asking someone who works 80 hours a week between their normal life, to stay up for 2 hours to listen to you speak? Are you being honest with their capabilities?

Second, What would these punishments gain you, the effect of punishment i assume is to change a behavior, what behavior would this change? Would it do anything other then simply break trust? Would it cause issues mentally for the submissive? What about her job, would doing something like shaving her head cause her to have issues at work?

Well the coffin idea was for if they fell asleep on me after like the first five minutes you know your enjoying a good foot rub or massage and then out of the blue it's like "Are you kidding me?"

If I woke up in a casket, it would the last time I woke up in your presence because you would never see me again. I don't tolerate stupid very well.

Do you even know if your sub is claustrophobic? Have you bothered to discuss limits and expectations? Or are you just punishing on a whim for the fun of it?

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 8:11:34 AM

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Well, in a world of 7 billion, there is always someone gonna go for it. Thats why life works.

Yea, the tough part is finding THAT ONE among the 7 billion.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 8:12:56 AM

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Well, whats your dirty little fantasy then?

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 8:20:43 AM

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Well, whats your dirty little fantasy then?

My biggest challenge is to find someone who can be content with the mildness I'm into.
It's always hard to find someone in between. Always too vanilla, or too hardcore.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 8:23:40 AM

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Well, in a world of 7 billion, there is always someone gonna go for it. Thats why life works.

Yea, the tough part is finding THAT ONE among the 7 billion.

CM helps with that

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 8:53:43 AM

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May I suggest a copy of "The Loving Dominant" (currently only available in Kindle version on Amazon; may be able to get paper on eBay or elsewhere.

Or SM 101.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 9:00:24 AM

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A thought for the OP
Bad doms punish-good doms inspire

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 9:00:58 AM

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Ha, the thing about bdsm I feel is that, even if it's extreme, that could be a woman out there who could dig this.

I don't think any woman would be into being punished for being so tired she falls asleep. I would actually view that as a "fail" for the D.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 9:01:37 AM

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perhaps he misread and thought it was vampire.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 9:20:18 AM

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It seems backwards to me to be concerned with thinking up possible punishments instead of thinking up positive ways to be a good leader. If you expect people to fail they generally do. I'll choose a positive person over a negative one every single time. To me, the problem isn't that your punishments are too extreme, it's that you want to punish at all.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 9:22:03 AM

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Dunno, I've got a buried alive interest, have a friend who was buried alive, mega jealous.

Subbie girls wouldn't get the nice casket anyways, just need some 2x4s and some rusty nails *jk*

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 9:45:42 AM

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I think that you should allow some to do it to you first....so that you truly understand what you are asking of them.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 10:27:26 AM

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Okay I was contemplating a possible punishment for a subslave particularly when they fall asleep on me whe they are not suppose to. The idea I had is that if they are so brazen as to fall asleep on me. They wake up in a locked coffin that I have stashed somewhere. This is for two reason one to make sure they never fall asleep on me again and two to have a good laugh as they start freaking out. I of course let them out after a few minutes or hours.

My second idea is when dealing with a very narcissisitic sub/slave that wont stop looking at them selves in the mirror and thus gets distracted from their tasks make them where a mask(for fixed period of time like a few hours in the day) or shave their head or both. Mind you I am new at this and I haven't decided to use these I as I fear the
potential repricussions.

Sooooo... you are boring, she is tired and you blame her? Not only are your punishments lacking in creativity and masterly common sense... they sound insane, lacking and comical if you really aren't insane and/or serious. While we cannot give you a clue... I do have to wonder if your submissive knows of your thoughts and if she has clue enough to escape you.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 12:52:10 PM

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I've got the feeling she's not feeling the leadership and will likely do better with you in charge.

I think she's more likely do better as far away from him as she can get.

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 1:06:27 PM

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If I were a carpenter,
and you were a sleepyhead,
would you fantasize anyway?
would you lay in my coffin?

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RE: Am I too extreme where punishment is concerned? - 1/16/2012 2:27:50 PM

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personally I like the idea of a coffin or any small enclosed space. I like boxes and closets and cages just as much so it wouldn't really even be a punishment for me but something that would relax me.

What I'm saying is that one person's punishment is another person's enjoyment so what you think may work as punishment for one just may not for another unless you're talking about "funishment" and in that case I can't give you any advice since we don't do "funishment". Punishments are not fun for me and he doesn't need to call it punishment to do whatever he wants with me for fun. He just does it.

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