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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 6:43:00 AM

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ooooh they work well on testicles tooooo!!!!

We have so much in common.

Evilly cackling.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 8:13:57 AM

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Ok, so suggestions for making this constructive? Call people on passive-aggression? Does it need to be addressed or is it just a note?

I seriously do not think there is an answer. In fact, I think that trying to stop aggression is what creates the added passive aggression. Women excel at it. Southern women have turned it into an art form.

The phrase 'Bless your heart' and all of it's variations, are a prime example.

The more you try to make people mannerly and civilized, the more passive aggression you will have. It's human behaviour.

I also believe it is up to us as individuals to decide whether or not we want to go there. Either take the easy road of less resistance and do it because we can, or take responsibility for ourselves, regardless of what our friends etc are doing. And, regardless of provocation.

I will readily admit it is something I've struggled with my whole adult life. It was bred into me as a coping mechanism when I was a little girl dealing with other, mean little girls. Most girls don't fly into fist fights, they use words and passive aggressive nastiness instead. My grandmother and great aunt also helped it along by constantly telling me things that ALWAYS started with "A lady doesn't........"

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 8:54:26 AM

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Southern women have turned it into an art form.

Why thank you. (Smiles) (Winks)

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 9:17:17 AM

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Southern women have turned it into an art form.

Why thank you. (Smiles) (Winks)

Oh you you you........sadist bitch!........made me snort laugh water up through and out my nose!

As least it is definitely clean now!

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 2:23:31 PM

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It was bred into me as a coping mechanism when I was a little girl dealing with other, mean little girls. Most girls don't fly into fist fights, they use words and passive aggressive nastiness instead. My grandmother and great aunt also helped it along by constantly telling me things that ALWAYS started with "A lady doesn't........"

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:00:32 PM

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Years ago a couple people here on CM directly called me on being PA. It was weird because I really had no idea and it caused me to look at how I was presenting myself, and make some changes. Several months ago someone made a passive aggressive remark toward me being passive aggressive. While I noticed the irony, I also again took a look at my words, as I do not want to communicate that way. It was unintentional that time, but PA none the less.

Have I noticed it more here lately? I can't say I have. Then again I frequently skip over posts from people who communicate like that so it's possible that I just haven't noticed.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:13:36 PM

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I was told the same thing. Though I know the why behind it. Once I stopped trying to please everyone else, life became so much simpler. These days, I have to please only 2... the man and myself. For a long time, I forgot about myself. I had a lot of trouble expressing the true me.... because I no longer knew who that was. Oh the growing pains I had when I stopped to find "me" again.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:17:43 PM

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Southern women have turned it into an art form.

Why thank you. (Smiles) (Winks)

Oh you you you........sadist bitch!........made me snort laugh water up through and out my nose!

As least it is definitely clean now!

OH NO! Bless your heart!!!

On the good side, your key board should be nice and clean, I do hope. After all, I am simply here to be helpful! (smiles)

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:18:34 PM

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I don't know if I have noticed passive-aggressive, but I have noticed that for some reason I keep having to force myself to be polite when I don't really want to be.

I will be polite....... to a point.

I am flattered that you both at least try and be me.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:21:52 PM

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You just had too, huh.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:22:56 PM

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You just had too, huh.

You wouldnt have me be any other way Tazzy.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:29:35 PM

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Have you seen http://www.passiveaggressivenotes.com/ ?

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:29:49 PM

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True Dat!!!!!!!!!

~smooches

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:40:01 PM

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I was told the same thing. Though I know the why behind it. Once I stopped trying to please everyone else, life became so much simpler. These days, I have to please only 2... the man and myself. For a long time, I forgot about myself. I had a lot of trouble expressing the true me.... because I no longer knew who that was. Oh the growing pains I had when I stopped to find "me" again.

I hear ya, about needing to be yourself. In my case they were right. Had I been ok with being PA it wouldn't have bothered me but I wasn't, so it did.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 4:44:14 PM

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Errrmmm... As long as you have the word sub in your name you need not worry about me trying to be you. You don't really have to worry about me being polite either. I said I try. I didn't say I actually get it done in the proper way

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/17/2012 5:09:25 PM

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Im him as long as other people are. I can only keep it up for so long.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/18/2012 1:55:44 AM

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I can only keep it up for so long.

Tazzy Tazzy Tazzy, I am so tempted to reply........lol

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/18/2012 1:59:22 AM

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My grandfather used to tell me " manners cost nothing"

I try and stay in polite mode for the most part, it is easier in real life than online though. Sometimes people say the most obnoxious things and i reply in kind, mostly on the P&R threads.

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/18/2012 6:09:10 AM

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ooooh they work well on testicles tooooo!!!!

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RE: Anyone else noticed.... - 1/18/2012 6:11:01 AM

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Grins made you safe out:) winks
I respect that:)