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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/24/2012 3:10:30 AM   
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Personally I don't believe in the 24/7 other than the relationship is 24/7. The things that were mentioned grocery shopping, working outside the home, cleaning, cooking well jesus everyone does that and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH D/s. Even if you were not in a D/s relationship you'd still have to cook, clean (well some people don't clean), get groceries, work a job or have some sort of income.


By "don't believe" do you mean it's what you believe is for you, or that you don't believe anybody does it? I mean, "24/7" isn't really about doing kinky things 24/7 - obviously that's unrealistic for the reasons you mention, plus I think you'd burn out if that was all you did every day - it's about the authority dynamic being there 24/7.


Exactly!
People are married 24/7, not just the few hours a day they spend together. I am a nurse 24/7, my degree is R.N. whether I am working or not.


Yep I said I do not believe in 24/7 other than the relationship---kinky sex does not happen 24/7 and even though you are an RN 24/7 you are not literally nursing 24/7 although I am sure you can fall into that role in a nanosecond if needed. Just a side note---in my relationship there is no 'authority dynamic.' There doesn't need to be and there never will be. He does make final decisions but he does not demand I do things if he asks me to do something I normally do it---if I had a vanilla partner and he asked me for something more than likely I would. If he asks me to do something outrageous (which I doubt he would I am just saying) I would not. My partner does not need to micromanage me or leave me lists or assign me tasks---I just do what I need to do---on my resume it says self starter able to work without supervision. Shrugs---I am an adult---I don't need an authority dynamic. In the bedroom, that's different I like being 'told' what to do. And we can't be in that room 24/7.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/24/2012 3:44:42 AM   
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having been in the slammer on a number of occasions I can tell you it is in all honesty AS BORING AS TOE JAM PICKING.


Yes. I imagine. No cage here. Only time I used a cage was the one at the Mark in Nashville, a beautiful 4x4 ft square steel bar cage, for a kink night use with tam but I cannot see using one at the house for just the reason you say. Most cages I assume are in dedicated play rooms rather than a functional part of the house and the relationship. I've read one Gorean Wolf guy suggest binding the girl all night at the foot of the bed, but I always thought "what fun is it to lay on the bed alone with your wonderful woman chained to the end of the bed?" I mean, really, how masterly is it to force both of you to sleep alone and both cold while she is in a cage or chained to the end of the bed, I roll my eyes thinking of it. Still, I'm probably not justified in thinking it does not occur, there are all kinds out there, even in a simple munch of twenty or so couples you might see some who you clearly know live on a different plane of existance.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/24/2012 3:50:22 AM   
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Personally I don't believe in the 24/7 other than the relationship is 24/7. The things that were mentioned grocery shopping, working outside the home, cleaning, cooking well jesus everyone does that and it has NOTHING TO DO WITH D/s. Even if you were not in a D/s relationship you'd still have to cook, clean (well some people don't clean), get groceries, work a job or have some sort of income.


By "don't believe" do you mean it's what you believe is for you, or that you don't believe anybody does it? I mean, "24/7" isn't really about doing kinky things 24/7 - obviously that's unrealistic for the reasons you mention, plus I think you'd burn out if that was all you did every day - it's about the authority dynamic being there 24/7.


Exactly!
People are married 24/7, not just the few hours a day they spend together. I am a nurse 24/7, my degree is R.N. whether I am working or not.


Yep I said I do not believe in 24/7 other than the relationship---kinky sex does not happen 24/7 and even though you are an RN 24/7 you are not literally nursing 24/7 although I am sure you can fall into that role in a nanosecond if needed. Just a side note---in my relationship there is no 'authority dynamic.' There doesn't need to be and there never will be. He does make final decisions but he does not demand I do things if he asks me to do something I normally do it---if I had a vanilla partner and he asked me for something more than likely I would. If he asks me to do something outrageous (which I doubt he would I am just saying) I would not. My partner does not need to micromanage me or leave me lists or assign me tasks---I just do what I need to do---on my resume it says self starter able to work without supervision. Shrugs---I am an adult---I don't need an authority dynamic. In the bedroom, that's different I like being 'told' what to do. And we can't be in that room 24/7.



Don't you thnk "kinky" is an attitude and outlook that accents but does not dominate and control the 24/7 relationship? Is it not a subconcious desire to spice a couple's life up in little ways mostly accented by private and sometimes public kink sessions but not a slave running around 24/7 in slave garb and collar?

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/24/2012 8:25:17 AM   
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While it is true that I would have had to do those things anyway. I would not necessarily do them the same as I did when I was living with my Mistress 24/7. If I am living alone, I don't have to worry about what she wants for dinner, I could cook what ever I wanted or not cook at all. I don't have to worry about coming straight home from work, I could make plans on the spur of the moment and run with it. I wouldn't have to worry about leaving something to the next day to clean. I wouldn't have to discuss my job decisions with anyone, I would just make them on my own. If I went to the grocery store, I wouldn't have to take her preferences into account, I could buy what ever struck my fancy. Now I didn't trot off to Krogers on the end of a leash, but you better believe I kept her wants in the front of my mind when I was there. Evcn on the days she stayed home.


This is why I believe online only is so very very different from RL - all of these factors come into play when you actually live with someone. Having a yummy fantasy looping in your head is one thing, but having to actually change behaviors is another.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/24/2012 3:39:32 PM   
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Don't you thnk "kinky" is an attitude and outlook that accents but does not dominate and control the 24/7 relationship? Is it not a subconcious desire to spice a couple's life up in little ways mostly accented by private and sometimes public kink sessions but not a slave running around 24/7 in slave garb and collar?
I guess I am not following you ...again other than the fact that I love my partner 24/7 and we have a relationship (vanilla type) 24/7 for me that is all I believe exists. I do not follow orders from him 24/7 I am not having kinky sex 24/7---I do not even feel submissive 24/7.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/26/2012 7:02:35 PM   
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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/30/2012 2:30:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		thank you for answer my thoughts. yes it is difficult to get it work in real life and it is not so practical. but anything goes if you want it. caged all day onley if some one like that it is rather extrem and a caged person is not to any use for its owner but it is more like a piece of art. a farm that should make the owner rich is like you wrote hard to get working to day with all machines but it can be self suported to survival. there is diffrent kind of buisness that can be sucessful with this type of lifestyle and not all is breaking the laws. and we dont want to break the laws because that can make realy big and public problems for the involved people.
why all this thoughts ? i feel when working as an employed that i serve an other boss at that time and thinks of doing my best at all time for the boss not the owner even if owner is in mind and take all income.

everybody most have seen the dance moves in pulp fiction.
this life 24/7 style can be lived many diffrent way and it is not all that an make that in reality and it doesent have to be like i was thinking of. and i am pleased that not all of you think like me what an boring world we whould have got if everybody liked the samething. I heve experience from this lifestyle before but not like this extrem i was asking about. and i liked serving in a house.
i am happy for all of you and wish everyone to find there thing in life.


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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/30/2012 7:48:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		no, come on, except for the cage, this is the average marriage experience for a woman. she is expected to do everything for him, and she absolutely is legally property -- it is only very recently that all 50 states made it illegal to rape one's wife. The origin of "Mrs" is "Mr's," as in "belonging to Mr."

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 1/30/2012 8:53:17 PM   
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no, come on, except for the cage, this is the average marriage experience for a woman. she is expected to do everything for him, and she absolutely is legally property -- it is only very recently that all 50 states made it illegal to rape one's wife. The origin of "Mrs" is "Mr's," as in "belonging to Mr."





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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/1/2012 8:11:17 AM   
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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/1/2012 8:14:29 AM   
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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 7:40:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's an exciting idea but I don't think it would work for me and my husband. There is too much other stuff to do. Yes I find opportunities to "serve" by doing things like paying bills and going to the store and giving him back massages etc, but I don't feel really submissive doing those things as they have to be done anyway.
I'm sure there are some who take it a lot further but day to day things still have to be done.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 7:43:36 AM   
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It's an exciting idea but I don't think it would work for me and my husband. There is too much other stuff to do. Yes I find opportunities to "serve" by doing things like paying bills and going to the store and giving him back massages etc, but I don't feel really submissive doing those things as they have to be done anyway.
I'm sure there are some who take it a lot further but day to day things still have to be done.


You can be D/s 24/7 without doing BDSM 24/7. We are 24/7. He is always the leader in this house, whether we are behaving in a vanilla manner or kinky manner.


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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 7:49:21 AM   
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He is always the leader in this house, whether we are behaving in a vanilla manner or kinky manner.



A lot of this is a matter of perspective. One person may see their relationship as 24/7 D/s and to another it is just a traditional marriage with a strong head of household. Which is fine however someone chooses to view their relationship.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 8:18:34 AM   
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Okay, I'm sure I am echoing what has already been stated, but this is largely a definitional issue, and I think two people in an on-going relationship are free to define their dynamics however they wish, and use the term 24/7 to describe that. The term has no fixed meaning, other than perhaps that there may be aspects of BDSM relationship dynamic outside of the bedroom (but what aspects, when, how, etc. still to be determined by those involved).

With that said, what the OP describes doesn't seem particularly realistic. There are many people doing 24/7 in the BDSM world. It is completely a realistic possibility. Just not what the OP describes. In fact, Pulp Fiction is actually more realistic than what the OP describes, and that is really saying something.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 10:28:18 AM   
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A lot of this is a matter of perspective. One person may see their relationship as 24/7 D/s and to another it is just a traditional marriage with a strong head of household. Which is fine however someone chooses to view their relationship.

For Carol and I, because we aren't really kinky this becomes very apparent... I can view our marriage either way equally easily. If we go out to eat, I lay clothes out for Carol to wear. Is that "kinky D/s" or "head of household"?? I don't know. Does it matter? I have a woman who's willing to wear/do whatever I want to please me. The label only really matters for communication purposes with others.


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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 3:11:10 PM   
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Is that "kinky D/s" or "head of household"?? I don't know. Does it matter? I have a woman who's willing to wear/do whatever I want to please me.


It's a good thing no matter how you look at it

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 2/29/2012 5:45:05 PM   
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It's a good thing no matter how you look at it

ROFLCOPTER... yeah. That's about how I see it. I find it amazingly easy to be magnanimous about whether or not we're true this or that given the position I'm sitting in.

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 3/4/2012 7:04:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I beleive in theory 24/7 could work, however it depends on the personalities, the lifestyles of those involved.

The issues arise when people have awful distractions like work, and social lives (damn these useless time wasting activities :) )

In my case for example i work full time, my girl works full time, so we get home and we tired, no matter if you train someone till you blue in the face human beings are not made of strong enough parts to keep you in a 24/7 scenario, after having colleegues, customers, kids etc (depending on where you work etc) yell, scream, argue all day

This is not to say that 24/7 can not work, however you need alot to go in your favour and have people who can keep it going and want no vanilla aspects, which i persoally like teh vanilla along with the ds

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RE: is 24/7 possible - 3/5/2012 6:58:20 AM   
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