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Help with a "task" ? - 1/21/2012 10:10:06 PM   
Blonde18sub


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Status: offline 		Hey,

So I'm sur ethis in the wrong place or something, (sorry in advance but hey I'm lazy and don't want to search), but I was wondering if anyone had advice for me. My Dom has been wanting me to get a threesome together (with another girl, she has to submit to him but may have control over me if she wants), for like 3 years now. He has pretty much given up, as none of my friends will do it, and I don't know how to find someone who will. But the guilt has been building up in me and I feel horrible. I really, really, really want to find a girl to make him happy.

To complicate things further, I've moved away for school, and will only be home for 1 week in february, so I don't have time to look when I'm there. Incase it matters, I am in Winnipeg MB, he is near Toronto ON.

So does anyone have advice as to how I can find a REAL, ATTRACTIVE, SUBMISSIVE/VANILLA, WILLING, female to join us?

I have tried craigslist, okcupid, fetlife, collarme.... No real luck so far :(

Thanks,

Amanda
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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/21/2012 10:34:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		The woman you are seeking is fondly called a unicorn around here.  The reason she is called that is due to her rarity.  There are not many women willing to be some established couple's playtoy on call so that they can spice up their sex life.  Many couples have looked for many years longer than 3 to find their unicorn, and those couples were offering a loving relationship, not an on call threesome. 

Search the poly forum with the term "unicorn"" and you will find more advice as to how to better find yours. 

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/21/2012 10:36:06 PM   
Blonde18sub


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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 12:10:21 AM   
ResidentSadist


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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 5:54:46 AM   
Fornica


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You're looking for a (sorry to be crass) hole. Not an actual woman, with you know, feelings and stuff. Just someone to get your boyfriend's rocks off. Almost every person with a dick wants a harem of chicks to fuck and worship him..very few women want to be the "fetish delivery system". Because what's in it for her, other than being used?
Hire one.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 5:56:45 AM   
Fornica


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PPS~I live near you, but I'm too tired and old to join your manage a trois.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 6:09:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Fornica

very few women want to be the "fetish delivery system".

Just to clarify, because I wear the title proudly in my signature.
I am only HIS fetish delivery service extraordinaire. I iz not a swut!

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 6:15:47 AM   
lizi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Blonde18sub

Hey,

So I'm sur ethis in the wrong place or something, (sorry in advance but hey I'm lazy and don't want to search), but I was wondering if anyone had advice for me. My Dom has been wanting me to get a threesome together (with another girl, she has to submit to him but may have control over me if she wants), for like 3 years now. He has pretty much given up, as none of my friends will do it, and I don't know how to find someone who will. But the guilt has been building up in me and I feel horrible. I really, really, really want to find a girl to make him happy.

To complicate things further, I've moved away for school, and will only be home for 1 week in february, so I don't have time to look when I'm there. Incase it matters, I am in Winnipeg MB, he is near Toronto ON.

So does anyone have advice as to how I can find a REAL, ATTRACTIVE, SUBMISSIVE/VANILLA, WILLING, female to join us?

I have tried craigslist, okcupid, fetlife, collarme.... No real luck so far :(

Thanks,

Amanda


Amanda, honestly read over the quote above and tell me if this is something that would appeal to you? As in being the woman who is there to provide entertainment to people she doesn't know because a woman wants to give her bf a good time? The unicorn doesn't know your bf and I'm sure isn't as caring as you are about his emotional well-being so she's not really attracted by the thought of doing a favor, involving herself, for a stranger.

As others have mentioned you're offering sex, that's it. I have to ask you, what woman has a hard time finding that? You should know it's easy enough to get fucked any time of the day - you don't even have to shower or fix yourself up. I could probably stand in my front yard in sweaty exercise clothes and find someone willing to do the job inside of 10 minutes and I'm an old bat.

I'm not disparaging anyone's fantasy or sexual desire but you're asking for something like it's disconnected from the whole person or like it's a unique experience.

I'm sure this is overthinking things and you've covered this, but have you thought about the errrr cleanliness of someone you meet on a message board? If someone IS interested in your offer how do you know she's not been with a minor league basketball team minutes before showing up on your doorstep? I'd almost prefer a professional, after all they'd take their health risks seriously. That's just me.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 6:37:46 AM   
Fornica


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ORIGINAL: poise


I iz not a swut!



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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 6:45:04 AM   
poise


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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 7:07:16 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Hi Amanda,

I've been mentally reviewing my relationship and hookup history with bi women and found a common theme - I wasn't looking for them, they fell into my lap. My formula seems to be: meet bi or heteroflexible women, add alcohol, and respond positively when they start kissing me.

We've met at school, while hitchhiking separately on an on-ramp, at a company Christmas party, at an ashram, when she came in to apologize for making too much noise with my roommates the night before, at the beach, and through guy friends.

I have hooked up at swing clubs but quickly realized that's not my scene.

BTW, I have no respect for a Dom who uses a woman as girl bait, which is now a hard limit for me.

Have you tried SDC? Let me know if it's active in Canada.

Good luck,

KK

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 8:35:29 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Find him an escort service and tell him to hire one.
The idea of you being obligated to proposition all your friends, and lose the respect of all your friends, is just disgusting.

I strongly suggest you rethink whether or not this guy deserves the effort you're putting into this. He's supposed to be the leader in the relationship, why isn't he going out trolling?


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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 10:22:20 AM   
Blonde18sub


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Status: offline 		What is SDC? I've never heard of it.

I have considered hiring one. I am in Winnipeg though, not Toronto, so I am limited to the internet (or setting it up the week that I am home). I have NO IDEA how to find a hooker online. I tried google (don't laugh), no luck. If anyone has any concrete experience or suggestions I would love to hear them.

I realize I'm asking for a lot and offering very little. With that being said, I'm open to whatever the girl wants. For example I've had a few bi girls (who were probably 40 year old men) say that they would want to do things with me, or Domme me. (He doesn't care if I don't even look at her when it happens) But I offered to let them, for their sake. We are both open to letting her explore whatever kinks or fantasies she has, we don't just want to stick him in her and kick her out. But it is a one time deal.

And it's complicated over whether he deserves it. He asked me 3 years ago, and I promised (not realizing how difficult it would be). I feel so guilty because I know it's been on his mond for 3 years and it's something he really wants. He has already said I don't have to (as it's clearly stressing me out), but it's something I feel that I need to do in order to let it go. Otherwise it will be on my mind and I will feel guilty. It's sad I know, please don't preach self respect or anything, it's just how I feel about it.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 10:44:06 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		Sweetie, if you can't be arsed to google, I'm not willing to put any more effort into you.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 11:31:15 AM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		Everyone seems to be making this a little harder than it should be. It doesn't strike me that you are really looking for a "unicorn" What you are looking for is an easy piece of tail. Go where most others go to find them....a bar, a club, the campus lounge, etc. Even in this day of health and safety horney young college kids are not hard to find geeez.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 11:57:09 AM   
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Everyone seems to be making this a little harder than it should be. It doesn't strike me that you are really looking for a "unicorn" What you are looking for is an easy piece of tail. Go where most others go to find them....a bar, a club, the campus lounge, etc. Even in this day of health and safety horney young college kids are not hard to find geeez.


But she wants to do it on the interwebz....it must be easier that way.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 12:31:23 PM   
Fornica


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Status: offline 		Yeah..prearranging an official threesome is apparently more difficult than asking the skank next to you if she wants to go home and blow your bf.

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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 12:42:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Blonde18sub
I have NO IDEA how to find a hooker online. I tried google (don't laugh), no luck. If anyone has any concrete experience or suggestions I would love to hear them.

http://toronto.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/


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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 1:18:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Fornica

Yeah..prearranging an official threesome is apparently more difficult than asking the skank next to you if she wants to go home and blow your bf.


A little warning next time, eh? I'm choking on my salad.......


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RE: Help with a "task" ? - 1/22/2012 1:20:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Fornica

Yeah..prearranging an official threesome is apparently more difficult than asking the skank next to you if she wants to go home and blow your bf.


A little warning next time, eh? I'm choking on my salad.......



I guess it's better than choking on the salad you are tossing.  *ahem*.


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