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monkeypain1984 -> Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:19:17 PM)
After being emailed by a few different Masters tonight i find myself wondering what's what. They wanted me to play with them online and possibly meet up which is fine as my Master knows there's things id like to try that he's not into. When i asked them to talk to my Master first to make sure he was ok with it most said yes and asked my Master. One however took what seemed to be great delight in telling me that im the " **** and slut and that i should ask him not him" as he then proceded to call me and my Master. So i guess my question is this.....Is it for a subbie or slave to ask her Master about another Dom or Master wanting to play wiht her or is she right in thinking it should be the Master or Dom? Id like to point out at this point that i had already asked my Master but wanted to know what the other Masters or Doms would say as i think it shows respect to my Master if they do ask. Pest xx

Fornica -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:20:50 PM)
I'll have to check in the manual. brb Also..I'm guessing they are all online, eh? You said the ones emailing you are, is your "Master" as well?

angelikaJ -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:22:02 PM)
There isn't one way to do this; there is not one right way: what is right in your situation will be what you and your master have worked out between the 2 of you

mrboo -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:25:47 PM)
as your owned you dont have the final say so your right. always down to ask if you can play with someones slave

poise -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:25:50 PM)
Whichever way your master prefers is the correct way.

NyxPontia -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:26:03 PM)
[sm=agree.gif] Personally, I would feel better if the Masters discussed it, as long as I was informed of the going-ons after. That being said, I'm not one to be shared, but more power to you for standing by what you want.

monkeypain1984 -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:27:33 PM)
My is on collar me but we live together and are married. So they could have asked but i guess its each to their own.

littlewonder -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:28:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Whichever way your master prefers is the correct way. This

monkeypain1984 -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:29:00 PM)
My Master does prefer it the same way i do, that the Masters ask him first.

RexDarcy -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 2:56:09 PM)
If your dom perfers the other doms talk to him first, that's the way it should be. If anybody that you or your dom are considering you doing stuff with has issues with that, I suggest moving along to the next email.

Epytropos -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 4:04:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: poise Whichever way your master prefers is the correct way. This. This in all matters and circumstances whatsoever.

DarkSteven -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 4:18:12 PM)
If you and your Master have an established protocol that he must be consulted, then it is very rude and disrespectful of them to try to weasel around that.

lizi -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 4:43:00 PM)
Look at it this way....why do you owe some stranger on the internet anything beyond being polite and courteous? Giving them anything beyond standard manners means you are choosing their control over your Dom. So go by whatever you and your man decide and that's the end of it. If someone argues it just move on, seems like someone that wouldn't suit you anyway, right?

LadyPact -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/21/2012 10:01:17 PM)
Have a look at it from the other way around. Of course, what has been established in your own dynamic is how things are going to be. Let's say that I'm the person that comes along who wants to play with you. I don't know your dynamic. Wouldn't the smartest thing that I could do be to ask the person in charge?

kalikshama -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/22/2012 7:30:14 AM)
The naivety underlying this question prompts me to ask what safety measures you are using when you hook up with these so called Masters?

Fornica -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/22/2012 7:36:55 AM)
I was askeered to ask that same thing.

DesFIP -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/22/2012 8:39:17 AM)
Whichever way you want to do it is fine. Just remember, that when you tell other people they have to get his approval, most of them will decide it's not worth the effort. I suggest that you join your local kinky community, and attend public play parties. That way you can get to know who is a reputable top in whatever it is you want to explore and you will be assured that if the guy tries to do something you told him not to do, there will be a DM to stop him.

monkeypain1984 -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/22/2012 8:48:16 AM)
I was a regular at munches and clubs around lancashire at one stage but due to one thing and another and then moving down south we haven't started going to any of the ones close by yet.

kalikshama -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/22/2012 8:55:29 AM)
quote: I suggest that you join your local kinky community, and attend public play parties. That way you can get to know who is a reputable top in whatever it is you want to explore and you will be assured that if the guy tries to do something you told him not to do, there will be a DM to stop him. [sm=agree.gif] quote: Original: monkeypain1984 I was a regular at munches and clubs around lancashire at one stage but due to one thing and another and then moving down south we haven't started going to any of the ones close by yet. Worth the bother, don't you think?

monkeypain1984 -> RE: Master/Dom or sub/slave?? (1/22/2012 8:58:14 AM)
Yes, not many clubs in our local area seem to cope for people in a wheelchair though, 70% of the time im stuck in a wheelchair due to an accident i had at a club in manchester. maybe i will look at starting my own up. I know 90% of clubs and munches in the uk dont have access for wheelchair users.

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